AIBU to give my daughter have baby crisps and put the tv on?

[RedRobyn2021]

For context DD is 11 months, I washed my hair this morning and needed to dry it so I brought all the bits downstairs and gave her some fruit and some Sainsburys baby crisps and put on some cartoons

She quite happily munched away and occasionally looked over at me to smile whilst I dried and straightened my hair

This is something I started doing sometimes maybe a week ago. I read online babies/toddlers shouldn't have crisps and shouldn't watch tv as it can effect them negatively in future with their speech and reading. do feel a bit guilty about it like I'm letting her down. Got me thinking about what are mums of multiples meant to do when they have a new baby? I barely get off the sofa in the early days feeding her

Would be interested to hear your thoughts. Please be kind.

YABU - you shouldn't be giving your daughter baby crisps, you shouldn't be letting her watch TV and certainly not at the same time.

YANBU - it's ok to do this occasionally

Totally fine. I regularly sling 14mo DD in her high chair and shove a handful of frozen peas on her tray and position her in front of the open bathroom door so I can shower and do my hair! Our bathroom is off the kitchen for context. She’s happy enough.

You’re fine. Baby’s fine. It’s all good. My 10 month old loves a twirlywoo and a baby crisp thing. All good. The older two did too, and they’re basically ok!

100% fine!

Totally fine. Please stop worrying.

100% fine, did this with all mine from a lot younger than 11 months. No issues.

Absolutely fine OP

Top tip, introduce them to Alphablocks early on and then you are stealth teaching them phonics

It isn't recommended to let little ones under two watch TV passively unless the WHO have changed the guidance recently. So I suppose yes there is evidence it isn't good for your baby to sit them to watch TV and eat and if you were doing gold standard parenting you wouldn't do this, certainly not as often as you are. But I appreciate you're not super human so it's up to you to justify it to yourself if that makes sense.

Question here.

I’m trying to use TV a little bit to distract my son (13 months) on occasion and he isn’t interested at all! I’ve tried Night Garden and he isn’t remotely interested … normal?

@TheKeatingFive

Absolutely fine OP

Top tip, introduce them to Alphablocks early on and then you are stealth teaching them phonics

DS learnt the alphabet from watching CoComelon on YouTube. With the best will in the world, I don't think I could have taught him to recognise letters as effectively as it did!

@BrambleRoses

Question here.

I’m trying to use TV a little bit to distract my son (13 months) on occasion and he isn’t interested at all! I’ve tried Night Garden and he isn’t remotely interested … normal?

Mine loved the snooker at that age. I think it's trial and error. Cocomelon is annoyingly loved by many little ones. Mine also loved the baby group one on CBeebies, they liked seeing the other babies I think.

Totally fine!

When you have your second come back and read this! You will facepalm

@WTF475878237NC OP has said she’s doing it ‘sometimes’ so the frequency is unknown.

And who is doing gold standard parenting? I’m pretty sure we all take short cuts to manage the day sometimes.

DS learnt the alphabet from watching CoComelon on YouTube.

Yeah, TV doesn't get enough credit for how much it teaches our children 😆

@WTF475878237NC

It isn't recommended to let little ones under two watch TV passively unless the WHO have changed the guidance recently. So I suppose yes there is evidence it isn't good for your baby to sit them to watch TV and eat and if you were doing gold standard parenting you wouldn't do this, certainly not as often as you are. But I appreciate you're not super human so it's up to you to justify it to yourself if that makes sense.

Managed to raise all mine with no issues and plenty of TV time.

In fact, I potty trained all mine whilst they watched their favourite programme with a bag of wotsits to hand. Worked a treat. All dry before 2 years old.

DS learned to count by watching me play a game on the PlayStation.

Do what you need to do OP, don't worry about trying to 'justify' it.

Research about how children watching tv with subtitles doubles the chance they’ll be a good reader - turnonthesubtitles.org/

Generally speaking though I think the problem is when the television is on all the time, with or without kids programmes.

@Workin8til6

This is literally my entire parenting philosophy 😂 she will be fine

Same

YANBU
I would say it is fine to do every day not just on a rare occasion.
Sticking a child in front of the TV all day every day is very different to letting them watch a few episodes of something.
Honestly, do it more often, you'll both benefit from the bit of down time.

It’s fine, there was barely any toddler TV and no iPads when I was little yet I really struggle with screen addiction and my iPhone now as an adult 🤷‍♀️

Oh my god haha
It’s FINE

A bit of tv is fine. And I let mine eat those baby crisps at that age.

Not all the time though

Totally fine.
And fwiw, my 2 year old isn't all the interested in TV but has still picked up lots of words/phrases from it so don't stress too much about speech.

YANBU

It's fine.

I'm a Speech and Language Therapist, and honestly the odd bit of TV here and there will have absolutely no negative impact on her speech and Language development. You sound like a lovely, responsive parent.