To feel sad and or confused about a change in friendships.?

[Tootsuites]

We live in a small hamlet. For the last six years or so we have been friends with a couple. In addition to this I set up a social group so that if anyone wanted to come to things , needed a lift etc they would be welcome. We ( the two dw and another dw) also met weekly to paint as its a mutual intrest.
A couple moved in who have spare income and time. They be friended the couple who are our existing friends and go out with them to the nearest village pub now each tue ,fri and sunday. In between they meet for coffees etc and its seems to be most days.
We get invited sporadically but not as a norm . . sometimes to dinner parties.
The dw who was part of our group was not included at all and i was and it came as a shock to her that she had been described as a" bestie " one week then just not included . She is never contacted now. I think that the new cple did not want to invite her, and the dw in the original friendship group omitted to include her... and it became a patteen.
My advise to her was to have parties and invite them all as you cannot control what others do but you can organise social stuff yourself.
It didnt work. They went to her events but did not invite back.

I am sometimes invited but what has happened is the dw who normally used to invite me round for coffee etc, to paint, is no longer doing that and all her social time seems to be spent with the other couple who visit them almostdaily ,then when I do get invited to stuff its oh when we watched a film, when we went to.the pub, when we did so and so .. so its clear that the bulk of her time is spent with them.
In the pub they described themselves as best friends to a person sitting next to them in my prescence.
My friend seems to remain a kind and nice woman .
I have never experinced anything like this before. I feel quite sad when I hear what they get up to. We were , I thought close.
I dont mean to sound childish.
I would appriciate perspective. Others in our hamlet have said to me ( i dont discuss it) oh so and so are always together arnt they.. its v noticable as its most days as i said.

Thanks @Stookeen
No pub, don't fancy living in a hamlet. 😉

@ParkheadParadise

What's a Hamlet? Is it a fancy name for a village 🤷‍♀️

Happiness is a cigar called...... hamlet!!

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Thanks *@Stookeen* No pub, don't fancy living in a hamlet. 😉

Well, the OP’s hamlet appears to have a pub, although that’s clearly part of the problem!

The hamlets I’m thinking of around the village where I used to live would have had ten or twelve houses, some far fewer — though two had very old churches which only had a couple of services a year. Even walking through them made me feel claustrophobic.

A hamlet traditionally doesn't have a parish church.

OP, it sounds like perhaps the women have been friends due to proximity and convenience. In the absence of choice, it's good to be friendly with those around you. Now this new woman has come along, one of your group has found she clicks better with her. Don't take it personally, although when there's only a few of you it's hard. Just stick with being friendly and perhaps trying to increase your social circle beyond the hamlet if you feel your circle is too small now.

Could it be an issue of communication - that they just go to the pub on these nights and have got used to bumping into each other, then occasionally make other plans when they are there, while you are waiting to be invited. They could be thinking it's funny that they never see you in the pub. Perhaps the new couple are just more proactive about asking them to do things.

The best friends thing is something to outgrow by adulthood, if you want to see them, invite them, take some control of the friendship.

They are just not that into you any longer I’m afraid. Sneering at their new friends will only cement that opinion.

Do you think maybe they just have more fun together? Maybe they click better. Often it's bit about interests or values but more about communication style.

You can't control this situation so as others have said, concentrate on yourself and meeting new people and less on them.