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Am I going mad ?

39 replies

Angelica122345 · 05/01/2022 13:15

Just finished work , work from home . Have two bags of washing to take to the launderette . Said to my partner I’m taking it to the launderette. He said ah I see what’s going on you’ve got a plan coming along ! Why are you going on your own ? He said I have to wait for him to finish work and he will go with me . I’m utterly pissed off , need my own space

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Tal45 · 05/01/2022 13:18

He doesn't trust you to go to the laundrette??

PangolinPie · 05/01/2022 13:19

I feel there's much much more to this than this incident alone...

TueWed · 05/01/2022 13:19

Do you get any time alone?

MorningStarling · 05/01/2022 13:21

That's great, tell him if he's going to the launderette anyway he can take the washing while you relax at home.

Santaisstilleatingmincepies · 05/01/2022 13:21

Suggest he takes it himself.

While you ponder why you are with him.

FionnulaTheCooler · 05/01/2022 13:22

Tell him he can take it then and you can stay at home. Is he always this controlling?

JorisBonson · 05/01/2022 13:24

Is this the same partner who was a wanker to you because you couldn't ice skate and he called you fat?

I recall you getting some good advice about leaving him.

Hankunamatata · 05/01/2022 13:24

Just go to launderette now. Not even sure why you needed to text him or call him to tell him that

CamsPaisleyCuffs · 05/01/2022 13:27

He was moody when you went out with your sister for 2 hours on your birthday and told you to fuck off.

You weigh 10 stone and he called you fat.

Now he doesn't want you to leave the house without him to do the laundry.

Honestly, dump this absolute waste of space as soon as possible, you will tie yourself in knots for the next 10 years jumping to his tune and walking on eggshells. He will never change.

bloodywhitecat · 05/01/2022 13:29

@Hankunamatata

Just go to launderette now. Not even sure why you needed to text him or call him to tell him that
Alternatively, as he is so keen to go to the laundrette, he goes and does the laundry and you stay home.
Travellingraspberry · 05/01/2022 13:29

Just say you'd rather go on your own now to get it done... or is there a big backstory?

Original poster
Angelica122345 · 05/01/2022 13:33

No there’s no back story , but these kind of demands are getting worse . I did get a job where I was out of the house . I lost that job as he wouldn’t collect the children from school, which I was at work .

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WorraLiberty · 05/01/2022 13:33

The opening post just on it's own is a bit pointless OP

Are you going to add any more info?

georgarina · 05/01/2022 13:34

Oh God. You're not crazy, he's controlling and nasty.

WorraLiberty · 05/01/2022 13:34

@Angelica122345

No there’s no back story , but these kind of demands are getting worse . I did get a job where I was out of the house . I lost that job as he wouldn’t collect the children from school, which I was at work .
That is a backstory.

Has he always been controlling?

BridgeFarmKefir · 05/01/2022 13:37

Just searched your posts and they are mainly about what a gigantic arsehole your DP is. Controlling, mean, horrible about your appearance. I know it's not as simple as this, but whatever you do, please consider leaving this absolute waste of skin. Being on your own will be a million times better, trust me.

PixieLaLa · 05/01/2022 13:38

Is it because the bags are heavy and he wants to help you? If not then sounds totally weird! You should just go by yourself if you want to.

BarefootHippieChick · 05/01/2022 13:41

I think you'd be better off posting in Relationships and getting some practical advice on how to get things sorted and leave your partner.

Comefromaway · 05/01/2022 13:43

He is controlling which is mental abuse.

You need to get out before he gets even worse.

umpahlumpahstickitupyourjumpah · 05/01/2022 13:43

What will it take for you to end this relationship and leave him?

RoyKentsChestHair · 05/01/2022 13:45

HE IS ABUSIVE - run like fuck. You can’t fix him, you can’t reason with him. He’s fucked in the head and has a skewed view of relationships. Save yourself years of heartache by accepting this fact now. He is not partner material. He’s a mess. Leave him.

girlmom21 · 05/01/2022 13:47

Tell him he can take the laundry to the laundrette while you pack his bags.

itwasntaparty · 05/01/2022 13:47

Where's the info, on face value he's completely controlling you. You can't go to the launderette by yourself??

JorisBonson · 05/01/2022 13:48

@BridgeFarmKefir

Just searched your posts and they are mainly about what a gigantic arsehole your DP is. Controlling, mean, horrible about your appearance. I know it's not as simple as this, but whatever you do, please consider leaving this absolute waste of skin. Being on your own will be a million times better, trust me.
Exactly. Massive backstory. He's a grade a arsehole.
grapewine · 05/01/2022 13:53

As other posters have said, there is a backstory. Your other threads show what a controlling twat he is, but you're to have to be ready to leave, which doesn't appear to be now.

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