“If you are ever in the market we would be interested in your house”

[Foodfoodfoodie]

We live in a desirable village in an expensive area. Today we had a letter through our door, summarised it read something like:

we are looking to move in the area and have flagged your home as one we would be interested in of you were in the market to move. If you consider selling in the near future we would love to hear from you and would be willing to negotiate a price around the X mark, which we believe to be higher than the asking price you would be recommended by an agent

AIBU to think this is really cheeky and intrusive? They are being very upfront about essentially eyeing up my home.

I’m not in the market to move but if I was they would be bottom of the list, regardless of money.

I'd take it as a compliment that they think your house is worth living in. Yes it may be seen as a bit cheeky but it is essentially harmless. There has been many a house bought this way

I live in a village,wanted area,etc and we get those all the time. Have done for years

@17CherryTreeLane

Sounds much better than the one we got, which told us about all of their children. It went on about how our house is really for families, and shoe be filled with the sound of children.

Yes...my own bloody children are already on it!!!

While I generally think such letters show initiative, this is a particularly bizarre approach.

Yes, I have a home large enough for a family. No, I don’t have children in it, because I’m infertile. Thanks for rubbing it in…

@Ileflottante

So much OTT precious behaviour on this site gets put down to “I don’t know, pregnancy hormones or something,” rather than people admitting they’ve embarrassed themselves with offended naivety…

Maybe I’ve reacted more strongly than I would usually but I’m certainly not embarrassed about my opinion and still think it’s pushy, cheeky and intrusive

I’m not in the market to move but if I was they would be bottom of the list, regardless of money

Thatd really be cutting off your nose to spite your face. A friend of mine bought her house this way. Sellers were delighted. They didn't have EA fees or the hassle of viewers coming.

They actually took the opposite view & couldn't believe that as they were considering moving someone contacted them and offered to buy their house

Win win for both parties

The estate agents' fee when I sold my previous home was over £7000.

If you sell your house to someone who approaches you the way these people have that'll be one expense you'll be spared.

If you're not looking to sell then it's simple enough to just ignore it.

Oh god get over yourself it’s initiative and would save you estate agent fees.

😂😂

This whole country could be a whole lot more successful and happier if people actually have a shit about the things that mattered. If I sent a letter I wouldn’t be thinking oh they might be infertile shit I better not say that.

People need to stop giving two flying fucks about shit that doesn’t matter.

@RenGreen

This whole country could be a whole lot more successful and happier if people actually have a shit about the things that mattered. If I sent a letter I wouldn’t be thinking oh they might be infertile shit I better not say that.

People need to stop giving two flying fucks about shit that doesn’t matter.

Or in other words

“I don’t think we should give a shit about other people’s feelings”?

How on earth is it intrusive?

This happened to me about 15 years ago, and for some reason I found it really irritating.
The people ended up moving in up the road, and turned out to be really ready really irritating.

Erm not how could anyone know someone is infertile by looking at their house?! I mean people shouldn’t take offence where no offence was intended it’s how you shape things in your mind, and how you might let that impact you!

I’m really upset now that I’ve never had one of these letters through the door.

Quite common at the moment with the housing shortage. I wouldnt be offended or annoyed about it at all.

No one has ever put a note through my door.

in what way is it pushy and intrusive? It’s a letter, they didn’t let themselves in and follow you round the kitchen waving a sold board and demanding you sell immediately.

Cheeky? How? Again. It’s a piece of paper. If you’re not selling then you disregard it. The market is moving fast. They’re using their initiative.

Are you very young? It’s so common now. I also live in a ‘desirable and expensive’ area and not a week goes by where I don’t get a missive from an EA asking if I’m selling. I don’t get them so frequently from individuals but it’s happened a fair bit.

Maybe I could start a business selling "Maybe thinking of selling for the right price" signs to put outside your houses?

Someone will do that now.

@Allycott

It's nothing out of the ordinary and it's enabled you to brag a little. What's not to like 😁

I snorted, sorry 😂

I did similar last year. I had heard about an elderly person who had died and put a sensitively worded note through the door saying I would be interested in buying it. I am currently sitting on my sofa in the said house :)

One person reaching out, fine. When you're at 20+ and they even knock on your door to ask if you want to move, it's really freakin' annoying. My neighbour is so over it, she put up a sign on their lawn that says, "Our home is not for sale". Trust me, if I'm working from home and you send my dogs in a frenzy knocking, you are the very last person I'm going to sell my home to!

YABVVV ridiculous however with your attitude it's best buyers never come near you.

They've almost certainly put the same letter through the door of every house in the neighbourhood, they haven't been specifically eying up your house.

OP, can you explain why you think it's intrusive?

…but I’m certainly not embarrassed about my opinion and still think it’s pushy, cheeky and intrusive

OP; AIBU?
(Almost) everyone; Yes
OP; no I’m not.

My Mum bought a house like this 40 years ago. It’s not a new or unusual practice and many more houses on your street will have received the same letter.

And I do think if it's very clear a family live in a family house, you're just being rude.