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AIBU?

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Inflexible friend

55 replies

bagpuss90 · 22/01/2022 08:44

I’ve always gone to my friends house on Fridays for a glass or two of wine. She doesn’t like going out so won’t come to mine or to the pub. I also go to a dance class on a Thursday . Been going for four years (obviously breaks during the lockdowns)and I absolutely love it. The organisers have been told they can no longer have the venue and have had to find an alternative venue which is on a Friday . I so don’t want to stop going . We have a dance weekend booked for later this year which I’m really looking forward to. I’m also working towards medals which will give me a sense of achievement. I might add I’ve lacked confidence over the years. It’s also great exercise and I’ve made lots of friends. I’ve spoken to my friend and asked if she would mind if we did a Thursday or a Sunday evening instead or perhaps a weekend lunchtime. She’s basically said she can’t believe I’d put a hobby before a friendship and that she thinks I should give up the class . I might add she does nothing on the other days/evenings I’ve suggested. I’m not going to give it up and there’s no alternative class locally that runs on another night. I think she’s been bloody unreasonable but I’m interested to hear your thoughts .

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AlexaShutUp · 23/01/2022 10:32

She is being ridiculous, OP, and very selfish. Stick to your guns. If she cares about you at all, she will want you to carry on doing the thing that you love. And if she values the friendship, she will find another time to meet.

billy1966 · 23/01/2022 18:37

@bagpuss90

She is retired -so can really drink any night. I’m sticking to my guns
Good woman.👍
MyQuietPlace · 23/01/2022 18:41

This made me laugh Unless there is a drip feed and she's agoraphobic, living on her own with no legs,

blyn72 · 23/01/2022 18:41

You are not being unreasonable, your friend is.

DrManhattan · 23/01/2022 21:33

Shes not being fair. She will come round after a while x

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