Long story short. I was in a very controlling abusive relationship with my sons dad until early last year. There was cheating, manipulating, verbal and physical abuse, gambling, prostitutes, drugs… basically any awful thing a person can do he did it.
My family (mum, stepdad and brother) were aware of all this and supported me throughout. At my worst point I broke down to my mum and brother. I told them at my most vulnerable point that I felt trapped. Like I couldn’t leave him as I’d been co-erced into having my ds (who, don’t get me wrong I love to the ends of the earth and wouldn’t be without). I told them I couldn’t be a single parent again, I’d have to give up my career I didn’t feel able to bring up another child on my own so I felt tied to this piece of shit for the foreseeable. They told me they would support me in any way they can. Practical things like getting ds to nursery in the mornings (as I worked unsociable shifts- nurse in nhs), so nursery opens at 7.30 am for example when my shift starts at 7.30 am. They said they would have ds between them when I worked long days or weekends. I NEVER asked for any of this nor expected it. How ever with their promises of support o found the strength to kick him out and focus on being a single mum. Fast forward almost a year following many disciplinary meetings and failure to turn up to my shifts I’ve now lost my job, my sons dad has nothing to do with him and I’m all alone. The promises to help lasted a few weeks. My brother sees ds a few times a month for an hour or so and my mum hasn’t seen or spoken to him since November. I just feel utterly let down. I feel if they hadn’t made these false promises, I’d be still living with a scumbag however it would have been entirely a co parenting thing and I’d have been able to continue my career etc. My son is obviously more important than any of that. I’m just left with nothing. No job, no co parent, no family really. I’m just fed up. Don’t know what I’m posting for I have nobody to speak to really