to hate Spring

[crochetmonkey74]

Ok this is a really unpopular opinion but I have had it since I was a child.
I hate the first signs of Spring that everyone loves. It makes me feel unsettled and sort of anxious about having all the extra hours.
I have no idea where it comes from or why I feel like it. I thought it was just a fear of change- but it doesn't happen with the onset of Autumn and Winter- I love those seasons.
I don't hate the Summer or find it uncomfortable- I enjoy all the normal Summer stuff- I'm not lonely and I don't struggle to fill my time, but the weeks when the birds start waking me up in the morning and the nights draw out, those spring days just give me this hollow pit of the stomach feeling. No one in my real life can relate- at work the mantra is 'Spring is coming Thank God' - anyone here know what I mean, does anyone else have this?

I'm exactly the same, I think it's because I know summer is on the way which I detest even more than Spring, I really start to feel down this time of year, I absolutely love when we get around to Sept again and the evenings start drawing in, most people think I'm crazy

Yep! Me too. Love the flowers and blossoms etc, but often feel weirdly exhausted. Apparently it’s a ‘thing’. I find the combination of bright sunlight and often very cold weather seems to just upset my system. I right myself again around May.

@thegirlwiththelongblackhair

Omg I was exactly the same!! I say was because my children all born in spring so April for me is my favourite month! It used to be my most hated month!

I was trying to figure it out.. if stems from when I was a child. I had a horrible childhood and would love winter because it got dark early meaning I would go bed as early as possible 5.30pm.
Longer days meant more hours and sunlight to deal with my shit family

This resonates so much with me! Exactly why I hated it. more sunlight, more people doing family stuff while our home was abusive. Winter and the dark, just felt like pulling a duvet over my head and blocking everything out. So sad to think of it now. Hated Christmas as well for this same reason.

[quote StandsForComfort]You have to read Spring by Edna St Vincent Millay. You're definitely not alone in feeling this way!

www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/44728/spring-56d223f01f86e[/quote]
Thank you for posting this!

Dreading the kids now where we live making our lives hell it’s got worse over the years. But I love the flowers too hot in summer no especially at night horrific being in menopause.

StandsForComfort I love that poem, and thank you so much for posting it.

Yes, me.

I love the warm weather and long days but it makes me feel anxious. I think its the pressure to be out and 'doing,' and the increased noise of people outside all the time.

I have Scandinavian heritage so i put it down to that too. Ive always been this way.

I don't like it either. Suddenly there are bugs zooming in every time I open the door. Everywhere you want to go, so does everyone else. Sorry, but I earned this parking space at Shearwater by regularly tramping round it in February. Mr MyNeighbour and his 19 family members in 4 cars yomping round it in the sun then going for Sunday lunch can piss off.

This is very interesting. I have SAD, I begin to get anxious about the dark in August, I spend whole month stocking up on million watt light bulbs and table lamps.
It's funny to think when I'm being released from the horribleness some folk are just starting their's.

Just to go against the grain here-I love Spring.

I find the opposition view very interesting and not in any way trying to deny your experience but mine is so so different-despite hideous hay fever.

Love the longer days, the sunshine, buds poking up, trees flowering, things turning green. Glorious blue skies. Warm sunshine.
People seem happier.
Dog walking much nicer.

It seems to me to be time of renewal and hope after drudge of winter.

Interesting! I love spring but still so interesting to read.
I have had flashbacks to lockdown this last couple of days, and the hell that was home schooling my then 5 year old while trying to work from home.
It wasn’t all bad of course, but it was hard at times.
I do wonder whether this time of year will always make me think of that time now.

It was always my favourite season but then DD2 died at birth on the 1st day of Spring 21 years ago and it really triggered me for many years. Just the smell in the air and blossoms/spring flowers everywhere.

I’ve got over it over the last 5/6 years and love it again. The buds coming out, blossoms, tulips and daffs, fresh warm air. Especially less driving in the dark which I hate!

I don’t hate spring as much as I hate summer but I definitely start feeling the looming dread about now. Months of hayfever and feeling uncomfortably hot and exposed in summer clothes to come. Six whole months til autumn 😭

I don't like spring either, everyone expects you to be cheerful all the time as the days get longer and with my mental health not allowing me to be genuinely happy all the time I can find it a bit draining. It's also the time of year where I lost a close family member and a lot of other awful things happened at the same time so it just makes me feel anxious and uneasy like something bad is about to happen.

There are nice things about spring though, I love the flowers and doing Easter things with my children. I'm trying to make as many good memories as possible to counteract the bad ones without putting loads of pressure on myself to try and be in a good mood all the time, taking time for myself and accepting not every day will be easy. I confide in my partner too which helps

Yeah I’ve always felt this way too about March and April in particular. In my head these months are the equivalent of Tuesday in a week.
Kind of a nervous unsettled feeling that I don’t feel comfortable with. I’m better by May (and Wednesday afternoon )

Its weird but Spring always brings this weird melancholy feeling to me. I've never understood it or talked about it with anyone.

I get this in August. I should feel content but always feel down and everything is somewhat nostalgic.

I think there is a French film about it but I can't think what it's called? An elderly man is sitting on a deck chair, looking out at sea, whilst everyone is young and vital, jumping in and out of the waves.

I feel exactly the same!

My DM reminded me about the clocks going forward soon today and my heart sank. I hate it. I hate summer, hate the light evenings, hot weather, neighbour noise and everyone in their gardens all the time.

I love Autumn and Winter - always happiest from about October onwards. My mental health is always at its worst in Spring and Summer.

I can relate to so many of these posts, especially toastfiend. I absolutely love October, November, the run up to Xmas, Xmas itself. My mental health is def not at its best at this time of the year. Add in a good deal of body anxiety after still not losing that 2 stone I swore I’d lose and honestly I can hardly get out of bed these mornings.

So strange, I always feel a bit flat in March/April...I've noticed it the last few years. Winter and Autum suit me better I think, though I like all the seasons. September is my favourite month. Melancholy is a good description. I suppose it's the weight of expectation and then disappointment maybe, I'm in Scotland so it can still be chilly in May.

I find it a bit stressful. It tends to arrive unpredictably and makes me feel unprepared. Today for example, it was very warm in the sun, and there I was in my well worn winter clothes, feeling slightly shabby against all the 'freshness' and a bit too hot. There always seems to be the pressure to 'enjoy the lovely spring weather' too and I feel a failure and that I'm missing out if I've nothing planned. I dislike autumn way more though. The drawing in of the nights fills me with a sense of impending doom.

Yes I used to love summer when young now 38 I prefer Autumn sunny but cooler and the trees look pretty orange leaved,I get low in vit D so take a supplement so helps me feel OK I'm a march baby so maybe I should like spring!

Another one here who isn't keen on spring. I love autumn and winter and feel sad it's all so far away at this time of year. Could happily hibernate between March - June.

It seems like such a boring time to me too. Weather is often bright but damply cold, not satisfyingly cold as it is in autumn/winter. Summer hols are far away (I like July/Aug as it means Sept is on the way!) and it all just feels very dull.

I also find if I watch any TV shows that are set in autumn/Christmas that I get a real sense of longing and wanting to hang onto it. And if I see any obviously 'Spring' episodes I get a bit down and don't want to watch as much. A very weird feeling but I feel like I have found my people here!

Nope. Sorry Spring is my absolute favourite time of year and always has been. All that promise of sunshine but not too hot. The flowers, the birdsong, the longer days ( I absolutely love these ). I don't like autumn too much but I loathe winter and have been happier and much less depressed for the last few weeks than I have been for months. March has been very nice weather so far around our way , lots of bright crisp cool sunny days with blue skies. Absolutely perfect. Then again that is not to say there is anything wrong with you op, I'm sure lots of people don't like Spring

I dislike autumn way more though. The drawing in of the nights fills me with a sense of impending doom

Me too

Oh no I absolutely love it.
I struggle with SAD and as much as I resist come October I'm withdrawn and dragging myself through winter.
The sunshine and daffodils signal new beginning s.
I used to wish spring away to get to the summer now I love it more with the promise of smiling faces and sunny walks and lighter days.