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To think this meeting is something bad

51 replies

MagicKit · 14/01/2022 14:24

I do suffer from a bit of anxiety so want to know if I am being unreasonable

DH has just had a text from his manager asking him to go into the office in person on his day of and "catch up"

Catch up with what?? Dh said he can't think of anything he's done wrong, followed every procedure, all safety adhered to, productivity excellent, he doesn't get involved in any workplace shit talking, so he thinks it's just a catch up.

I think they can schedule those when he's on shift! Not expect him to give his free time. But also, I'm worried he's about to get sacked. He shouldn't, but I'm worried. Who vaguely asks for a catch up in person?? If it was a catch up, it could be done over the phone!

OP posts:
BlueSky8 · 14/01/2022 14:26

Redundancy
Company take over
Have been my two experiences with this.

Could be totally innocent though and they just need to let him know afew things which happening within the company etc.

Payrise
New contract to sign etc

IsDaveThere · 14/01/2022 14:28

How long as he worked there? If he's been there over two years, they can't just sack him, there would need to be warnings/disciplinarys etc first.

Ricksteinsfishwife · 14/01/2022 14:29

When’s the last time he had a face to face with his manager?

Woffle · 14/01/2022 14:31

I would feel so anxious too. This has happened to me twice - once was a redundancy and once was a bonus! Fingers crossed it’s the latter Smile

Joined4this · 14/01/2022 14:32

It’s definitely not good. However, it might not be something he’s done if he really is sure he’s followed procedure. It might be that someone else is under investigation or also a lateral move or news of a takeover. So, no point worrying just get but possibly work getting his work ducks in a row and looking for new opportunities.

Woffle · 14/01/2022 14:32

Missed the part that they want to see him on his day off - no chance!! They shouldn’t be doing that.

WindyState · 14/01/2022 14:32

"Sure thing Boss, can I ask what this is about?"

Surely.

Woffle · 14/01/2022 14:32

If it were me I would get him to call the manager and ask what it’s about - now!

RedskyThisNight · 14/01/2022 14:34

Does the manager actually realise it's his day off? As in, was this acknowledged in the text?

If he's trying to arrange catchups with all his team, it's the sort of thing you overlook (I have an employee who doesn't work on Fridays and I am fully aware of this, but I've managed to try to organise plenty of meetings with her on Fridays ...)

CurbsideProphet · 14/01/2022 14:42

If my manager wanted to catch up in that capacity it would mean she wanted to ask me to take some extra responsibility / tell me something important about the team ie someone is leaving. However I would just ask her what we were catching up about and she would give me an outline first.

Unfortunately none of us can tell you the exact reason which is obviously what you want. Is there a reason why your DH can't just say "oh that's my day off, can you send me an email about it"?

mumofmunchkin · 14/01/2022 14:42

The only meeting I've been asked to attend on my day off was to tell us all about a merger, but I was given the option not to go and to be caught up later, and it was via Teams so I could logon to the meeting at home and be on mute while my toddler played.

I'd reply saying that it's not convenient as he doesn't work that day, could it be done on his next day in, or could he be given some indication what it's about.

HandScreen · 14/01/2022 14:43

I'm a manager, and the likelihood is the manager just doesn't remember it's your husband's day off.

Yoyokitten · 14/01/2022 14:48

When that happened to me on my day off it was a massive reorganising of the whole infrastructure, so we all needed to be there in person. Also it involved a large amount of voluntary redundancies. In my case it was necessary.
Gooduck with whatever it is for.

NoSquirrels · 14/01/2022 14:56

Did he say “A catch-up would be great, but it’s my day off - can we do it on Monday?”

Hayisforhorse · 14/01/2022 14:56

It's possible he's simply forgotten it's your DH's day off.

If you're sure the manager is aware, then I'd be leaning towards some kind of big organisation-wide announcement where it's best that everyone learns at the same time, so redundancy, takeover, relocation, that kind of thing. (Could also be stock market flotation announcement if it's a startup, so not always a bad thing.)

TakeYourFinalPosition · 14/01/2022 14:58

Ask what it’s about. That’s more than allowed.

SunnySideDownBriefly · 14/01/2022 15:02

It's about something that they want him to hear first-hand, some news that his colleagues who are working will be receiving too. So, it could be good news...but it may not be.

jendifer · 14/01/2022 15:05

Call and ask to check?

“Hi Boss, Thanks for the email. I don’t usually work on Tuesdays - would you like to still see me then or I can come in tomorrow if that’s better for you?”

DappledThings · 14/01/2022 15:06

Yeah, as PPs asked does manager definitely know its his day of? I have 10 people who replied to me. Most if them have a 9 day fortnight arrangement and I often try to schedule catch-ups to be reminded they aren't in.

SuperSange · 14/01/2022 15:08

I'd ask for it to be rescheduled during my work time. No question.

Paddingtonthebear · 14/01/2022 15:08

This has only happened to me when it’s been about possible redundancy. I would just say I have plans on my day off so unless an emergency can we book in when back on shift. If not an emergency then shouldn’t be asking staff to come in on day off!

BigYellowHat · 14/01/2022 15:08

That’s like the ominous ‘can we have a chat later’ Always fills me with dread and yet is never ‘hey BigYellowHat, we’re doubling your pay and you only have to come in once a week’ I mean I still hold out hope but it’s never happened.

BliainNua · 14/01/2022 15:11

It could be any number of reasons - from the worst (he's being made redundant) to the best (he's being promoted). Try not to worry until you know for sure.

TheAverageUser · 14/01/2022 15:14

Redundancy or company updates like a merger, acquisition would mean people needed updating immediately.

Could also be something positive like promotion opportunity.

girlmom21 · 14/01/2022 15:19

I'd say "is it really important or can it wait until I'm next working?"