I am currently flat sharing with a friend and it’s really nice. However there are a few things that have got to me that make me feel a bit drained and want to distance myself from her a little bit, and I don’t know if I’m being mean.
First of all the space - I understand that it’s fun living with a friend and of course I’d like to do stuff, but she’s often at the door as soon as I arrive to greet me, asking what I’m doing, talking to me from outside whilst I’m in my room etc.
I also invited my friend P round for a catch up and, whilst they’ve met before and of course had a chat and a hello, she kind of overtook the night. My housemate also had her friend B round (who I’ve never met). My housemate proceeded to sit in the middle of me and P on the sofa and it became a 4-way conversation for the rest of the night. It just felt as if I had no chance to catch up with P myself as she did come to see me after all. During this she also decided to blurt out to her friend B that I suffer with anxiety.
She also attempts to sit with me and my boyfriend all night (who is round once or twice a week) and makes jokes about third wheeling - of course is nice that she wants to get to know him but we also sometimes want alone time.
She also has had a few instances where she’s gone out drinking and loses things - also calling me and l burst into my room at 3am (when I had to be up at 6 for work).
Sometimes she will point out as well that I’m “having loads of fun” sarcastically if I am not talking much and just sat listening to the conversation.
I just feel a bit overwhelmed and don’t know if I’m being a bit mean? I have distanced myself a little bit and she told me she’s been crying etc so I just don’t know if I’m being a bit mean.