Do I speak to the doctor about this or is this normal? 3 year old hitting

[wingingit987]

I’m starting to become worried about my 3 year olds behavior. Especially how aggressive he’s becoming I seem to be getting the brunt of it.

During tantrums he will kick, bite, pinch and claw at me. These tantrums over the last week 4 have been happening multiple times a day mostly when we say no. Which I think is ordinary. However I'm concerned with how angry he is getting. He growls at you and will literally claw at you.

We are doing time out and lots and lots of praise for any little good thing but I’m really struggling with the hitting. We do sticker charts and that isn’t working.

I literally feel that I'm being beaten up my my 3 year old. Today I've been punched kicked smacked scratched and pinched multiple times.

I'm continuously on the verge of tears.

Yay! Glad it's working for you. No second chance, just leave is a good idea. Fingers crossed!

Well we had good week with behavior or so I thought, we've been ignoring bad behavior leaving the room if we need to and giving lots of praise. We've had a couple of hiccups but normal 3 year old behavior.

Then today it's was time to brush his teeth before bed all hell broke loose. He punched smacked me, I held his hands and said stop and he proceeded to then trying to head butt me.

A talk between my son and my oh once he had calmed down he knows what he did was really wrong and he's made everyone sad but I literally cannot handle the being hit thing. I can't, I went into my bedroom after with a glass of wine and cried.

I'll persist but god this is bloody hard

@wingingit987

Well we had good week with behavior or so I thought, we've been ignoring bad behavior leaving the room if we need to and giving lots of praise. We've had a couple of hiccups but normal 3 year old behavior.

Then today it's was time to brush his teeth before bed all hell broke loose. He punched smacked me, I held his hands and said stop and he proceeded to then trying to head butt me.

A talk between my son and my oh once he had calmed down he knows what he did was really wrong and he's made everyone sad but I literally cannot handle the being hit thing. I can't, I went into my bedroom after with a glass of wine and cried.

I'll persist but god this is bloody hard

It is hard but keep going, be persistent. We have had a couple of really bad days but yesterday was brilliant with DS, he was lovely and calm. We have also found that bringing bath time forward by 20 minutes helps reduce tantrums at the witching hour 😬

You will get there. I have found it a relief speaking to someone outside of the home. Now the HV and nursery are aware, it's a massive weight of my shoulders. I am finding it easier to stay calm each time.

Nursery key worker also speaks to DS if we have had a previous bad day.

Please can someone advise on what to do.
My dd is 22 months old, she's been going through biting and scramming phase for sooo long now. Only seems to do it to younger boys in playgroups/ soft plays. She plays lovely with older children or girls her own age.
I'm scared to take her anywhere because of the embarrassment of her hurting a child and having to apologise the other mother.
Please can someone share similar experiences and how to handle?

@wingingit987

how did you get on? Sorry for reviving ghost thread