Gave birth to DS 6 days ago (baby number 2) and told both families that they were welcome to visit in hospital but only 2 at a time. My parents came but DH's sisters, brother and mum were all too busy with Xmas so said they'd come after xmas to see us at home.
MIL came last night after DH went to collect her (she lives 20 mins away) and paid for a cab home. She didn't ask how I was, how birth was etc. She also told me DS has a big nose! he is obviously perfect so this is not true!
Today SIL phoned to say she was coming over and bringing her husband and 2 kids plus my other SIL and a cousin from overseas who DH and I have never met. She also said this cousin is in the early stages of pregnancy and has had a bleed this morning so she thinks she is miscarrying. SIL is taking her to EPU then planning to come directly from there to our house!
I think this is hugely insensitive to the cousin, I would not want to visit a strangers newborn in these circumstances. Also, I am breast feeding constantly and don't want hordes of people round here when I have my engorged norks out! I told DH to say no and that SIl, her husband and kids could come today but other sister in law had to come another day. i also said I didn't want anybody I don't know here at the mo. DH has agreed and told her but she is v pissed off and so far has not turned up at all.
Do you think i am being unreasonable? Tell the truth, I can take it...