AIBU to give my daughter have baby crisps and put the tv on?

[RedRobyn2021]

For context DD is 11 months, I washed my hair this morning and needed to dry it so I brought all the bits downstairs and gave her some fruit and some Sainsburys baby crisps and put on some cartoons

She quite happily munched away and occasionally looked over at me to smile whilst I dried and straightened my hair

This is something I started doing sometimes maybe a week ago. I read online babies/toddlers shouldn't have crisps and shouldn't watch tv as it can effect them negatively in future with their speech and reading. do feel a bit guilty about it like I'm letting her down. Got me thinking about what are mums of multiples meant to do when they have a new baby? I barely get off the sofa in the early days feeding her

Would be interested to hear your thoughts. Please be kind.

YABU - you shouldn't be giving your daughter baby crisps, you shouldn't be letting her watch TV and certainly not at the same time.

YANBU - it's ok to do this occasionally

She’s having a healthy snack and watching something that’s interesting and stimulating for her. That’s absolutely fine and normal for an 11-month-old baby. You don’t have to be doing baby yoga and singing opera to her all the time. Babies are allowed to chill out.

You are being unreasonable for thinking this might NOT be ok. 🤣🤣

Crisps and cbeebies every day at our House!! 4 healthy well balanced adult sons now 🤣

Oh god, DD 2 watches hours of TV, with chocolate — it’s our weekly nit-combing time She’s still a perfect chatterbox and gets plenty of running around. It’s all balance. You’d be miserable with dirty hair and no breaks.

The thing to really avoid is TV on in the background when you're trying to communicate. Babies and toddlers find it hard to concentrate with multiple sources of attention (TV and you) and it can hinder speech development. TV on as entertainment for a few minutes while you do something else is fine. Crisps of any kind, even those marketed at babies, are not brilliant, but if it's very occasional it won't hurt.

YANBU. I occasionally prop my iPad up on YouTube so my 4mo can watch them daft dancing fruits because if i don’t, nothing gets done and it just adds to the chaos, making me feel like shit. Much easier to do that for 15 mins

Gosh. On MN standards I’m a freak who have avoided as much electronics for my dcs as possible.

But even I would have no issue with a bit of TV for what half an hour? whilst drying my hair etc…

That’s absolutely fine @RedRobyn2021.

Fwiw yes I do believe TV etc… can impede speech development. But that’s when you leave children in front of them ALL THE TIME and never do anything else with them!

An entirely sensible solution to meeting your own personal needs, no negligence and sounds like she enjoyed herself!

Wish you were my mum, this sounds like my actual dream half hour right now.

You're doing great.

She’s having baby crisps and watching cartoons. I think my younger two at that age were licking the flavour off cheese Doritos and watching Judge Judy. You’re doing fine.

TV is not good for her and neither are crisps, but neither is having an exhausted mother with no time for herself. All things in moderation!

@Thefaceofboe

YANBU. I occasionally prop my iPad up on YouTube so my 4mo can watch them daft dancing fruits because if i don’t, nothing gets done and it just adds to the chaos, making me feel like shit. Much easier to do that for 15 mins

Those dancing fruits are life-savers.

Currently doing this with my almost 3 year old now whilst I surf on my phone. He's shovelling wotsits in and watching Blippi. It's the only way to keep my sanity.

Admittedly he watches more tv than I let my 7 year old watch at this age, but he's out and about with the minder mon-Thurs and then we are out doing their activities all weekend long.

I figure it evens out in the wash

I had three under 3 (set of twins). Cbeebies show me show me was my go to programme. It gave me 20mins every morning and in that time, I'd shower, dress and whizz around kitchen. It's not going to kill anyone! I'd avoid the snax just because they're unecessary but it's not a hill to die on either!

Totally fine! I wish my 11 month old would sit and watch TV long enough for me to dry my hair. He’s much too interested in climbing things at the minute .

Occassionally is fine. When she starts talking her accent might be familiar but you won't be able to put your finger on it. When I had to watch a whole episode of Peppa Pig I realised that was who my niece sounded like. Her speech is fine, try stopping her talking now. I think she takes after her Auntie.

@GrendelsGrandma ever heard of everything in moderation?
I'm sure the majority of the population, ate crisps and watched TV as a child.

I’ve got Covid and isolating with my nearly 11mo DD… baby crisps (the veggie stick ones) and Ms Rachel’s “songs for littles” on YouTube all the way here!

@GrendelsGrandma ever heard of everything in moderation?
I'm sure the majority of the population, ate crisps and watched TV as a child

That’s literally what she said?

All fine!

Have you heard of Blippi? Your 11mo will be able to spell Blippi within 1month. I guarantee it.
Your kid will be absolutely fine with some TV on. Don't fret it. The mum guilt generally eases off a bit by the time they're in year 1 of school.
By the way most of lockdown was spent on screens to homeschool the kids.
Those baby crisps are also basically cardboard. Ones to watch are the chewy bars which have dates and dried fruit in. They rotted my friends 5yos teeth.

YANBU.

DD used to love 20 minutes in her bouncer watching Bing.

TBH I give DH a bag of crisps and stick him in front of the telly sometimes. because ocassionally gets right on my tits

I had two within a year of each other and had no TV at all until the eldest was 3yrs old.
Far from feeling proud about this, I think what a sad thing that I felt so much pressure to be perfect that I made my life so so hard for no good reason.
Embrace a bit of TV and remember that you matter too.

Pfb op?

It's fine. The act of watching TV itself is not going to affect her speech. I think the advice means that kids shouldn't spend so much time in front of the TV that it stops them from doing other activities like interacting with others or being read to. As long as you do plenty of other stuff with baby a bit of TV once a while isn't going to hurt.

Also baby crisps I assume won't have salt so are marketed as good finger foods aren't they?