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Hair appointment and baby

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blahblahblah12345678910 · 18/01/2022 21:50

I'm meant to have a hair appointment of Saturday and I'm wondering whether I could ask if it's okay for my daughter to pop in to be breastfed? She's 12 weeks old and exclusively breastfeeding despite our best efforts to get her to take a bottle over the past few weeks she is still refusing. I'm meant to be getting my hair bleached so the appointment will be at least three hours. I have been going to the salon for a few years now. AIBU to ask if partner can pop in with baby so I can breastfeed her?

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RosesAndHellebores · 18/01/2022 21:52

I've had tri-colour highlights for years. Takes my hairdresser 90 minutes.

Redhotspicywine · 18/01/2022 21:53

I did this Thursday! My hair takes five/six hours so my mum popped in twice with DS six months for a feed. Wasn’t a problem at all!

Bluebluemoon39 · 18/01/2022 21:53

I don't think they would have a problem with that at all, it's a perfectly sensible and normal thing to do!

The only thing I would worry about maybe is the fumes? Does it still smell really strong these days?

KiloWhat · 18/01/2022 21:54

Might as well ask.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 18/01/2022 21:55

I had my hair coloured when my baby was about that age and took her for the whole thing. (Filled with false confidence I was then forced to rebook a massage somewhere else because they weren’t happy with even sleeping babies).

MollyBloomYes · 18/01/2022 21:56

You can but ask. But be prepared for them to say no. For a lot of women that's their time to be pampered and away from their children so they might not want babies around. And I say that as someone who would adore a baby coming in and practically be scooting my chair over to coo.

When I had my (almost literal) newborn (seriously he was something stupid like four days old but I was desperate for a haircut) I asked when I booked if it would be ok (I had a planned c section so a lot easier to book these things) and they were fine with it. They had a room upstairs which they used for really long appointments which was a bit more private so they put me and him in there. He was my second so I didn't really mind feeding in public but I appreciated the gesture and also appreciated that any noise he made wouldn't annoy the other clients.

Just call them and see what they say. If he's only going to be brought in for a feed I can't see how it would be that much of a problem but depends what sort of salon and clients they have I suppose

Flangeosaurus · 18/01/2022 21:56

It genuinely wouldn’t even occur to me to ask, I’d just take her with me!

DirtyDancing · 18/01/2022 21:58

We have local salons which have Mum and baby days. Can you ask if yours has a baby friendly afternoons? It's great the hairdresser coo over the babies and the Mum's pop them on the boob under the gowns. Chaotic but fun! I would ask. If you are talking about your partner brining they baby in for a little feed I don't see why not

Eumy · 18/01/2022 22:03

You can ask and see if they will be okay with it. Might depend on the salon and how busy they are!

My hairdresser has already told me she’s happy for me to bring my baby in when I have future hair appointment, she’s the salon owner though which makes it easier for her to approve it I guess!

Dita73 · 18/01/2022 22:06

I can’t imagine why they’d have a problem with it. If your baby needs feeding then she needs feeding. If they object I would walk out and go somewhere else.

Seashor · 18/01/2022 22:16

I was recently at the hairdressers and the lady who was after me was nearly in tears because her husband had been called in and she had her crying baby with her. I felt so sorry for her . I spent the rest of the afternoon rocking a baby to sleep in it’s pram whilst it’s poor mum had her hair done whilst drinking tea and reading magazines. I don’t even like babies! Go for it op, take the baby and come out feeling fabulous.

Anotherviewtoyou · 18/01/2022 22:19

@TestingTestingWonTooFree you seriously tried to bring a baby to a massage 😂😂😂

BriansTail · 18/01/2022 22:19

@TestingTestingWonTooFree

I had my hair coloured when my baby was about that age and took her for the whole thing. (Filled with false confidence I was then forced to rebook a massage somewhere else because they weren’t happy with even sleeping babies).
You can't take a baby to a massage appointment!!!
Kipperandarthur · 18/01/2022 22:21

Some salons say no especially on a Saturday.
It would be best to check first.

TeamBlondie · 18/01/2022 22:24

I’ve done this. My husband brought our baby in when due for a feed about 2 hours in.

BungleandGeorge · 18/01/2022 22:28

I don’t think it would be advised for the baby to be that close when the dye is actually on because of the fumes.

emilyintheSE · 18/01/2022 22:29

I used to take my breastfed babies in to the salon with no problem! Hair took about 3 hours at a time, baby slept or fed, or was passed around the other staff being entertained/kept happy!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 18/01/2022 22:33

[quote Anotherviewtoyou]@TestingTestingWonTooFree you seriously tried to bring a baby to a massage 😂😂😂[/quote]
Yes. They reacted about as strongly as you did Grin She was little enough to stay asleep in the car seat and I figured if she woke up, it was my look out.

tearinghairout · 18/01/2022 22:35

I know my hairdresser would be happy with this.

Bizawit · 18/01/2022 22:37

I don’t get it. Why is it obviously ok to bring a baby to a hairdresser, but hilarious to think it would be acceptable to bring one to a massage 😫. How does everyone know these rules?

Incidentally , I really need an eyelash tint and my eyebrows threaded, does anyone know the rules for that ?

Pedalpushers · 18/01/2022 22:37

I know some places aren't keen on it because of the chemicals and electricals/heated appliances everywhere l, my nails place doesn't allow babies in because solvents in the air can be hazardous to their lungs. Ask before you go!

angelikacpickles · 18/01/2022 22:42

@Bizawit

I don’t get it. Why is it obviously ok to bring a baby to a hairdresser, but hilarious to think it would be acceptable to bring one to a massage 😫. How does everyone know these rules?

Incidentally , I really need an eyelash tint and my eyebrows threaded, does anyone know the rules for that ?

Er, because you can hold a baby while having your hair done but not while having a massage?
Halfabag · 18/01/2022 22:52

Was there more than one treatment room for massages? Because they wouldn’t want others having a massage being disturbed. OP if your husband is happy to bring baby in for a feed while the colour is processing it would probably be ok but having a newborn in your arms would potentially make the process longer/more difficult. Never mind the sprays and fumes etc

Sunbeams09 · 18/01/2022 23:07

That’s what we do, my husband brings the baby in for a feed, my hair takes a while to bleach so I can be up to 4 hours. We used to all get our hair done at the same time but the last time my toddler ran riot and then the baby started crying at the same time and I felt so bad for all the ladies who have probably come in to escape their little darlings that from now on I have decreed that DH and the kids go together and I go on my own Grin DH has actually gone for it as well which surprised me!

Anotherviewtoyou · 19/01/2022 08:48

@emilyintheSE

I used to take my breastfed babies in to the salon with no problem! Hair took about 3 hours at a time, baby slept or fed, or was passed around the other staff being entertained/kept happy!
It’s a big imposition expecting staff to mind your child. Did they not need to work on other clients? I wouldn’t be very happy if I went to work and ended up having to mind some random woman’s baby.