To ask you to tell me about when you’ve experienced ‘mother’s intuition’?

[Tryagainplease]

Sort of inspired by the fascinating matrix thread.

What stories do you have of your intuition telling you something about your child(ren)?

I don’t have any majorly weird ones but I still find it so weird that I just know when DS is going to be ill before he even shows any symptoms. Quite a few times I’ve brought calpol and a bowl up to bed knowing full well he is going to get a fever and be sick even though there are absolutely no reasons for me to think this. DH even finds it a bit weird still as he doesn’t get this even though he is very close to DS also.

Ds woke up one morning & I could tell that something wasn't right without him even speaking to me. I bundled him in the car still in his pjs & drove straight to the doctors, ringing them on the way to say I was coming & needed him to be seen urgently. The doctor took one look at him & sent us straight to hospital where he was admitted, my mum sent my dad to the hospital to meet me even before I had told her we would be going there, he was there before we were.

I do with one of my children. On several occasions I have literally looked at the phone waiting for bad news. Once was when he was mugged, once was when he had an accident and the other was when he was bitten by a stray dog.

The other one, no.

I know I can smell illness on my children and sometimes my husband too and I have a rubbish sense of smell.

But i did once drive to my daughter's school from work. I stopped outside. Realised I didn't need to be there, just then my phone rang asking me to collect her.

A car went into the back of me not long ago, after ringing my husband I called my mum just to let her know and her first question was "was it a white golf?". So random but it was, she just had a feeling!

I’d been back at work a few months after maternity leave when I suddenly felt I needed to call the child minder. A strange woman answered the phone and said she’d get the minder for me. Minder said DC is fine, she had a little bit of a tumble but she’s fine now. But how did you know I was here?
Turns out she was visiting her friend who was unknown to me and I had misdialled the number and got the friend’s phone.
What are the chances of that?

Had a childminder lined up to mind my children. On paper she was perfect but the day before they were to start i just couldn't send them (sent to a creche instead). subsequently heard some kids had a terrible time with her

I knew that DS was going to stay breech. I just knew. I remember having the anatomy scan and the tech saying he was breech, but would probably turn, but I remember thinking "nah, he's so comfy like that he won't turn" . And he didn't, he got himself stuck in a ridiculous position and had to be hauled out, via c-section, bum first and screaming indignantly while his head was still inside me. He did not want to come out at all.

@FloatyBoaty

I KNEW DS's personality before he was born. I know, I know. But the way and times he kicked and moved, the things he responded to - I predicted what he would be like, and he is, to the letter, the boy I thought he would be.

Can also "smell" illness

Often wake up in the night and drag him back from the edge of the bed just as he's about to fall (he's 5 and still cosleeping with me....)

Catch him/intercept him/redirect him JUST as he's about to have an accident

It works both ways though. DS often responds to very specific things I've thought but not said out loud - that's sometimes a bit creepy.

I also felt like I knew DDs personality from how she moved in the womb. When she came out she also looked exactly how I had imagined in my head.

Not me about my DC, but my late DM, she was always very knowing, she had this sort of way of knowing everything, from little things like when something was lost, she would know where it was immediately and then later, like the first PP said, she knew I was pregnant, always knew when I was keeping something from her and so many other things.

The only thing I had with my DC was when I had my DD 8 weeks premature, I was in the ward and she was in the special care baby unit, I had a dream that the doctors and nurses were thundering towards me saying its jenasaurus baby! I woke up and went straight to the unit, the special care nurse, said "thats so strange, your DD has just woken up and is wanting you" She wouldn't settle for anyone but me even when so premature, I managed to BF her so the nurses allowed me to sleep with her in one of the nursing sleepover rooms, it had a sofa bed and I had my DD in there with me, would never be allowed now though (this was in 1995 before my local hospital closed down) So maybe the dream she needed me was intuition, I dont know.

I knew the sex of all my children while pregnant ( before the 20 week scan obviously) i also knew that my dd would have very dark hair, skin and eyes. All my ds have fair hair and blue or green eyes.

Oh there is one other time that could have had a disastrous outcome.

My DS had just turned 3, we had moved to a new house, not far from the school where his DB went. I used to play bridge at a bowling club next door with my DM once a week and their DF would look after them on that night.

Anyway, I had played bridge for a few years and never went out to the toilets which is opposite the front door with a buzzer entry system. Anyway this one time, I just knew I had to go out there, and then I saw my 3 year old son looking in at me in the dark all alone in his pjs and wellington boots. He had had to cross a busy main road to get to where I was and I had never knowingly shown him where I play bridge to its odd he appeared there.

I called his DF up and asked him where is DS, and he said "hes asleep in bed!" I said, "no he is not he is here with me!" He had crept out of the kitchen door at the back found his wellies and crossed a busy road to get to me at about 9pm on his own. Thinking about it now makes me realise just how awful this could have been in different circumstances.

Years later and having split with their father, my adult DC told me that he couldnt cope on that one evening I went out and always shouted at them and made them sad, probably why Mat came to look for me.

My daughter, about 2 at the time, had been a bit whingey while we were out for lunch. When we got home, I put her down for a nap, but didn’t go back downstairs as I normally would, I sat outside the bedroom door. No idea why as I’d never done this before. After a little while, I heard strange noises from inside the room. Went in and she was having a seizure and choking on her vomit. I’d only just put her down so wouldn’t have checked on her for ages if I’d gone downstairs. Something made me sit outside the door. Luckily able to move her, phone for an ambulance and she was fine.

Loads of things that are 'weird' but the one I always found strange was knowing my grown up sons were about to come in when they had been out, as in waking up knowing their key was going to turn in the door within a couple of minutes even though it was various times.

Oooo my gran always said she knew the sex of all of her pregnancies too. Never knew myself, but my cousin appears to have this knack

With my first DC my mum dreamt I was pregnant the night before I came to see her, she also got the sex right. There are loads of little examples and I kick myself any time I don’t follow my instincts with DC. Even if not logical they are always right.

My GM (born in 1892) who died when I was 21 so I spent lots of time listening to her tales of the past. One thing she said she did, just after the war, she had laid the table for her family and called out "come in Frank, your dinners ready" her brother Frank appeared at the door at that point. Now this may not seem off until she told me that Frank had been away with the army and was presumed dead. That I did find very strange. but in a good way.

This is fascinating. I don't have any great stories of intuition yet with my 5 year old, but maybe that's a good thing as most of these stories seem to involve near tragedies 😳

I can always tell when 4yo DS is ill. It's the smell and the lethargic look. I can also tell when he's going to be sick. The sounds he makes changes just before he vomits, as does his posture. Though I've not always been fast enough to get a sick bowl/bucket when I notice. Sometimes it has to be my hands. 🤢🤢🤢
Another thing is when he has hiccups I know he's suffering from reflux caused by CMPA. When that happens I reduce/cut out dairy and give him his omeprazole. Will stop the hiccups really quickly and stops him being sick.

On the other side I'm not always aware of his proximity. I know he's around, but not how close. He sometimes has a tendency to follow me around and stand really close, and because he's so short I can't see him so may accidentally knock him over with my bum or when turning round. A few times he's walked face first into my backside when I've stopped suddenly and he hasn't. 🤣🤣

My daughter is a year old at the end of this
month so I haven’t had much chance to have my intuition tested however - I knew exactly what day she was going to be born. My community midwife was going through the details of my dating scan with me and said ‘ahh so due date is x date…’ ‘ yes’ I replied ‘ but that’s wrong. She’ll be three days before then and be born early in the morning’.
And I was exactly right.

I also knew from the moment of the positive pregnancy test that she would be a girl but that’s more 50:50 I suppose.

So far I think I’ve only had the strange impulse to check DD’s hair the one time (so far, fingers crossed!) that she got nits! There was only one louse and some eggs, so it was clearly a very recent infestation. No idea why I suddenly felt I had to check, she hadn’t been doing anything out of the ordinary.

Maybe I can sense nits. What a superpower to have

@FortySeven

At a wedding, the mum of my cousin’s DP offered to take DD (then age 4) for a walk around the grounds. She was a very respectable-looking 60-something softly spoken lady but every fibre of my being was screaming not to let her near DD so I made an excuse and avoided her for the rest of the day. It became apparent through her actions years later that she was an utterly evil human being. It sounds silly but she had an emptiness in her eyes and I couldn’t get my DD away from her fast enough that day.

Chilling

My first born baby (born in 1999) was keeping up with all his milestones. Smiley and alert.
I had no reason whatsoever to think that anything could be wrong, yet from when he was just a few months old I had this unexplainable fear that he would never talk.
Everyone around me told me I was being ridiculous, "Of course he'll talk!"

When he turned a year old he gradually began drifting away from me.
He lost eye contact and his smile was replaced by a blank expression.
I waited and waited for his first word, but it never came.

He's 22 now. He's never spoken a word in his life, but has a smile that can light up the darkest of days.

I knew I was having a girl from the moment I knew I was pregnant; I was so sure, I referred to her as she in my head. To the point I started getting annoyed when people said "Oh its definitely a boy"... No, SHE is a girl I think some of my vehemence was hormonal

Now, I always know if she's going to be ill. We wake up in the morning and I just know.

Like PP, I too can smell sickness on people, funnily enough. I said to my DSis yesterday that I can always smell when people are ill and at work they never used to believe me. I'd ask the person if they were okay (as I could smell "the ill") and they'd say yes, but every time they'd be throwing up or stuck in the toilet before the end of their shift.

So many times over the years... my kids are adults now but if there is something wrong, I get such a strong urge to ring them..and it's never wrong. For some reason it's strongest with DD2 (third child of four).. . a few times I found myself heading up the motorway when she was at Uni, because I felt so strongly she needed her Mum. I was never wrong!

I knew when DD had meningitis, the on call GP didn’t respond appropriately ( I took her in an hour before the appointment) and the Consultant was going to send her home the next day but a nurse who knew DD told her that she was normally a lively little girl and that I was greatly concerned. They kept her another day and she became worse and delirious, the initial test didn’t show but the tests that grow came back. The Consultant came and apologised as DD did have meningitis, we were in for a week. She mainly recovered but lost some of her ability to do Maths and still gets extremely severe headaches occasionally.

Underthestairsbears That is interesting. I have also had dreams about things that came true. It is a bit scary isn’t it. I dreamt I would haemorrhage when I was pregnant with DS3. I had the same dream thirteen days after having him. I was haemorrhaging. GP came and drove me to hospital as no ambulances available.
So lucky you knew about your son. Your DH will probably believe you if you have any more. I had one about an accident. DH should have been on the flight but went two days earlier. It was the same aircraft. People died. He believed me after that.