Hey mumsnet
So I have a four month old baby with a serious heart defect.
She spent the first two months of her life in hospital and has already undergone one open heart surgery. She is due for another urgent open heart surgery in the next few weeks.
She is a very unwell child but as with all heart babies you wouldn’t necessarily know it by looking at her.
When we came home originally she did meet all of our family - with masks on. We used to visit my partners parents weekly for the first month and his parents came to ours once a week too but every visit was so scary as they aren’t on board with wearing masks around her. Or wearing masks in general and they are just going about life as normal. Holidays, regular visits to the pub and large events (not judging at all life has to go on but for us atm it can’t).
Anyway after advice from her consultant and nurses that come out to her on a weekly basis we are now isolating and not seeing anyone at all. This is because of the risk of Covid and also even just a cold! We’ve been told if she gets even a cold she could be so ill she’d end up back in NICU.
The only person we do see is my mother because she is also isolating and only sees us.
I know my mother in law thinks we’re being OTT and continuously asks to see us, tries to guilt trip us and is getting very angry when we say no. She says we can’t do this we have to see her and we can’t isolate forever.
We aren’t trying to isolate forever though just until after our child has her operation and is recovered because at this point she should have a more functioning heart and more oxygen rich blood getting to her lungs.
AIBU to isolate? I’m just trying to keep my child safe but is it too extreme?