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Comment by lady in Charity Shop

56 replies

Sportslady44 · 22/01/2022 14:03

This was going back some time before mumsnet AIBU etc but its always stayed on my mind.

I bought some trousers from a charity shop once, they were quite nice i suppose and looked new.

Anyway when i took them to the till to pay the lady behind the till obvs liked them too and said nobody will ever know. She meant nobody will know you have bought them from a charity shop.

Was that a strange comment? So what if people did know?

OP posts:
itwasntaparty · 22/01/2022 14:11

Do you really care so much
? It was a throw away comment

scarpa · 22/01/2022 14:12

Lots of people do care/are embarrassed about shopping in charity shops - I imagine it's the kind of chitchat she does with lots of people.

notacooldad · 22/01/2022 14:13

Just a comment for chit chat.
I would have forgotten about it by the time I left the shop!

Russell19 · 22/01/2022 14:13

She meant people will think you paid more than a knock down price for them.
Do you still have the trousers?

TinyBarista · 22/01/2022 14:14

How's many years ago was it? Honestly it's something you'd give headspace to for about 5 minutes, not years.

Caughtavibe · 22/01/2022 14:14

If it was that far back then there did used to be quite a snobby attitude about charity shops, as if only people who couldn’t afford high street shops shopped in them. Hard to believe I know.

When DC was small I met a friend for coffee & asked if she wanted to look round some charity shops. She was horrified!

It was nearly a decade later when she proudly showed me a handbag she bought from a CS saying “ I’ve never bought anything from a CS before”

Crazy. Grin

VainAbigail · 22/01/2022 14:15

This was going back some time before mumsnet AIBU

Before Mumsnet? Which has got to be more than 16 years old surely?

YABU.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 22/01/2022 14:15

Isn’t it strange the things we remember!
Funny little non-conversations that are so mundane that they would normally be forgotten in a heartbeat yet our brains seem to cling on to them forever!

Getyourjinglebellsinarow · 22/01/2022 14:15

I always say how nobody would even know a dress or something I bought was from a charity shop. It's a compliment to the clothing isn't it. You'd think it was expensive from a nice shop.

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Sportslady44 · 22/01/2022 14:16

maybe it was while mumsnet was going cant remember but never posted it anyyway.

Yes cant help it has stayed on my mind.

OP posts:
Butchyrestingface · 22/01/2022 14:17

This was going back some time before mumsnet AIBU etc but its always stayed on my mind.

What is your AIBU? That it's weird for you still to be thinking about a neutral throwaway comment from a stranger 20 years ago?

I agree, it's strange for that to have stayed on your mind.

GlasgowBirthdayCake · 22/01/2022 14:20

Some people are still think charity shopping is something you should hide. It’s weird.

Original poster
Sportslady44 · 22/01/2022 14:21

@GlasgowBirthdayCake

Some people are still think charity shopping is something you should hide. It’s weird.
exactly that otherwise why say it.
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lemmein · 22/01/2022 14:41

She might've meant they looked so new that you'd never know they were second hand - in other words, you were getting a bargain, maybe?

betwixtlives · 22/01/2022 14:43

Why are you giving headspace to something totally innocuous that happened 15 odd years ago? Confused

RedCandyApple · 22/01/2022 14:45

I don’t see the problem? My mum shops in charity shops and will often buy things and say it’s brand new/still has tags on/ you would never know where it’s from. It’s weird this has bothered you for years

notacooldad · 22/01/2022 14:47

exactly that otherwise why say it.
This is just ridiculous!
Maybe she said it just for small talk.
Maybe she thought it was a fantastic bargain.
She liked them herself and the compliment came out awkward.
Maybe they looked so new it looked like you had just bought them from John Lewis.

Who cares?

Preeeettyprettygood · 22/01/2022 14:47

I'd honestly have never even taken that comment on board

FlexibleWorkingDenied · 22/01/2022 14:49

She meant they looked as good as new (not noticeably second hand/used)?

Ignoreamor · 22/01/2022 14:50

Not really connected but when I was 22 weeks pregnant I went to buy my friend a size 8 a pair of shorts I saw that she might like and the women said to me they might not fit you and we don't accept returns. I told her I'm pregnant lol 😂 and she said oh I didn't realize.... My ego took a battering

Ignoreamor · 22/01/2022 14:51

This was 5 years ago

NuffSaidSam · 22/01/2022 14:52

Was it a strange comment? No. It was harmless small talk.

It is strange that it's still playing on your mind. But then minds are strange like that aren't they? Sometimes something just sticks in your mind for no reason.

So, the comment was fine. Your mind is weird. But don't worry about that because everyone's mind is weird sometimes!

Chickychoccyegg · 22/01/2022 14:56

Well I guess even when you buy things from charity shops you would prefer them not to look old? That's all she ment, that they look brand new.

whynotwhatknot · 22/01/2022 14:57

Weird but then again i was in poundland once and i asked the woman where the lighters were -she laughed and said well theyre over there like i should know

i guess its all in the tone

Hont1986 · 22/01/2022 14:57

I would have assumed that she meant they don't look second-hand, i.e. look brand new.
Wouldn't seem strange to me at all.