My 37 year old nephew died this week from terminal brain cancer.
Ridiculously sad.
However I have a very complicated relationship with my half sister- his mother.
She is 14 years older than me. Due to my narcissistic father we had pretty much no relationship up until 4 years ago when my mother died. Over the years she has been very unpleasant to me . When mum died I realised what had happened with my father influence and we agreed to get along. I have found it difficult however.
The nephew that has just died I had a relationship when he was small -my mum used to look after him until he was about 4 but then they all moved to Scotland and since then have moved to other places in the UK. They all still live in a different part of the country.
I intend on going to the funeral.
However I just cant bring myself to ring my sister. I have messaged her and sent her flowers. But I just cant ring her.
I feel like there is nothing to say - I have refused to take her calls in the past as she is an alcoholic and generally only calls me when she is drunk.
I suffer with my mental health (mostly as a result of the emotional abuse from my Father) and generally find her very stressful and hard to deal with.
However (another result of my Father) I feel guilty- like I should be offering emotional support or something.
How can i do that when there isn't a relationship??