To be livid over husband's inability to pick a house?

[fmac2987]

I'm expecting my second baby in May and we have a 20 month old DD. We need to get somewhere bigger and we have sold our current house with an 8 week settlement, so we know how much we have to work with.

Long story short we have seen about 20 homes and about 5 of them 3-4 times. I thought we had decided on the one, but then we got a call from an agent of another who opened up better negotiations on the asking price.

Essentially we have two offers accepted and we need to decide quickly. Or risk losing the one we originally wanted.

DH has been debating these two houses and others endlessly for two months, consulted his parents 3 times and we're about to go on consultation number 4.

We can afford both, one is more of a stretch. But I am absolutely fuming that he just can not pick one. I know its a big deal but given the lengthy discussions already had I honestly feel like we have enough to make a f-ing decision.

We can't delay our complete on the house due to how its been agreed.

AIBU? Honestly need perspectives as I feel like I've had the home I would have raise baby and first child in sorted and the flip flopping is making me really stressed.

He must like both as you put offers in. As he’s so indecisive pick the one you want and go with that.

Blimey. If he can't decide on a house, what can he decide on?

Either way, it's a joint decision. Sit down tonight with a pen and paper. Pros and cons list.

Go with the one that has more pros.

I really think, if he has no intention of choosing you should cancel both offers asap. Other people are making choices based on a false offer, that's awful.

OP - you have a go at your DH yet you don't tell us if you tell us if you prefer a certain house!!! Which is also very irritating!

OK we were in a similar position about 8 years ago - put 2 offers in on 2 houses and we had to choose one.
We knew that neither house would be our forever home so in the end we went for the house that we knew would be easier to sell - closer to the station, nice garden, near an 'outstanding' secondary school and lots of good primary schools etc.

In the end, our hunch paid off. We sold our last house quickly and we are now very happy in our 'forever home' (well hopefully the next 20 years at least!)

BTW the house we didn't proceed with was probably the nicer house - bigger, more character but it was in a more isolated location.

As Kirsty and Phil say, it's all about Location Location Location.

Why is it him picking which house? Why don't you make the decision?

@fmac2987

Have you both come to a decision?

Why is it up to him? Don't you make joint decisions?

This is incredibly selfish OP for the both of you, as you've went along with this.

I hope you get neither trying to play games like that.

You could break up entire chains of house sales and mess so many people around.