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To think this was not called for.
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CA0932017 · 17/01/2022 14:59

Back story. There's been a major outbreak of covid in Dd's class since going back to school after Christmas. Most of the class tested positive the first week back, last weekend a few this week just gone by. All but 5 or so have tested positive. Mostly mild.some are back today or tomorrow.

Dd had covid early December and was told she'd unlikely get it again so soon. I did however do a couple lft's on her in the last week which were negative, she has been in school last week as that's what's expected as she's symptom free.

She complained of a sore throat last night, did an lft was which was very faint but there. Stronger today with cold like symptoms. She's got it again for sure 😪

Anyway Dd has a close friend in the same class that has also escaped the dreaded covid - so far. But her mum has not been testing her, just looking for our symptoms which is fine!

Anyway, we met up for a walk with her friend on Saturday. Fast forward to Sunday, I told her friends mum about the positive lft and she's got shitty saying how we've put them at the risk. We couldn't predict that Dd would get it again so soon. I'm negative so far!

Firstly - they are in the same bloody class so hugely likely her friend could get it from school anyway. Dd has clearly got it from school after the outbreak. Also, dd's friend could have it for all she knows. She hasn't tested her. Dd was totally asymptomatic last month, wouldn't have known without testing. Both me and dp had it and she got to the tail end of our isolation before testing positive. Thought she had missed until we did her last planned lft!!

So aibu to think it's inappropriate to get shitty with me over all this? They were together all day on Friday at school anyway. Saturday made little difference. We were outside too!

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DustyMaiden · 17/01/2022 15:02

Her DM made the choice to meet up. Her problem. As you say they were in school anyway.

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CA0932017 · 17/01/2022 15:03

I just think if she was that worried, she should kept her off school last week. They were together all week including Friday at school. Saturday makes no difference really...

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BlowDryRat · 17/01/2022 15:05

YANBU. You're not a fortune teller and if they're together all the time then a walk outside will have made precisely no difference.

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Feelingoktoday · 17/01/2022 15:07

Not a friend. Move on.

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JugglingJanuary · 17/01/2022 15:09

Tell the mad bat, her UNTESTED daughter is just have likely to have given it to your DD.

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Hemingwayzcatz · 17/01/2022 15:09

She isn’t a friend and she sounds a bit dim.

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vodkaredbullgirl · 17/01/2022 15:10

Her daughter will probably catch it from school.

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Wolfiefan · 17/01/2022 15:10

That’s ridiculous. I went for a walk with a friend. She then messaged me the very next day to say she had tested positive. She was worried as I was CEV. She’s not clairvoyant and had no idea she had COVID. Why on earth would I be shitty over that??
Some people are weird.

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minniep · 17/01/2022 15:12

YANBU she is being ridiculous. It's rampant everywhere right now. Somehow we have escaped it so far in this house despite having two DC in school and similar story to you OP with most of the class having it. DD2 did however get an awful dose of hand foot and mouth while at the same time DD1 came home with head lice so I'd have much preferred covid I think .

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ChargingBuck · 17/01/2022 15:18

I told her friends mum about the positive lft and she's got shitty saying how we've put them at the risk.

Same friend who doesn't bother testing her own kids - but met up with you for this walk? What a towering hypocrite!

Maybe she or her DC are who your DD caught it from ...

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SuspiciousHumanoid · 17/01/2022 15:20

Erm… covid is everywhere, everybody is going to get it in the next few weeks if they don’t already have it. When DS went back to school I said we’d have it within a couple of weeks, lo and behold, we have Covid. This woman is batshit and I’d just laugh at her.

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CA0932017 · 17/01/2022 15:20

@ChargingBuck

I told her friends mum about the positive lft and she's got shitty saying how we've put them at the risk.

Same friend who doesn't bother testing her own kids - but met up with you for this walk? What a towering hypocrite!

Maybe she or her DC are who your DD caught it from ...

I mean we would never know but definitely a possibility. There were very few children left in the class by the end of last week! I honestly thought Dd would be the last one not positive cos she's had it before very recently 😪
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PeonyAndSweetpea · 17/01/2022 15:20

It's a case of six or two threes really. Friend is a overreacting, but there may be a reason for it that is unknown to you.

However, I do think you and your DD should have done a LFT yesterday before meeting people......it may still have shown negative (who knows) but I just think if you're meeting people outside of your household or going somewhere busy, there is no harm in taking a LFT before you go.

Personally I'd inwardly sigh, roll my eyes and distance myself from the mum as I'd consider her a bit batty.

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CA0932017 · 17/01/2022 15:21

@SuspiciousHumanoid

Erm… covid is everywhere, everybody is going to get it in the next few weeks if they don’t already have it. When DS went back to school I said we’d have it within a couple of weeks, lo and behold, we have Covid. This woman is batshit and I’d just laugh at her.

We are on round 2 since December after avoiding it altogether since it all started. Crazy but I assume we had delta then omicron and Dd has been reinfected because she had no symptoms last time - now she has! 🤷‍♀️
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CA0932017 · 17/01/2022 15:24

@PeonyAndSweetpea

It's a case of six or two threes really. Friend is a overreacting, but there may be a reason for it that is unknown to you.

However, I do think you and your DD should have done a LFT yesterday before meeting people......it may still have shown negative (who knows) but I just think if you're meeting people outside of your household or going somewhere busy, there is no harm in taking a LFT before you go.

Personally I'd inwardly sigh, roll my eyes and distance myself from the mum as I'd consider her a bit batty.

We had covid in early - mid December and shouldn't have been been testing at all under current guidance if no symptoms but we were doing lft's all last week as precaution which were all negative and was told by a doctor we were unlikely to get it again...

Dd had a very faint line yesterday and then a negative afterwards. Stronger line today. It would have almost definitely been negative on Saturday.

She's not tested herself or her kids at all... despite the outbreak.
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SuspiciousHumanoid · 17/01/2022 15:25

Yep, my nephew has had it twice in the last six weeks as well, mild symptoms both times. DS’s friend has had it twice since Christmas, mild symptoms both times. It’s just a Covid merry-go-round at the moment.

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sparepantsandtoothbrush · 17/01/2022 15:25

@PeonyAndSweetpea

It's a case of six or two threes really. Friend is a overreacting, but there may be a reason for it that is unknown to you.

However, I do think you and your DD should have done a LFT yesterday before meeting people......it may still have shown negative (who knows) but I just think if you're meeting people outside of your household or going somewhere busy, there is no harm in taking a LFT before you go.

Personally I'd inwardly sigh, roll my eyes and distance myself from the mum as I'd consider her a bit batty.

The other mum isn't testing her daughter so why should OP have bothered before meeting up. The friend might be asymptomatic and spreading it around everywhere they go any way!
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CA0932017 · 17/01/2022 15:27

Plus her child got sent home feeling tired and headache last week. School couldn't force a test as not the main three. She was back e next day. Not anyone's fault, not hers, not mine. I just don't think anyone can criticise when you aren't following the guidance either! I hate feeling like I've upset people but I haven't done anything wrong I don't think! 😪

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CA0932017 · 17/01/2022 15:28

@SuspiciousHumanoid

Yep, my nephew has had it twice in the last six weeks as well, mild symptoms both times. DS’s friend has had it twice since Christmas, mild symptoms both times. It’s just a Covid merry-go-round at the moment.

Not good is it! Worrying times - even if symptoms are mild I can't keep doing this over and over again! Isolating again sucks!
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Forrandomposts · 17/01/2022 15:40

Any chance she misunderstood and thinks you've have a positive pcr, ie thinks you knew on Saturday that it was possible?

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Sparklfairy · 17/01/2022 15:41

Is she one of those that buries her head in the sand and thinks "if you don't test, you don't have it"? A lot of people don't want the fallout that comes with a positive test, whether that's cancelling plans or time off work, so just avoid testing.

If the DD went home feeling ill the other day your DD could have caught it from her as much as anyone from school.

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PeonyAndSweetpea · 17/01/2022 15:42

@sparepantsandtoothbrush - ummm....just because someone chooses not to test doesn't mean another person should also not test. Your logic is flawed.

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AryaStarkWolf · 17/01/2022 15:45

What an idiot, anyone she comes in contact with could test positive, you're not psychic and if she's that worried she needs to stay away from people full stop

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ElliotGoss · 17/01/2022 15:50

@PeonyAndSweetpea

It's a case of six or two threes really. Friend is a overreacting, but there may be a reason for it that is unknown to you.

However, I do think you and your DD should have done a LFT yesterday before meeting people......it may still have shown negative (who knows) but I just think if you're meeting people outside of your household or going somewhere busy, there is no harm in taking a LFT before you go.

Personally I'd inwardly sigh, roll my eyes and distance myself from the mum as I'd consider her a bit batty.

Have you seen how hard it is to get LFTs?
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ShouldIStaySelfIsolated · 17/01/2022 15:51

One of the kids in an extracurricular class that DD does had a headache last week for a few hours. Her mum did an LFT as a precaution and she was shocked it twas positive... that was literally the only symptom, a headache for a few hours. Your kid's friend had it last week for sure

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