We have friends who have arranged their wedding very last minute, for a few weeks time. My husband has just been told the stag is supposed to be next weekend, Friday-Monday
We have a two year old and a 18 week old baby.
My husband works long hours so I do the lions share of the parenting stuff. He usually takes the oldest out for the day on a Friday (his day off work) so I can have a break. Husband will also go for a drink often after work but I don’t begrudge him that, although I would like to have the opportunity to do something in the evening myself, even if it’s just have a bath without worrying about the baby waking up!
The thing is I already feel so overwhelmed and have had dreadful PND this time around. I worry about everything, cry every day, when I have to go out I drag myself out and hate every minute of it. I am doing therapy sessions and am hoping that will help but it’s early days.
The thought of him being away for four whole days is just too much, especially when I won’t have my usual Friday to catch up on stuff and have a bit of a breather/bonding time with baby. I feel like I want to be sick. Our parents live back in the UK but we are Europe. My parents are flying out in a couple of weeks to look after the kids when we go to the actual wedding, but they also have a life of their own so I can’t ask them to come and help next weekend too.
He hasn’t paid his share yet so I could still ask him not to go. Where they are going is the other side of the country so it’s not realistic to ask him to just go for a day. Or is that really unfair?
He works hard and deserves a good time but at the moment I just don’t feel ready for a full weekend on my own.