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The organised mum method

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NameChangeCity123 · 09/01/2022 15:59

To ask if anyone has found TOMM useful and if so, do you use the journal, app or podcast?

I have started following on Facebook but there seems to be a lot of people saying their work either never stated or start often but never stick to it.

Is this worth trying?

Thanks

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Somechance · 09/01/2022 16:03

I have the app but it doesn't work for me as no one else bothers to follow it and the place is tidy for ten minutes max. Probably just our house .

birdglasspen · 09/01/2022 16:03

I follow the disorganised mum method, it’s easy to follow🤪

MusicAndDanse · 09/01/2022 16:07

I enjoy the podcast. I'm only just getting started but I think with some tweaks to fit our situation it should work. Need to declutter first though.

Mol1628 · 09/01/2022 16:08

The journal and podcast aren’t really for the method they’re just extra. I don’t bother with those.

I do have the app which I love.

I would recommend starting with the free print outs and see how you get on with it first.

I started it two years ago and I hate to be that person but it changed my life!

MaybeHeIsMyCat · 09/01/2022 16:09

I don't have the app or anything but I kind of do my own version BlushGrin which is that I do 30 mins a day, every single weekday, of whatever needs doing
I then don't clean on weekends
No DC so it works for me

Hungry625f · 09/01/2022 16:09

I follow the theory of it but I don't use any of the apps/SM.

The basics seem to be washing and putting away one load of laundry each day, tidying as you go, everything having a home, and only doing 30min housework per day on top of that. I do all of this and find it really works, but I don't have s strict rota I stick to.

The kitchen is cleaned and swept daily (its massive), I hoover the whole house once per week, bathrooms have a wipe around once per week.

Kids have to maintain their own rooms to an extent but I will dust/hoover/change bedding (infrequently...)

House is tidy and generally clean!

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NameChangeCity123 · 09/01/2022 16:18

@birdglasspen

I follow the disorganised mum method, it’s easy to follow🤪
😂😂😂😂😂
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CornishTiger · 09/01/2022 16:19

The app is good and creates structure which you can customise.

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NameChangeCity123 · 09/01/2022 16:20

@Mol1628

The journal and podcast aren’t really for the method they’re just extra. I don’t bother with those.

I do have the app which I love.

I would recommend starting with the free print outs and see how you get on with it first.

I started it two years ago and I hate to be that person but it changed my life!

Ooooh this is good to know thank you! I just didn't have a clue where to start. I've downloaded the prints so I'll start with them. Just got a confused a bit different level jobs etc so though the planner may have cleared that up but I'll stick the print outs for now.

I don't need to declutter as I'm quite minimalist by nature so hoping I can find my way into a routine quickly

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NameChangeCity123 · 09/01/2022 16:20

@MaybeHeIsMyCat

I don't have the app or anything but I kind of do my own version BlushGrin which is that I do 30 mins a day, every single weekday, of whatever needs doing I then don't clean on weekends No DC so it works for me
I've got a messy husband and a 6 month old so feel like as soon as I've done something, it's needing done again 🙈
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NameChangeCity123 · 09/01/2022 16:22

@Hungry625f

I follow the theory of it but I don't use any of the apps/SM.

The basics seem to be washing and putting away one load of laundry each day, tidying as you go, everything having a home, and only doing 30min housework per day on top of that. I do all of this and find it really works, but I don't have s strict rota I stick to.

The kitchen is cleaned and swept daily (its massive), I hoover the whole house once per week, bathrooms have a wipe around once per week.

Kids have to maintain their own rooms to an extent but I will dust/hoover/change bedding (infrequently...)

House is tidy and generally clean!

This sounds do- able! Thank you I'll give this a go. Think maybe starting with the print outs as another poster recommended and then tweaking to suit could be the way to go. I feel like it lasts 5 mins and then it's chaos again. Have a weaning baby and the washing is unreal 😂🙄
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NameChangeCity123 · 09/01/2022 16:22

@CornishTiger

The app is good and creates structure which you can customise.
Definitely think customising is the way to go, thank you!
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Notcoolmum · 09/01/2022 16:23

I like the basic concept of setting a timer and doing one room. I'm not great at sticking to the method but I do feel I can get the house done in a couple of hours if I let it slip and then expect a visitor. And when i keep to it I have the lovely feeling that I could let an unexpected visitor jn without that sinking feeling.

eagerlywaitingfor · 09/01/2022 16:23

I'm sure it works - if you are organised enough to actually follow it, obviously.

It still irritates me though. Organised mum. Not organised dad, or family, or parent.

Mum. Organised mum.

Because mum has to be the default and be responsible for absolutely everything domestic, catering, household, child-related etc, doesn't she? Hmm

Sorry, but it does get on my tits.

Adododoadahdahdah · 09/01/2022 16:23

@Somechance

I have the app but it doesn't work for me as no one else bothers to follow it and the place is tidy for ten minutes max. Probably just our house .
Nope. Our house too. Sick of it.
Notcoolmum · 09/01/2022 16:25

Gemma who designed the method is a mum who was suffering with depression and putting too much stress of herself to keep the house perfect at all times, and her first child is called Tom hence the name.

FourTeaFallOut · 09/01/2022 16:27

Another one with the app. I was going great guns with it until we started our extension. I was all ready to ramp things up again with a new year resolution and then I got covid on Jan 1st. Will give is another bash when I stop being bone tired. The book has some tough love about the benefit of keeping going even when you are under the weather, I'm ignoring that bit. Ignore the facebook group too, waste of time.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 09/01/2022 16:29

@eagerlywaitingfor

I'm sure it works - if you are organised enough to actually follow it, obviously.

It still irritates me though. Organised mum. Not organised dad, or family, or parent.

Mum. Organised mum.

Because mum has to be the default and be responsible for absolutely everything domestic, catering, household, child-related etc, doesn't she? Hmm

Sorry, but it does get on my tits.

Except she explains that's not why it's called that and she's very clear that everyone should get involved.

Gemma devised the plan when she had PND and was obsessively cleaning. She put a timer on her cleaning and forced her self to stop and be kinder to herself and a more organised mum for her and her baby.

FindingMeno · 09/01/2022 16:31

Depends on your personality type.
I can't get on with set routines.

Mol1628 · 09/01/2022 16:32

@eagerlywaitingfor

I'm sure it works - if you are organised enough to actually follow it, obviously.

It still irritates me though. Organised mum. Not organised dad, or family, or parent.

Mum. Organised mum.

Because mum has to be the default and be responsible for absolutely everything domestic, catering, household, child-related etc, doesn't she? Hmm

Sorry, but it does get on my tits.

She does address this. She is the organised mum, the lady that came up with the idea and wrote the books etc. Its her method

Though I do agree with you and pretty much everyone on the Facebook page is female unfortunately.

Mol1628 · 09/01/2022 16:33

Oh and she often discusses how her husband and her male children are also involved and do their part.

FourTeaFallOut · 09/01/2022 16:40

Apparently women spend an additional 21 hours doing unpaid work a week compared to men. I'm not sure it's a good or particularly feminist idea to sweep the disparity under the carpet by not reflecting that burden in books that pertain to cleaning.

FourTeaFallOut · 09/01/2022 16:42

But, yes, as a pp says - strategies to mobilise an entire household into cleaning habits and rotas is encouraged.

TreeLawney · 09/01/2022 16:44

I did it for a while. It does work. Turns out, if you constantly clean your house, you have a clean house.

I found it very hard to fit around a really demanding job - on days I was at home it was easy to fit in.

I do think it’s probably better suited to people like the creator who obsessively cleaned rather than those who would like to do the bare minimum! Only 30 mins a day is a bit misleading, it’s 30 mins + clean floors + clean something in the bathroom + laundry +++

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NameChangeCity123 · 09/01/2022 19:00

@Notcoolmum

I like the basic concept of setting a timer and doing one room. I'm not great at sticking to the method but I do feel I can get the house done in a couple of hours if I let it slip and then expect a visitor. And when i keep to it I have the lovely feeling that I could let an unexpected visitor jn without that sinking feeling.
That sounds like exactly what I'm after Smile
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