Daddy's Valentine

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Surely this is wrong?

@CityMumma78

Yuck! Totally inappropriate and tacky. I can’t believe some people on here actually got cards and gifts from their PARENTS on Valentine’s Day…. No that is not normal!!

We'll, seeing as though lots have people have said they did it would suggest it is normal for some people.

I have bought and received valentines gifts off friends before. Some people consider it to be about all kinds of love, not just romantic love.

@CityMumma78

Yuck! Totally inappropriate and tacky. I can’t believe some people on here actually got cards and gifts from their PARENTS on Valentine’s Day…. No that is not normal!!

Christ, i think if people think like this about it, they have a very warped mind.

Yes the vests can be a bit tacky and not everyone's cup of tea but if people think it's inappropriate to give your children cards, there's something weird going on in your head. Chill out.

Valentine's Day is celebrated widely between couples but it's not limited to couples. It's a day to show love and affection to LOVED ONES.

When I was a child my dad used to give me a single Rose and a card. Absolutely nothing inappropriate at all.

My husband often takes our little girl on 'dad and daughter dates,' is that inappropriate too?

God some people are miserable.

I don't like it tbh. I don't think it's paedophilic but it always seems to be for little girls and their dads as opposed to the other way round, and feeds the whole daddy's little girl, giving the girl away to another man (wedding) thing, and that somehow men own their girls in a weird patriarchal way.

@Thehop

The valentines cards I got from My dad are some of the most precious memories I have.

What a wonderful thing to cherish.

@CSJobseeker

For me it's in the same category as "Daddy has his baseball bat ready for any young men that try to date my daughter!" and those weird dad/daughter purity marriage things.

A 5 year old making their mum/dad/grandparent a valentine's card to say they love them is really sweet. But putting words in babies' mouths just seems creepy.

This

@AuntyBumBum

To be honest it's only "wrong" if you've got a slightly warped mind. And if you're looking for paedophiles they don't tend to advertise the fact by emblazoning on their daughters' clothing.

Yip this

It’s really tacky and horrible. Agree with the boy/mum comment. I hate all this daddy/daughter first love crap.

Very twee and tacky but I don't think it's intended to convey the impression that the wearer (a baby) wants to have sexual intercourse with its daddy.

My late brother when he was wee used to tell our mum that he loved her so much that, when he grew up, he wanted to marry her and build a house on her driveway. God knows what the OP would make of that.

Gives me the ick

Sorry to have posted and run. It's been a busier than expected day at work today.

I think it's horrible. Valentines Day is about romantic love. There's nothing romantic in the love between a father and daughter and it gives me the ick just thinking about it.

So do yo u think people who dress their kids in that sort of thing are misguided and stupid, or predatory?

It’s as naff as fuck, but Valentine’s Day has just evolved into schmaltzy consumerism. It’s a bit like Christmas in that people tend to forget what it’s about. So 🤷‍♀️

@DillDanding

It’s as naff as fuck, but Valentine’s Day has just evolved into schmaltzy consumerism. It’s a bit like Christmas in that people tend to forget what it’s about. So 🤷‍♀️

Well what is it about? Realistically it isn’t about romantic love or anything else, it’s an appropriation of a Saint of a bunch of things to sell stuff.

Somehow I don’t think St. Valentine patron saint of epilepsy would sell quite as many cards.

And the implication that because it’s used as a romantic holiday that it’s ‘disturbing’ or ‘creepy’ is just really nasty. Obviously nobody is going out to buy their daughter this because they fancy her. I imagine it’s mainly mums buying them to surprise their husbands with a cute baby outfit/photos for first Valentine’s Day. Maybe not to your style/you think it’s tacky etc but there’s nothing sinister about it.

Don't think it's sinister, disturbing or creepy. Just incredibly naff.

My husband often takes our little girl on 'dad and daughter dates,' is that inappropriate too?

That’s worse imo, in terms of how twee and awkward it sounds. I’m not saying your dh is inappropriately interested in your dd. It’s just super weird to call their outings dates. They’re not dates

I’d feel exactly the same about mum and ds “dates” fwiw.

@DoTheyKnowItsLemonJuice

My husband often takes our little girl on 'dad and daughter dates,' is that inappropriate too?

That’s worse imo, in terms of how twee and awkward it sounds. I’m not saying your dh is inappropriately interested in your dd. It’s just super weird to call their outings dates. They’re not dates

I’d feel exactly the same about mum and ds “dates” fwiw.

So you never have a lunch date with friends? Coffee date? We're not twee people at all..

We just don't read into it too much.

@feedthepeony Fair enough actually, I don’t know if I do really say “coffee date” myself, but you are right that it sounds normal and doesn’t give me that cringe response.

Maybe it was the d-d-d alliteration throwing me off

Justkeep you say Valentine's is about 'Romantic love' - well that's just YOUR opinion. Many folks on here clearly have a different view and celebrate the day in all sorts of different ways. Like many festivals St Valentine's Day has evolved over 100s of years and has many many different variations and traditions all over the world.

Eww, definite undertones of ‘sexy baby’

@TheSpiral

If it is just about familial love, a/ would you put a boy baby in that? And b/ why is is daddy not mummy?

Exactly this. It's tacky and cringey. I hate the whole "daddy daughter" pretend romance thing. And the weird trend for daddy daughter "dates". Yuk!

@DuvetHugger

Urgh, people are so miserable

Aren’t they?

The only thing that bothers me about Daddy dates is that when I do the same thing, as a woman I'm just looking after my kids. He doesn't get special status on looking after them because he has a penis.

Why does everything have to be turned into something sexual? Daddy is the first man to love her and will never stop loving her. I got home made valentine cards from my kids. They made them at school. I never for one moment read anything sinister in it!!!

Holy Elektra complex, Batman!

No its fine. personal taste really. I always got a card from my dad on valentines as a child and I always treat dd to gifts on that day too.

I don't particularly like Valentines day a a romantic thing. Why wait. Why not all the other days of the year to show appreciation or whatever.

I'm also reminded of the st valentines day masacare. In the end you spend the 14th the way you want to.