To ask you to tell me about when you’ve experienced ‘mother’s intuition’?

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Sort of inspired by the fascinating matrix thread.

What stories do you have of your intuition telling you something about your child(ren)?

I don’t have any majorly weird ones but I still find it so weird that I just know when DS is going to be ill before he even shows any symptoms. Quite a few times I’ve brought calpol and a bowl up to bed knowing full well he is going to get a fever and be sick even though there are absolutely no reasons for me to think this. DH even finds it a bit weird still as he doesn’t get this even though he is very close to DS also.

I knew from the moment DH and I decided to go for DC4 that I wouldn't be giving birth naturally. I knew i wanted another child but i really didn't want to go through labour and natural birth again.

I had delivered 3 babies naturally (including twins) with no issues, no reason to think i couldn't again. sure enough my 12wk scan showed placenta previa. I was told not to worry and that for over 90% of women the placenta moves. I just knew it wouldn't and sure enough it stayed firmly in the way.

DC4 born by planned c/s - no labour or natural birth!

I knew when my baby was out of theatre (the operating kind). We’d had a rough few days and I was sleeping during his op - then I woke suddenly and had let down (he was breast fed) and said to my husband “he’s awake” - then the phone rang and the nurses came to tell us the same.

@LowlyTheWorm

I’ve known both times my daughter has been pregnant. Does that count?

My own mother is much better than any pregnancy test. She has been right every single time for me. Its like she can smell it!

In the interest of balance… I KNEW when I was pg I was having a girl, I had a clear picture of what she would look like and her personality. Much to my surprise a boy popped out who was the complete opposite in personality to the little person I was definitely sure was coming

First time I found out I had the sense, my son was at the bottom of a swimming pool... just had a feeling to go find him immediately!

So I always listen to the feeling now...

Mostly all grown up now... but if I text are you okay? They know something is about to happen or it has happened. Or they are usually about to make a bad decision and have a think on it.

No nothing like this. The opposite! I can be sixth sense y about other people but am hopeless about my own 2. Went into early labour both times took me totally by surprise

When my waters broke with DD (first child), I went straight to hospital only to be sent home again until I was dilated more. A few hours later I went back and they sent me home again. I did not want to be home I knew I needed to be in hospital even though at this point it all seemed to be a normal Labour. The third time I went I was determined to stay. They got a bed for me and I immediately knew I was safe and relaxed. I didn’t know what was going to happen but I knew I needed to be in a place where they could deal with it and I’d be ok along with the baby. After a few hours I had an emergency section. I was completely calm because I knew it was going to be all right. Had I been anywhere but that wonderful, big, consultant led special maternity hospital, it wouldn’t have had a happy ending. I just know this

I remember looking at my 1 year old son across the room at an extremely busy family party, just at the moment he was reaching for the massive knife they'd just used to cut the cake. I seemed to shoot across the room through the crowd in an instant.

Same thing happened when my other toddler son reached up and grabbed a hot cup of tea he was about to pour all over himself.

I knew my dd was pregnant before she told anyone and was only 5 weeks. I just got a feeling about my DS (adult) on Saturday, so I rang him and he admitted he was feeling down. I do t normally ring DH once he has left for work. Once about 9 years ago I suddenly got an uneasy feeling and did not know why. I made some coffee and tried to push it away but it would not leave me. I rang DH. He had crashed his car after skidding on black ice and spun off the road and rolled down a bank. A dog walker heard his phone ringing and went to see where from. His car could not be seen from road but she heard phone. DH was unconscious, loosing a lot of blood from spleen and had a fractured spine. Had dog walker not found him I don't know if he would have survived because of blood loss. In hospital he asked why I called. All I could say was I sensed something was not right.

I always know when my kids are sick. I can predict what my eldest is going to do pretty accurately. He smells funny to me when he's I'll. I can count the amount of times I have woken up 5 mins before my kids have when they want me/are ill /distressed in the night.

Funnily enough, I don't think it's all biological, as my eldest is adopted and my intuition for him is probably more accurate than my youngest who is a birth child.

@FortySeven I am dying to know abouy empty eyes woman!

33 weeks into my pregnancy, I knew that something wasn't right. It was a high risk multiple pregnancy. I popped up to the hospital where I was treated as a time waster until they checked my BP and it was sky high. Kids were born a couple of days later tiny bit healthy.

DS recently had bronchiolitis and had to be admitted to hospital for oxygen and a feeding tube. I woke up in the night and knew there was something wrong beyond the usual cold/virus so I took him to A&E. At the time my DH thought I was really overreacting but I'm glad I listened to my instincts because he would have needed an ambulance if left much longer at home.

Slightly different but I have always felt a tug towards my mum - like if you're in a shop and have separated and you're not sure where they are, I've always known which direction to go in to find her.

Went into labour with dc1, knew there was something wrong. Took me days to convince the doctors but I was right...he was stuck and no amount of pushing or pulling could resolve it.
When he was 2, woke up in the night panicking. He was running a terrible fever and vomited within minutes of me entering his room. He sleeps on his back.

Went into labour with dc2 and felt the same dread as with dc1. This time they listened and I got an amazing semi emcs. I'll never forget the intake of breath from the consultant as she lifted dd out. The cord was problematic in multiple ways (looked like she'd been bungee jumping in it, she was so tangled) and they told me I'd made the right decision.

Yes saved their lives multiple times. The doctor told me that they (personally) will always trust the mother’s intuition because it’s so often right. They grew inside us, they are an extension of us and we can sense them in ways we can’t with other people.

I know when ds1 is going to be ill. His breath smells different.

I can tell when DC are going to be poorly too, their sweat smells different. DS’s eyes also look tired when he’s about to come down with a virus and DD’s breath smells bad.

I once woke up in the middle of the night to check on DC1 which I didn’t often do, he was about 14 months old at the time. Anyway, he was choking on his vomit in bed. Absolutely terrifying and horrendous to think of the outcome had I not randomly woke up… He’s almost 12 now and absolutely fine, thankfully.

I think it's fairly well known that mums 'know' when their kids are sick. Certainly I've always had doctors listen to me and ask me what I've thought about how ill I think they are.

I'd like to hear from a doctor actually if it's something that's ever discussed during training and what do doctors generally think about 'mothers intuition'?

I used to work in the catering industry, one day we had extra tight security in and we had to lock our phones away. I was on my break and couldn't shift the feeling that the school could phone so I asked the security if I could please check my phone, as soon as I switched my phone on the school rang to let me know my son wasn't well and needed picking up.

Ds2 was eight months old. I put him down for a nap after an uneventful morning. Went to get him up and there was more vomit in his cot than I had ever seen from a baby. I had no idea why but I knew I had to get him to A&E.
The nurse who saw him first dismissed me as neurotic saying all babies are sick at times but I was feeling increasingly distraught. The doctor who saw him decided to admit him for observation even though he hadn't been sick since.
The nurse who admitted him on the ward was really snarky and I could tell she felt I was wasting their time. Ds had another feed and was sick again. The paed came to see him and was asking about any little mark on his skin, put him on fluids and spoke about a possible lumber puncture.
Overnight ds seemed unwell, another paed was called examined him again said that the "cherry jam" in his bum was indicative of intussusception and he would need transferring to the children's hospital for surgery.
He said to the nurse who had been really snarky "And that is mother's instinct and the reason we listen to mother's worries"
Ds recovered quickly and was soon home. He and my others had been sick previously and subsequently but I never again felt the need to take them to A&E and can't explain what made me take ds that one time.

Ds complained he had tummy ache, he didn't look particularly unwell and didn't vomit but I just knew something wasn't right.
Dh thought I was insane driving him to a&e at 2am but a few hours later he was having his appendix removed.
He'd been totally fine when he went to bed!

You just know, don't you. DS 3 had a urine infection over xmas, I knew because he started having accidents despite being potty trained a few months ago. DH was all 'Oh he just was too busy playing and forgot to go' but I just felt that there was more to it. Toom him to GP and yep, urine test positive for infection and was given antibiotics. The GP listened to me and commented that yes you just know when something isn't right don't you? Even though he hadn't got any other symptoms something just told me to get him checked out.