Hmmmm, sorry, I'm a bit riled about this one and need to get it off my chest.
Went to pre-xmas family do at my mum and dad's yesterday with my dad's side of the family who we don't see at Christmas otherwise.
DS is 16 months. At the start of the party everyone was sat in the living room and my great aunty got up to go outside for a cigarette. My mum starting saying "It's alright, smoke here, it's ok, Aunty X always smokes in here" etc etc. Fortuntely my Aunty insisted on going to smoke outside but why on earth would my mum insist that she smoke in the same room as a baby?! If she had then I would have had to have taken him elsewhere for about half an hour until the smoke cleared (she smokes seriously hardcore fags, my aunty!)
Bar a tiny bit at the beginning when DP helped, I spent the whole party running around trying to make sure that DS didn't touch the candles in the fireplace/eat washing powder/generally do himself a mischief. I got literally 4 minutes off a couple of hours in to get a bit of food before I was back on duty again. But here's the bits that really did my head in:
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At one point I came around the corner to discover DP and my uncle standing there eating whilst DS is on the floor trying to put his fingers into the plug socket. I ran over and switched it off but was carrying drinks so I had to try and do a one-handed swoop to pick him up, as Uncle just stands there and DP keeps saying "no" ineffectually.
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I was getting really annoyed about 3 hours in and told DP I would like the chance to sit down and have a drink. He goes out of the room with DS and comes back 2 minutes later without him. The next thing I know DS is halfway up the stairs by himself, totally unnattended. DP got really angry as he assumed someone else was looking after him, but I got angry with DP because he was supposed to be looking after him; surely if he was going to leave DS in a room with now very pissed people he should have made sure one of them was aware they should be watching him?
I'm just so fed up about it - I didn't get any time to talk to anyone, hardly got any food despite having spent 3 hours in the morning making things for it, and spent an hour sat by myself in the hallway trying to feed DS whilst everyone else had a great time. Is it unreasonable to expect other people to even help out for 10 minutes so that we could have a drink or 10 minutes to talk to people? I'm 5 weeks pregnant and nearly had 2 heart attacks during the party with DS getting into real danger. Is it unreasonable to expect some allowances to be made for a very young child, rather than just making us feel excluded?
The way I feel now I don't want to take him to anymore parties until he's older, although by then I'll have another tiny baby. I feel like if I say anything family just think I'm being mard - I'm the first person to have a baby out of all my siblings/cousins so they don't understand and think I'm just uptight but surely my parents/older relatives should get it?
Am I BU?