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CanofCant · 13/01/2022 12:53

@Dottybackorcid

Haha judgemental OP much, try living where I live. I kid you not, one lunch time. I watched a lady buy a small tray of donner meat and chips and give it to her kid in the pram and walk off

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Mmm, I haven't had lunch yet. Really want a kebab now.

Flavabobble · 13/01/2022 12:57

I was brought up in a culture where children eat healthy, nourishing breakfast at home (or at before school club), not crisps in the street. AIBU to find this an upsetting sight?

I was brought up in a culture where sugar puffs and Frosties were a staple breakfast. As I suspect a lot of people were. Not sure I could get my knickers in a twist about a packet of crisps.

FrankGrillosWrist · 13/01/2022 12:57

If all she eats for breakfast is a bag of crisps I doubt it would make her overweight. She could well have already eaten breakfast, & crisps are an extra.

mumda · 13/01/2022 12:58

Crisps are awful for teeth. Even if they still brush teeth at primary (Do they?) it's not good for them.

Mrsfrumble · 13/01/2022 13:02

@Handholding587

I wondered how long it would be before someone called 'autistic.' It seems to be only on MN can a child do something as innocuous as eating a bag of crisps before they get a label of potential autism.

That’s really not what’s happening. It’s more that parents of children with ASD can feel judged and defensive about the unconventional choices they have to make in order to get their children to eat / go to school etc. So when they see a thread like this they see an opportunity to remind posters that what looks like crappy parenting to others is sometimes born out of necessity.

It’s not about saying “the kid must have autism”, it’s about saying that some families have to do things differently so don’t make their lives harder by judging.

londonrach · 13/01/2022 13:04

Op...you combust....my five year old refuses to eat breakfast..I'm lucky if she drinks water before going to school. She says not hungry and eats very well rest of the day so not worried but yes she goes to school without breakfast. Yabu

Mrsfrumble · 13/01/2022 13:06

DS often eats a croissant on his way to school, because - despite having already had breakfast - he’ll decide he’s still hungry in the way out of the door. Croissants may be a more traditional breakfast food, but I doubt they are much healthier than crisps. He usually has crisps in his way home.

For the record, yes he is autistic. And UNDERweight!

WakeUpLockie · 13/01/2022 13:08

You have no idea of the situation.
The child may have screamed the house down, refused breakfast, therefore running late and it was the only thing she could get into him before school.

But that shouldn’t be acceptable should it? OP I would assume/hope that the parent knows it’s not great and is working to improve things.

Ovenaffray · 13/01/2022 13:08

You’ve little to be upset about.

redandwhite1 · 13/01/2022 13:10

Something is better than nothing but I agree crisps aren't ideal and not exactly setting them
Up for the morning

There's a mum at our school who's son used to eat weetabix (in a bowl with milk) as he walked to school - always found it odd but at least he was fed 😂

pansypotter123 · 13/01/2022 13:11

The neighbours a few doors down from us send their child to the same school that mine attend.

How very dare they, and eating crisps too

ifoundthebread · 13/01/2022 13:20

My son had 2 slices of toast for breakfast this morning when he woke, then an apple and half a tube of pringles in the car. Some may judge me if they see him with the pingles but they don't know he's already eaten. His appetite fluctuates so when he is in the mood for eating I let him eat, not a crime although eating green pringles without a dip should be a crime 😂

Rno3gfr · 13/01/2022 13:20

I feed my son a healthy diet (from scratch meal every night, fruit as snacks, brow bread, not much sugar, yada yada). However, this morning I’ve not been feeling unwell and he absolutely refused to eat anything I offered for breakfast. I gave him toddler crisps and a banana as we were running late and my patience was running thin. None of our household is overweight though. You don’t really know that they feed their kid crisps every morning or whether it was just a one off. It’s better that the child ate something rather than nothing at all. I would probably raise an eyebrow if I saw this every morning though.

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 13/01/2022 13:24

Well you'd defo be judging me then as my toddler constantly has a tube of BBQ Pringles which she eats on the school runs most mornings and afternoons !! She has lots of allergies and food phobias and she will eat these happily so I don't care !! Her dietician is happy with her and at least she's eating

Smidgy · 13/01/2022 13:31

If you know there isn't a specific reason why the child is eating crisps for breakfast (like autism) then I'd judge as well. There are a huge number of people out there making really shitty parenting choices which have life long implications for their children. My dh was allowed to become obese as a child and has subsequently spent his entire adult life struggling with his weight. His weight constantly yo-yos between 17 stone and 30 stone. It makes him miserable and unhappy.

My old next door neighbours used to send their 8 and 9 year old obese children out of the house every morning at 8am with a few pounds each to go and buy their breakfast at the shop. Everyday they would sit outside the shop eating those big bags of crisps and drinking the 2L bottles of coke. Yeah there are worst things that could be happening to these kids but there are also millions of better things for these kids. Both are now late teens and both are morbidly obese.

We are so conditioned not to hurt people's feelings by fat shaming that we're now at a point where we are pussy footing around quite obvious signs of poor parenting and allowing increasing numbers of children to become overweight. So quite frankly, I don't blame the OP for being judgy. I fucking judge shitty parenting as well.

lanthanum · 13/01/2022 13:33

Could be worse - parent delivering child to school on day of SATs tests: "I know the tests are important so he's had a good breakfast - one of those kingsize mars bars."

DailyMailHater · 13/01/2022 13:35

My friends son has additional needs and it really impacts what he will eat…some days all she can get down him is rich tea biscuits - not ideal but better that than nothing….please don’t judge without knowing the full story.

steph8877 · 13/01/2022 14:11

@Smidgy

If you know there isn't a specific reason why the child is eating crisps for breakfast (like autism) then I'd judge as well. There are a huge number of people out there making really shitty parenting choices which have life long implications for their children. My dh was allowed to become obese as a child and has subsequently spent his entire adult life struggling with his weight. His weight constantly yo-yos between 17 stone and 30 stone. It makes him miserable and unhappy.

My old next door neighbours used to send their 8 and 9 year old obese children out of the house every morning at 8am with a few pounds each to go and buy their breakfast at the shop. Everyday they would sit outside the shop eating those big bags of crisps and drinking the 2L bottles of coke. Yeah there are worst things that could be happening to these kids but there are also millions of better things for these kids. Both are now late teens and both are morbidly obese.

We are so conditioned not to hurt people's feelings by fat shaming that we're now at a point where we are pussy footing around quite obvious signs of poor parenting and allowing increasing numbers of children to become overweight. So quite frankly, I don't blame the OP for being judgy. I fucking judge shitty parenting as well.

Totally agree with this. The I don't consider the op judgy or nosy. Far from it.. Just sounds like a responsible parent concerned with seeing that children are well-fed and healthy. Too much rubbish, totally inadequate parenting these days. Too many parents who will give their kids endless junk food just to a 'quiet life' or to save themselves the 'trouble' of having to cook a meal. If you chose to have kids, you have a duty of care towards them. That includes making sure they are adequately nourished. Walking to school eating crisps looks like shitty parenting imo. Especially if done regularly. Looks like parent just can't be bothered providing a proper breakfast. Remember that story in the media a while back about the mum who dressed her kids in school uniform for bed... Had kids sleeping in school uniforms just because it makes HER life easier in the morning. Obviously no thought given to the poor kids, their comfort or hygiene etc.

LondonWolf · 13/01/2022 14:15

@RedHelenB

A common sight round here. I thought you were going to write something far worse.

A family at DD’s primary all used to walk down the road to school eating Greggs Steak Bakes or Sausage rolls for breakfast. Not every day but fairly regularly.

Aria999 · 13/01/2022 14:15

Yes but it's not like OP is doing or saying anything to help the child in real life. Just pointlessly bitching about it on an Internet forum.

I hate how judgmental people are about situations they know nothing about. Maybe the kid does just eat crisps for breakfast every day and of course that's not good but why is it any of OP's business? Unless there is something she can actually do about it which of course there isn't.

And maybe it was a once off for specific reasons about which the OP knows nothing.

Hemingwayzcatz · 13/01/2022 14:18

Maybe that isn’t all the kid gets for breakfast. Maybe he has a lovely nutritious breakfast and then starts having a tantrum begging for crisps so they relent because they need to get him to school. It’s hard to judge people you don’t know from a snapshot of their life really, I don’t recommend it.

Wankerchief · 13/01/2022 14:23

I’d of called the police. I cant imagine how your coping after seeing a chubby kid eating crisps

Thought and prayers op, i pray one day you can put this behind you.🙏🏻

LondonWolf · 13/01/2022 14:23

@Wankerchief

I’d of called the police. I cant imagine how your coping after seeing a chubby kid eating crisps

Thought and prayers op, i pray one day you can put this behind you.🙏🏻

AmberGer · 13/01/2022 14:26

Not as bad as when I was in farmfoods last week when a rowdy family were doing their shopping, their ds, around 6 or 7 was very hyper. I bought my shopping was putting it in the boot of my car, that family then comes out of the shop and hands the boy a can of redbull

Andtheyalllookjustthesame · 13/01/2022 14:27

Give your child crisps for breakfast and everyone loses their minds, give them chocolate every morning for the whole month of December and nobody blinks an eye.