I usually live in city A, where I have a flat and a job, atm mostly WFH, but I do go in every once in a while & soon more often. I’ve been staying with my mother in city B lately to help while she’s recovering from an accident, and commuting between cities- a temporary situation.
A friend in city A who gave up being in a lucrative industry because she wanted to follow her dreams is now working a minimum wage job and can only afford to be a lodger. The house she lives in is very noisy bc of other lodgers, she’s having trouble sleeping. She’s been complaining and I ended up saying she could crash at my flat sometime for a quiet night when I’m in city B with my mum.
To my surprise, a few days later she announced she had given notice to her landlady and she was expecting to move in to my flat. She said she would try to couchsurf elsewhere when I’m coming to the city for work. She said it would be for a few weeks while she looks for a better lodging situation. I said this was not what I offered, I can’t agree to her living at mine as her main place and without a definite move out date, so I won’t be letting her crash there after all, and she shouldn't have given notice.
She is now saying I’m abandoning her and judging her life choices. AIBU? NC for this btw because she knows my usual nickname!