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To ask what are the most thoughtful things people do for you?

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NameChangeCity123 · 16/01/2022 12:18

My husband got the baby up, ready and took him a walk today so I could have a lie in (He's dressed him in his pyjamas but it's the thought that counts 😂)

What are the nicest things people do for you that make a difference?

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Ragwort · 16/01/2022 14:07

Eishet - that's lovely and bought tears to my eye, my dad died this year (aged 90 so I was lucky to have him for so long) but he always went out to the car with me when I was leaving to make sure everything was OK. When I stayed with my DPs he would wash the car too (even in his 80s).

WarmSeaSwimmer · 16/01/2022 14:15

DH scrapes the ice off my car windscreen before work. A bunch of flowers and my favourite Saturday newspaper every week. He does the weekly supermarket shop as he knows I hate going. He remembers little things I've said and will often surprise me by doing a DIY job around the house that I've mentioned in passing or buying a gift related to something I said in conversation.

LondonWolf · 16/01/2022 14:15

My SIL looks after my dog whenever I go away despite not having a dog or even particularly being a dog lover herself. Saves me a fortune and I know he's in good, kind hands.

My dd goes and gets my warm bathrobe and a towel out of the dryer, brings them to the bathroom and leaves them outside when I call and tell her I am getting out. Tbf I always did it for my children too - it's a family habit - but it's lovely.

Worriedmum40284 · 16/01/2022 14:19

My 5 year old had a Christmas shopping day st school - they took £2 in to buy 2 presents for family or friends and staff helped wrap them.

The first one was a ball for me obviously bought for himself

He was really excited to give me the second one as he 'saw me eat them every night'. It was a Terry's chocolate orange (I do eat a fair few over but absolutely not every night!) He said he recognised it as he sometimes saw the box left in the morning and knew I would like it. His thoughtful little mind made me cry happy tears

WinnersDinner · 16/01/2022 14:20

When I visit my mum I revert to being a child and it's bliss

She takes care of me, gives me head rubs, massages my feet, waits on me hand and foot - she loves it and so do I

DH is always doing thoughtful things, he booked a weekend break to Paris for next week as I was getting stressed at work and he wanted for me to be able to have a relax, kids are going to the ILs.

He often brings flowers home at the end of the day, little notes for when I wake up if I have an important meeting or have been worried about something (often a post it on my laptop so I see it when I log on)

DDad comes round every other week to clean my car, and always gets a new novelty air freshener to leave which is sweet.

I'm lucky that the kids are quite thoughtful too, I get breakfast in bed much more regularly than just on Mother's Day for example. I think DS has got this from seeing his dad bring flowers home a lot and he also sometimes picks something on his lunch and saves it for when I pick him up.

vintage21 · 16/01/2022 14:27

so many but a few stick out in my mind
when I had to have my dog unexpectedly put to sleep all the staff at the vets left us to say our goodbyes in our own time as long as we wanted, then when we left the room, the staff were all waiting in the reception for us gave us all big hugs. after sent us a lovely card and enclosed some forget me not seeds to plant for remembrance.
the morning after I had to go to work I was in a shop and on the doorstep was a lovely bunch of pretty natural wildflowers in a vase. I cried all the more it was such a lovely gesture as they knew how much I was hurting. it took me ages to find out who it was she is a lovely lady this week she came to buy yarn from my market stall and I helped her with a problem knitting and she said I was her hero! I love to see her
My DP brings me flowers and a cup of tea in bed but not regularly and I think that makes it all the more special as it is so unexpected rather than routine

Nemorth · 17/01/2022 09:47

I hate getting my bike out of the shed and I hate putting it away. My DH and my DS both do this for me. Even tolerating the bike sock and padding I've bought to protect the paint work! It's not easy to put on the bike sock, but they'll both do it. Superstars. I am effusive with my thanks.

MrsToothyBitch · 17/01/2022 10:26

He buys me chocolate without fail for my period and runs me a bath and rubs my back as often as needed.

So many things but he's amazing when I'm ill and I just so appreciate being looked after.

Chely · 17/01/2022 10:37

My mum invites us for dinner every couple of weeks, nice not to have to cook a big meal.
Other than that it's always me doing, I do struggle allowing people to help because of my OCD.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 17/01/2022 10:43

If I’m at my parents house, my dad will often clean my car for me.

DH facilitates my insane working hours with very little complaint (any complaining is aimed at management rather than me).

My mum keeps on top of DD1’s school commitments because she knows that I don’t have the mental space to cope with it all.

CurryLover55 · 17/01/2022 10:51

I had a really thoughtful Christmas present from DH. I’d already had my main present then he got me something to open on the day. It was instant hot chocolate because I don’t drink tea anymore, a lovely big mug with bunnies on it ( we have 4 rabbits), Lindor truffles which he knows I really like & some socks with little sayings on “ I am beautiful “ & “ I am enough”. The socks made me cry. I loved that present as he’d really considered what to buy me.

Frymetothemoon · 17/01/2022 10:57

When I stay with my aunt, she somehow magically slips into my room and pops a hot-water bottle in my bed, with my pyjamas wrapped around it, so that both are lovely and warm when I go to bed.

MintyGreenDream · 17/01/2022 11:10

Dh fills my car with diesel and makes sure ive got enough wood in the house for the logburner (works away mon - fri)

heathspeedwell · 17/01/2022 11:11

My DH is thoughtful in countless ways but one thing that always makes my heart swell is that he takes the time to put my socks in neatly-folded pairs. I am hopeless at doing stuff like that, so it tickles me every time I open the drawer and see them so neat and cosy.

katmarie · 17/01/2022 11:29

Whenever I pull up at my parents house my dad always comes out to the car to see me in and carry any bags I have. He's 75, and I'm stronger than him, but he insists. And always sees me out too, again with my bags. It's a little thing but it just reminds me that he's still my dad, even now I'm all grown up.

HumbugWhale · 17/01/2022 11:32

Dh brings me a cuppa every morning. He also makes me a flask of tea to take to work.

ShortDaze · 17/01/2022 11:36

When I drive down to my parents’ house, I usually arrive late (after midnight) and let myself in. My mum always leaves a hot water bottle in each bed (me, both DC) so we can get into a warm bed.

PoptartPoptart · 17/01/2022 11:43

Sometimes my DH will secretly sneak a small treat into my lunch bag along with a little note. Always makes me smile when I find them at lunchtime

CurryLover55 · 17/01/2022 15:05

My Dad is brilliant, so generous & thoughtful. I’d be here all day listing all the examples but the one that sticks in my mind the most is when I was little & had a stinking cold. He bought me a single red rose, bless him.

WeeFae · 17/01/2022 15:07

I'm going through chemo at the moment and it can be really brutal. Someone sent me some new PJs in the post, which was just so lovely. They were amazing to change into after getting home, and my DH had our bed all changed and ready, it was blissful.

Im hoping a new book and some Hotel Choclat arrive in time fo m next scheme

BlowDryRat · 17/01/2022 15:09

DH entertains the DC so that I can have a nap one day at the weekend. I cannot tell you how much I love this nap.

Im2022 · 17/01/2022 15:14

DH always buys me my signature perfume when it runs out. He says it reminds him of when we first got together so loves to smell it on my neck all the time :)

WeeFae · 17/01/2022 15:15

Also, all my friends that drop everything to take me to hospital appointments, emergency hospital check-ups when I get ill and generally just being right by my side through this.

Frymetothemoon · 17/01/2022 15:48

DH leaves me a note and my breakfast all laid out on days he goes to the office and I don’t. He also makes a supreme effort to be as quiet as possible while he’s getting ready so that I can go back to sleep

Carinattheliqorstore1 · 17/01/2022 21:29

DH makes me a cup of tea every morning to take to work. And he gets my lunch bag ready.

I make him a cup of tea every night after DS is asleep, and make the sandwiches every night as one night he admitted he hates making them.

When I was pregnant I was a bit fat and hormonal as I didn’t fit into any of my clothes. DH went onto ASOS and choose a bunch of dresses in my style and ordered them for me

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