To feel murderous about being woken at 5am

[BlondeDogLady]

I have to be up for work at 630am, 7 days a week.

I realised yesterday, that today, I was able to have a very rare lie in, until 745am. Yey!

I decided to treat myself last night, and have a few drinks that I had been gifted for Christmas. Miniature vodka and gin sets.

At 5am, my DH woke me up and started talking to me about the fact that I was snoring (I do snore when I've had a drink). He went on and on, and in the end I had to leave the bedroom for some peace - and I went to sleep in the spare room.

Once I am awake, I find it really hard to go back to sleep - he knows this.

When he got up for work at 630am, he came in to the spare room, and woke me again (I had just drifted back off).

Upshot was, that I was up for the day at my normal time, and I am seething!

Due to his shift pattern, he will get a lie in, this coming Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday.

My next possible lie in, is the 26th February.

AIBU to be royally pissed off? I am SO fucking tired. And I am so mad at him for this. I know it might seem petty, but I feel as though he has robbed me of the one morning I could have enjoyed a bit of extra time in bed.

@steppemum

Funny enough, on Friday he will drink and snore all night, with no thought about the fact that I have to be up at 6.30am on Saturday morning. I'm tempted to go on to Amazon and buy a Klaxon.

wake him up, 6/7/8/25 times during the night if necessary.
then when you get up at 6:30, turn on light, open curtains, put on radio, pull back duvet etc etc

I am going to do this. I might even get a pot and wooden spoon on stand by in the bedroom.

@Cherrysoup

Sleep separately. He sounds like a selfish wanker-he did zero night wakings when the dc were babies? And woke you up AGAIN, even tho you’d swapped rooms? I’d go nuts. I swap rooms every night so as not to disturb my DH, if he came to wake me up I’d be so upset.

He is DH number 2, not the same man, ha ha.

@SoItWas

You don't have a snoring problem. You have a dh problem. He sounds selfish, inconsiderate and spiteful.

I disagree. The op knows she snores when drinking and could've slept in the spare room.

She woke him up with the snoring which would make me angry too, especially if I had an assessment at work that day.

Now everyone is encouraging her to wake him up early every day. Is that not spiteful?

He was being a knob.

Tell him that if you are snoring he should go in the spare room without waking you.

Find a time for a serious but calm talk about his lack of consideration and how it upset you.

So you have married 2 awful men.

Is this really someone you want to spend your future with?

There is something about snoring that fills me with a rage and level of unreasonableness never normally experienced. My partner also snores when he has had a drink and even though the reasonable part of my brain knows that he can’t help it and isn’t keeping me up on purpose. However the half asleep part of me gets cross with him and slams doors the following morning so I do get it

I would also be furious. Wake him up on his rest days.

But you woke him up initially when had to get up at 6:30am....

It was childish of him to 'get his own back' by coming into the spare room when he did but it's not all his fault

Why do you not just go to bed earlier?

@WorstXmasEver

I take it you don't have children at all...Mine wake me up every night for anything from a cuddle, juice or a nappy change.

What's that got to do with anything? It's not about you?

Due to his shift pattern, he will get a lie in, this coming Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday.

No he absofuckinglutely won't!
Wake him up as soon as you wake up and tell him all about his existant or otherwise snoring. Tell him how you wish you could have as many lie ins as he has. It must be sooo nice to sleep undisturbed.

Ah, the standard MN recourse for resolving marital disagreement: revenge.