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To revenge hoover?

56 replies

Pregnagainagain · 30/01/2022 08:13

I have 2 under 18 months so might be over sensitive to lack of sleep. My NDN had a party until 5am last night, I could hear her shout talking over the music all night. The babies never woke (amazingly), well the youngest did but just for feeds, however I couldn’t get back off after each feed due to the noise and worrying about it waking the kids. WIBU do aggressively hoover into my skirting boards against the upstairs wall where there bedrooms adjoin as soon as I’ve sorted my toddlers breakfast?
I understand that my babies make noise sometimes but it’s not intentional and definitely not all night, actually I do everything I can to make sure there is little or no noise when other are sleeping.

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makkapacca · 30/01/2022 08:55

Why didn't you ring council/cops/go over?

Having said that I am in London and had experience of this, the cops won't come out and tell you to ring council. You ring council and they won't answer either ands you have to loge a complaint which can't be processed for days so they are no immediate help.

I'd have went over and said something. I have before and it's worked and no I don't agree with posters who say it was only 1 night etc. Part of the joys of communal living be it in an estate or house share is you parley all noise between 11-7 which is living within reason.

If you don't like it then move to the country or an isolated zone. Can't afford to-well I can't afford a Merc and drive a clapped out 05 Citroen- c'est la vie.

SockFluffInTheBath · 30/01/2022 08:57

@IwishICouldTurnBackTime

A crying baby and a party/drunk people ringing on your bell in the middle of the night are totalling different things, and don't let anyone try to tell you otherwise! Angry
Yes, because a party doesn’t generally happen every single night for months/years on end.
WetLookKnitwear · 30/01/2022 08:58

I hope she isn’t a boozehound who does this on the regular op.

I would be really pissed off too and I totally understand your instinct to get revenge but I think it’s a bad idea, don’t do it! If she’s an unreasonable person who knows what kind of antisocial bullshit you could get into.

FirewomanSam · 30/01/2022 09:02

If she’s only recently moved in then I’d let it go, but say something if it becomes a regular occurrence.

I was furious when my new neighbour had a loud party until 5am during one of the lockdowns and was convinced this was going to be a regular thing, but it hasn’t happened since. I then met him and he turned out to be the sweetest young lad and he has actually helped me out with a few things. I’m so glad I didn’t jump the gun and kick off at him as soon as it happened, and that we can have a good relationship now.

Plus I figure I’d rather have a neighbour who makes noise occasionally so that I don’t feel guilty about my dog barking or if I want to have a get-together myself!

Dreamstate · 30/01/2022 09:04

Well if its a one off whats thr problem she's are non children houses supposed to just live quietly. I have neighbours with one child and every morning at 6am im woken up cos they are that loud!

And theb it didn't even wake your babies so no harm done in the end.

Chill out and dont go bang your vacuum again the wall.

Let people live in their houses!

Id understand if it happened every night but you don't say it does.

ThinWomansBrain · 30/01/2022 09:09

who needs revenge hoovering when you've got revenge babies/toddlers on the loose?

Useranon1 · 30/01/2022 09:10

Did you pop over and ask her to keep it down?

shivermetimbers77 · 30/01/2022 09:10

I admire your restraint OP, I would have been around there at 3 or 4am telling them to please turn it down!

Hesma · 30/01/2022 09:23

I feel your pain but it’s one party and didn’t disturb your kids. I think maybe your overtired and responding accordingly. I’d let it drop this once for the sake of neighbourliness and hope it’s not a regular occurrence.

Quackpot · 30/01/2022 09:24

Nursery rhymes on full tilt all morning. Don't forget to sing along.

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 30/01/2022 09:28

@IwishICouldTurnBackTime

A crying baby and a party/drunk people ringing on your bell in the middle of the night are totalling different things, and don't let anyone try to tell you otherwise! Angry
I'm with sock and would rather live next to an occasional 5am party person than a screaming baby.

Op, the fact you think you make hardly any noise means I know you do.

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Pregnagainagain · 30/01/2022 09:35

I couldn’t go because I was on my own and didn’t want to leave my house when I had my toddler asleep and my 4 month old next to me, where she sleeps all night and I get to her immediately so that there is no noise during the night

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Pregnagainagain · 30/01/2022 09:37

I completely understand people saying I probably make noise, I make every effort to be as considerate at possible. I’m just worried this is going to be an ongoing thing

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MsSquiz · 30/01/2022 09:39

I would be annoyed but let it go if it was a one off.
You didn't go round and ask her to turn it down at any point and I doubt your hoovering would wake her anyway.

Also, just to point out, the police won't do anything about noise on private property in this situation (I know from experience of having issues with a neighbour of ours)

LimeSegment · 30/01/2022 09:47

Sorry OP but with a four month old and a toddler, there is no such thing as "no noise ever". Even the best behaved and most quickly tended to children make noise at that age. If your toddler genuinely never makes noise, please write a parenting book and you will make millions.

I wouldn't creep around or anything, if I needed to vacuum I would, but I'd let it go if it was a once off.

Ponoka7 · 30/01/2022 09:48

I had the issue of drunk/drugged people knocking on my door mistaking my house for a neighbour's. I started answering the door with a hammer in my hand going batshit, it stopped. I'd wait and see if it happens again. Then I'd have a word and if it's going to be regular, I'd go to environmental health. You can have a good time and it ends at 1am. Bloody selfish to party in a house till 5.

Ponoka7 · 30/01/2022 09:52

"Sorry OP but with a four month old and a toddler, there is no such thing as "no noise ever". Even the best behaved and most quickly tended to children make noise at that age."

Not if you co-sleep. My children and GC slept through from around 14 months. You can't complain about reasonable day time noise. This is a new neighbour, she hasn't lived with disturbed nights from the OP. You can't justify house parties till 5, except NY.

LimeSegment · 30/01/2022 10:07

My dc slept through from 6 months and are generally well behaved but they aren't robots, they still make noise at times. Waking up early, squealing at the table, laughing loudly while playing, fighting when the game has gone wrong.

And no you can't or wouldn't actually complain about reasonable day time noise, but you can still hear it and be a little annoyed. I'm just saying keep it in mind.

silentpool · 30/01/2022 10:26

If you have an Alexa, install the Brown noise skill. If there is a party, turn it up. That's what I do and I hear nothing.

I'm pretty sure she hears you too, OP.

THisbackwithavengeance · 30/01/2022 10:51

Why do people always assume that whenever anyone on here has a baby, that the baby is screaming all night and therefore any reciprocal noise or antisocial behaviour is justified?

None of mine screamed at night and I'm nowhere near top of the list of Good Parents. If your baby is screaming all night, then you need to seek medical assistance.

That aside, there is a massive difference between household/children's noise within normal hours and incessant partying and random drunks/druggies turning up in the middle of the night and making a nuisance of themselves.

I'm surprised posters are defending this.

BigYellowHat · 30/01/2022 11:10

Do it, do it! We revenge hoovered and revenge drilled right into the adjoining wall to our twattish neighbour’s bedroom after they behaved like knobs. This was at 5am too and was so satisfying!

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Pregnagainagain · 30/01/2022 11:20

@Ponoka7

"Sorry OP but with a four month old and a toddler, there is no such thing as "no noise ever". Even the best behaved and most quickly tended to children make noise at that age."

Not if you co-sleep. My children and GC slept through from around 14 months. You can't complain about reasonable day time noise. This is a new neighbour, she hasn't lived with disturbed nights from the OP. You can't justify house parties till 5, except NY.

This is it. I never said ‘no noise ever’ but my toddler sleeps through and I cosleep with my youngest so I get to them straight away.
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LimeSegment · 30/01/2022 12:04

OK well up to you, get out the vacuum then. I'm not defending the party haver as it is rude. Just suggesting that as it is a once off, and as you have two kids that will make noise at times, it might be better to take the long view and forget it. Rather than getting worked up over it.

LimeSegment · 30/01/2022 12:07

And rather than getting up at 5am to damage your own house by drilling holes unnecessarily as pp did.

Chely · 30/01/2022 12:14

Every noisy appliance in the house would be going on.

We had twatty neighbours like this once. They warned me they were having a party so I asked if they could just keep noise down late on as dd's bedroom was on the adjoining wall. They were outside her window talking very loudly at gone midnight and dd had to sleep in our bedroom as they disturbed her. I may have been too happy when their house got repossessed 🤣.

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