To be hacked off with dh for what he's just spent at the supermarket...........

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I had a Tesco delivery last night which cost pennies short of £100. Dh was going to pop into Asda tomorrow and buy a few bits that we couldn't get online....all cheap bits. Well, his brother needed taking to Morrison's (he lives about 40 mins away from us) so dh took him as a favour but whilst there, dh spent £53.97 and it included:

Harvey's Bristol Cream - £5.00
Morrison's 'Best' Fruit and Nut Cluster Cake - £5.99
Port & Stilton Pack - £5.00
Quality Street Tin - £4.75

I'm not happy as I've been working really hard on the accounts as we're in a bit of a pickle. We have £4k on CC and were overdrawn £2k. Dh had his last day at work on Friday (redundancy) and has no job lined up for new year and the tiny bit of redundancy he got (enough to keep us going through the first month if needed) is supposed to be clearing the overdraft etc. IF we don't end up needing it to live on.

I'm also 14 weeks pregnant and working my arse off childminding, taking on more kiddies so I can save more money and I resent it being spent in such a fashion. We talked about no Christmas presents a while back and bit by bit dh kept buying himself things and saying "you can give me these for Christmas" and it ended up coming to about £60 in the end. I've still told him not to spend on me as I'm so worried about money and his lack of job (he's had it before where it took 3 months to even get a temp job! )

I've just shown my disappointment at his spend and he's gone off in a right huff. He's a 46 year old grown up FFS, he's acting like a kid. I love Christmas too and wish we could afford to indulge but we have a lo and another on the way and I just feel like someone needs to try and be responsible.

AIBU? If so, I'll go and hug him and say sorry but right now I feel like he's being a twat! (oh and all the booze, cheese, pate etc. is for him coz of course I can't have any anyway - this is NOT the reason I'm annoyed btw)

He won't do that as she was with them when they went shopping! He's also in a mood and I've yet to mention saving these items for presents, I feel he'll loose it and I don't want to spoil Christmas.

I agree about matching presents. A mum of a mindee I look after has spent about £60 on my present and not sure about ds, I felt awful and actually had some tears of panic when she mentioned to me because I just can't afford to spend like this on all my mindees and families

fedupwasherwoman - I'll ask dh about the overdraft thing but the problem is his reaction. I think I'll wait til after Christmas to have it out with him as he's already in a mood (hardly slept last night)

If it's a joint account I would probably ask the bank first rather than approaching a prickly dh. If they say you both need to agree to amend the authorisation to joint authorisation then you'll have to mention it to him. If it is a joint account though it appears that this is an essential step to take until he starts being more responsible with your joint finances.

I wouldn't even mention saving the sweets and alcohol for presents (if he's in a mood). I'd just put them away somewhere inaccessible and not mention them until he asks and then tell him what your plan for them is, "part of the budget recovery plan etc etc etc...." and smile sweetly.

Also, you can freeze many types of cheese so the extra cheese could be saved in the freezer and used instead of buying cheese next time you food shop.

my christmas spend so far is £1.46 on a packet of mince pies as DH and DS like them.

Does that make me an apsotate as I hate christmas?