Am I going mad ?

[Angelica122345]

Just finished work , work from home . Have two bags of washing to take to the launderette . Said to my partner I’m taking it to the launderette. He said ah I see what’s going on you’ve got a plan coming along ! Why are you going on your own ? He said I have to wait for him to finish work and he will go with me . I’m utterly pissed off , need my own space

That sounds so werid and controlling. Next time just don't tell him, and go.

@Angelica122345

No there’s no back story , but these kind of demands are getting worse . I did get a job where I was out of the house . I lost that job as he wouldn’t collect the children from school, which I was at work .

Of course there is a backstory. You have just posted a bit more of it.

I think you need Relationships not AIBU.

There absolutely is back story otherwise you wouldn’t be so pissed off and ‘need space’ if this was the first time anything similar had happened.

Having just skimmed your previous posts, it's clear you're not ready to leave him just yet.

I don't know how much damage (if any yet) this relationship is doing to your son, but I wouldn't hang about much longer if I were you.

Are your DC his.
Who owns the property you live in.
Imagine if he were to suddenly work abroad for 6 months would you be happy or miss him?

@Angelica122345

No there’s no back story , but these kind of demands are getting worse . I did get a job where I was out of the house . I lost that job as he wouldn’t collect the children from school, which I was at work .

Just from your two and only posts, He is controlling @Angelica122345.

It's not normal to 'not allow' your DP to go to the laundrette on their own.
It's not normal to force you to stop working
It's not normal to feel suffocated.

He wouldn't collect his own kids from school??

So what are you going to do about it op?

Do you never want to leave the house alone ever again?
what’s next? Your children being left at school as you’re not allowed to pick them up alone?

Tell him you’ll leave the laundry for now but you’re going out for a walk right now and see what he says. I bet his answer speaks volumes.

@Angelica122345

Just finished work , work from home . Have two bags of washing to take to the launderette . Said to my partner I’m taking it to the launderette. He said ah I see what’s going on you’ve got a plan coming along ! Why are you going on your own ? He said I have to wait for him to finish work and he will go with me . I’m utterly pissed off , need my own space

He said I have to wait for him to finish work and he will go with me

'He said I have to'. Did he now? Who died and made him King?

What would happen if you were to ignore him and just go out to the launderette anyway?

@Lalliella

Tell him you’ll leave the laundry for now but you’re going out for a walk right now and see what he says. I bet his answer speaks volumes.

And then when you finish work tomorrow tell him you're going to the cinema alone

Your partner is a nasty, controlling arsehole. This is obvious from any one of the incidents you've mentioned on your threads, and I'm betting there are many, many more incidents.

However many separate threads you post about him, everyone will tell you exactly the same thing every time: leave him asap, because he is an abusive arse and he will be damaging to your child as well as to you.

He is a grade A cunt. I know its hard to leave, but you need to look at all your posts together, and see just how big a cunt he really is. You can't fix him, he's not going to get any better, he is verbally and emotionally abusing you, he's controlling you.

Do you really want your DC's growing up in this kind of environment?

Look at women's aid and the freedom programme. Please see how bad he is.

LTB already. Never mind the launderette. Just get rid.