Loo-ing at night.

[Treesandsheepeverywhere]

Why does my DH do a stinky poo in the en-suite just before bed time! He has all day, all evening watching tv, yet he waits till I'm in bed before going. Great thing is the walls are great, so I don't hear anything, but my goodness, the smell!!!!!
It's the last thing I want just before dozing off.

I've never said anything as he would possibly be embarrassed and also possibly start holding it in, which isn't great.

I've never understood this bathroom in your bedroom thing.

I know it's his body clock etc but can i ask him to go at other times or will i be U?

Glad I don’t have an en suite for this exact reason.

Buy some air freshener if you don’t have any and tell him to use it and/or use another bathroom

You’re going to need to use your words and speak up op

@scarpa

It's the only bathroom unfortunately. You'd think he would time it accordingly to avoid a just before bed go.

Poo troll? First I've heard that phrase 🤔.
No, I don't like talking about it, or smelling it either.
I gag when I go myself, so wonder if my smell senses are hyperactive as it doesn't seem to bother DH.

Don't you have air freshener ? I have one in each toilet and dh is well trained ! That is gross!

YANBU but if it's the only bathroom it can't be an en suite. Or do your visitors all have to walk through your bedroom to go to the loo?

Your only bathroom is an en suite? That's pretty unusual.

*I managed to 'adjust' my body clock so I did this function at work with two benefits...

1. Saved on that scarce commodity - toilet paper.
2. I was being PAID to do it!*

Love the idea of being paid to poo!

Maybe light a candle in there just before you go to bed and that might help. He can blow it out after he’s brushed his teeth and washed his face so hopefully enough time after to have done some good.

We have matches in the toilet for this issue.
Works better then toilet spray, cheaper and more environmental friendly. Definitely worth a try.

The en-suite is the only toilet in the house?

So any visitors have to go through your bedroom to use the toilet?

What if people stay over? Do they creep past your bed whilst you are asleep?

The bathroom is a sort of Jack & Jill type, so guests can go in through the hall.

We do have matches, loo drops, a spray and bloo freshener.

Thanks all, I'll have to courage up and ask him 🙊.

@Ileflottante, lol at the ghost😅.

@ Tinkletwat
Aesop's post poo drops if you can't get him to use a different loo
We have those but some of the smell still escapes and enters when he opens the door.

@PrincessNutella
Oh golly, another pooing in the en suite one!! It's almost as good as a parking in my drive/neighbor pruning my tree/next door neighbor vacuuming at 7:00 a.m. one! But with poo!
I didn't realise it was a thing! 😅. In a way glad I'm not alone in this.

@jamandmarmaladethesecondcoming.
I think you're right about me being embarrassed to ask him, for not wanting to embarrass him 😶.

@HarlanPepper
Just tell him. Do you have one of those relationships where you never talk about bodily functions?
We do 🙈, and I grew up in such a household too and so did he.

Industrial air freshener then he shuts shut the door the second he leaves the bathroom

I actually feel sorry for you that's your only bathroom. It's time to hire a porta loo I think. It's the only option in this scenario.

I have banned my dh from pooing in our en-suite but we have three more loos, even our 8yo dd throws him out of her loo too as well sometimes it's that bad 😂

@Treesandsheepeverywhere
The bathroom is a sort of Jack & Jill type, so guests can go in through the hall.

I have the solution: put a bolt on the bedroom side of the door between the bathroom and the bedroom, and bolt it when DH goes in for his nightly poo. Your DH will then be forced to exit the loo via the hallway, preventing the poo smell from escaping into the bedroom.

Obviously, as you don't discuss bodily functions, you must not mention the bolt. Just put it up when he's not there and close it quietly once he's in there. He will get the message.

My sympathies OP, I used to have a flatmate like this. The smell would linger for AGES. We have a similar style bathroom but luckily another toilet in our laundry...my DP knows his place 🤣

If the toilet has another door then ask him to go through the door into the hall and keep the bedroom side shut. Might help with the smell.

Oh god I'd hate this and after the posts on here about poo crumbs in bed it would definitely be a worry whether he'd cleaned his hairy arse properly or not. Way more than any other time of day when not lying sharing a space beside me directly after, when that wouldn't cross my mind.

I put a bottle of this in everyone’s stockings this year as a joke but it actually really works!

poopourri.co.uk/collections/toilet-sprays?gclid=CjwKCAiAlfqOBhAeEiwAYi43F9e1VQNMZ16PxAAYkumpGxbN-y2yOXCd1J-OB1S_osQx1Xs0LilybxoC5oUQAvD_BwE

Once we went to New York and our bathroom was a glass cubicle in the middle of the hotel room. If anyone wanted a poo the other person had to go on the balcony
Total sex killer

@Ionlydomassiveones

“I've never said anything as he would possibly be embarrassed and also possibly start holding it in, which isn't great.”

Yeah you worry about his precious sensitive nature. He, meanwhile, couldn’t care less about grunting away and stinking the bedroom up.

I never understand how people can actually be married but not speak plainly to one another.
‘Mate, that stinks, can’t you do that in the downstairs toilet?’
What’s so tongue-crippling about that?

Exactly this!

Ask him to keep the door between the bedroom and the bathroom shut, and use the other bathroom door in the evening (light, noise, smell, whatever reason you want!).

Crikey am so glad I do not live with you.
I have a couple of chronic bowel conditions which mean I need a loo with little notice. I now wonder should I leave and move out alone.

No one chooses when to have a bowel motion nor can they help the smell.

I wonder is your partner any health problems there. If not you have to accept that is a normal body function .
Use airfreshener.

Nonone should be made to feel embarrassed about a normal body function.

I feel so sorry for your partner.

I was going to say YANBU until I saw it's your only toilet. Our en-suite is not for poos, but we also have a bathroom next to our bedroom and a downstairs toilet, so there is a choice!
I don't think he can really be blamed, as long as he keeps the door closed, uses air freshener afterwards and puts bleach down if he leaves stains.

I've never understood why en suites are such a thing when you hear about things like this in op's op.

Good God OP. My response to this would be 'you stinky fucking bastard, stop doing that at this time every night, the smell is making me gag!' If you're too embarrassed to say this to him (weird) perhaps WhatsApp what I've said above to him.