Mil is planning to move just over an hour away to a different area (38 miles ish on crappy a&b roads). The area is slightly cheaper and she wants to free up some £££ selling her house and also to be closer to to her partners place of work which is a bit mad in itself as he's been doing the same job for years and he's close to retirement age now. He drives for a living, so it's just close to his depot so to me makes little difference as he's often in Scotland hundreds of miles away. Entirely their choice of course. I wish them well.
But she's expecting us to visit all the time, I just don't think we can go every week or two like she expects. Why can't she come here?! We could visit maybe once a month. She thinks we will love to visit all the time as it's a nice area but so is the area we live!
I appreciate many families live much further than an hour away and an hour doesn't seem that far but we aren't used to it. Currently she lives 10 minutes away. We don't see them more than once a week now, she and her partner work full time, dp works long hours, I am a sahp/carer to both children who have sen and have busy lifestyles. We don't see her that much really. . Maybe once every 1-2 weeks. Sometimes dc will go their for dinner after school. Often Dp will pop in to see her after work for a cuppa as she lives just down the road from his place of work, I think he will struggle with that more than anything. We don't rely on her for anything like childcare etc so her move isn't going to cause us any issues like that.
After a conversation today, she's fully expecting us to visit every week. Aibu to think hell no? We don't always see her every week now.
I just don't think it will work. Dp works Monday - Saturday. That only leaves sundays. Do we want to travel 2 hours on a Sunday plus a couple hours there? I'm not sure I do! Sunday is our only day as a family. Living close by we can see her during the week after school or on a Sunday for an hour (not every Sunday). I just don't think We can commit.
Dp doesn't want to do it either. He doesn't want to be travelling for 2 hours out of county on his only day off!! I don't really like driving.
Plus both dc both have sen. Sometimes even the shortest journeys are stressful! They need frequent stops etc. We really don't travel far as a family and tend to stay local.
Our lives are pretty local. My family live 15 miles away and we don't even get chance to see them much!! Once a month max usually!
Aibu to think that she can't move and expect us to still see her all the time? She could come here? Or will have to be once every month or so?
I just don't think I'll look forward to sundays if I feel like we have to get up and travel! Dp can't take the kids alone due to their sen, neither of us would manage a long trip like that with them on our own. 10 minutes max we are alone with them 😅 so we would all have to go!!
How often do you visit your relatives who live quite far away?!