I got married last year. Me and my husband have been together years with three kids. All three have my surname although they are his. I have just called the registry office to enquire about changing their surname to his but I'm struggling. I'm still using my maiden name at present (I also prefer my maiden name to be honest).
I'm struggling with the whole concept of changing my name. I feel like it's my identity. My husband would like me to change my name as he wants the whole family to have the same surname as he says he feels like the outsider and that people think he's the step-Dad. If it wasn't for the children, I would probably just keep my original name. I know I don't really have any other options as it would be nice for us all to have the same family name but I just feel like it's not me. I keep putting it off, am I being unreasonable?