My mum was exposed to Covid and then had my now poorly son for the night

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My toddler became unwell yesterday. Firstly waking up all snotty so I suspected just a cold but in the evening he had a temp of 38.8, became lethargic and floppy, difficult to wake, and tachycardic. We were so scared that we called 111 who sent out paramedics to check him. He suddenly bounced back despite the temperature so they weren’t worried. Today he’s been on and off, we’ve been cycling calpol and nurofen, there was a time this evening where he was inconsolable, we’re keeping a close eye.

Anyway, my mum had him last Wednesday and it turns out that she had allowed her employee back into the office despite her daughter having Covid. As far as I’m aware, the employee warned her that she had not isolated for long enough and my mum told her to come back in anyway as she had ‘missed her’. It’s just the two of them and they sit closely together.

She did not make me aware of this and we have all been around her, I found out on Facebook on a group I was invited to.

I haven’t told her I know as to be honest I am angry about it, and worried my toddler has Covid. We’ve tried a couple of tests on him but they keep saying void because it’s just too difficult. I know if he does there is nothing we can do now.

She has asked to have him again this week and I have said I am keeping him home until this subsides. She keeps telling me that she will ‘see how he is on X Y Z’ and not taking no for an answer.

She’s adamant that is just a cold but really pushing the whole cold thing. It could just be a cold. But I am upset that she has risked my son and even now isn’t listening or making me aware of her employee.

Maybe I’m being over the top but I don’t think I am? It’s horrible to see him like this and whether it’s a cold or not, she allowed someone who had been directly exposed to Covid into her home (she has a home office), and asked to have our son for the day soon after.

I don’t know; am I overreacting?

As I said I’m just keeping him home and watching him very closely as I am feeling anxious. But if I’d known about her employee I wouldn’t have allowed him to go.

Why do you think colleague was meant to be isolating?

@elelel

Your mum wasn't exposed to covid. That would require her to have been with the colleagues daughter.

Exactly. This whole thing makes no sense.

@Fuuuuuckit

On what grounds was the colleague supposed to be isolating OP?

If she's not fully vaccinated

YANBU! It sounds like the woman had been working in the environment that your son then went into so you should have been told that she had had direct covid exposure.

I don't understand everyone's objection to your use of the word tachycardia, it's a normal English word! A fever and tachycardia (fast heart rate) are key red flag symptoms of sepsis so it's really important that people are aware of them and I don't think this has anything to do with your health anxiety.

If she's not fully vaccinated

I don't think op has said this

@Flowersandhearts but she hasn't had direct covid exposure
Her mums coleagues daughter had it not the colleague
Thats not direct contact as no proof the colleague had it

If your mum, and her employee are negative then there is no way they could have passed it to your son, it does just sound like he has a nasty non covid bug/virus. Because my 2yo hasn't really been exposed to much, the couple of bugs she has had (a sickness bug and a really cracking cold) were quite severe, strangely much more so than when she actually had covid, it didn't seem to affect her too much thankfully. Worth pointing out too that we were quite covid strict and followed all the rules to the letter and we still caught it, you can catch it anywhere, and your mum's employee didn't need to isolate if she was double jabbed so they didn't even do anything wrong.

YABU about your mum pushing for sleepovers etc. though, that is your decision and if he's poorly then he should be at home with you.