OLD, talking on phone before meeting

[Toloveandtowork]

I've been attempting online dating (OLD).
AIBU to not like requests to talk on the phone before meeting. My reasoning is that it's only on meeting that I can feel if we have a connection or not, and with only a profile, a few (possibly outdated) pictures, to go on, a conversation doesn't necessarily help. I'm also introverted but can hold my own in person.
AIBU to not like talking on the phone before meeting for the first time?

@BatshitBanshee

OLD veteran here (now married to DH who I met OLD) never once spoke on the phone to anyone I met OLD. It's too odd or intimate for me and I'd get The Ick if the person I was speaking to wasn't a confident speaker (but fine if confident in person).

I think for a lot of people, it is a case that when we have to deal with people on the phone for professional matters (customer service, work etc etc) then it's just straight to the point. Personal matters can be tedious and a bit uncertain if you can't see the person.

I'm the same.

I'm also an OLD veteran and I think eye contact and body language need to be the first impressions. If someone insists on talking on the phone I just make my position clear and if they don't like it I move on. For me no amount of talking on the phone is going to tell me if there's any chemistry, and chemistry is the only thing that's going to determine if we go beyond a first meeting. I think there's more to lose than gain by talking on the phone. And I came to this conclusion by trying the phone thing in the early days. Some people just aren't good on the phone.

[quote Giraffesandbottoms]@TeloMere

I would be keen to know the age of people on the thread who don’t like the phone. I’m 30, so as I said I’ve grown up with texting to an extent but also the landline and I make a concerted effort to not be a strange phone avoider which is what comes naturally to me[/quote]
I'm 51 and am perfectly comfortable talking on the phone in any other circumstances.

I'm 55. It's not at all that I don't like talking on the phone though, it's only in this particular circumstance that I can be squeamish.
Having done it now, I see the value in it.
Not sure what I would do if I didn't like his voice or the chat was stilted. I'd probably still turn up for a date.

I would always prefer to speak on the phone before meeting someone. It needn’t be a long call, even from a quick conversation you can suss a few things out about them.

[quote Giraffesandbottoms]@TeloMere

I would be keen to know the age of people on the thread who don’t like the phone. I’m 30, so as I said I’ve grown up with texting to an extent but also the landline and I make a concerted effort to not be a strange phone avoider which is what comes naturally to me[/quote]
I'm 46 and I've always hated talking on the phone. I don't think I need to 'grow up' as someone said upthread. I think I'm allowed (as an adult), to not like a thing! I'm more eloquent by text or in person, it's really as simple as that. On the phone I find myself errr-ing a lot and unless there's lots to talk about then it all gets a bit quiet and awkward. Of course I DO talk on the phone, obviously, and FaceTime! It just wouldn't be my chosen media 🤷🏻‍♀️