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In blocking and ignoring friend of 20+ years

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shas19 · 04/01/2022 12:26

We've grown up together since primary school, she was there when my son was born and pretty much speak everyday. Now in 2018 when I was 35 weeks pregnant with my dd, in slow labour and it had snowed heavily where we live it was her sons 2nd birthday. Unfortunately I couldn't make his party, 1st reason being slow labour=very uncomfortable and 2nd would of meant getting a taxi and walking down a big flight of stairs in ice and snow. She went absolutely mental, sending paragraphs and voice notes about how much of a bad friend I am and said some nasty stuff. She was in a bad relationship at the time and I basically spent everyday with her, bought her food shopping and nappies when she had no money, looked after her son etc, stuff that a friend does to help. We didn't speak for around 3months. Got back talking and everything was okay. She's since had two other children and moved around 40mins away we speak on the phone almost daily, I call her. I've been up to visit and whenever she visits her family local to me I go round to see her and so the kids can play, she doesn't come to my house. I'm now currently 38 weeks pregnant and it hasn't been an easy pregnancy and we've kept alot of stuff quiet, and I'm not one for sharing everything on social media, she is. Here's is the new issue she has, I didn't send a happy new year text or go on fb to wish it... neither did she to me. It makes me cringe writing that this is what she's absolutely gone off her rocker about. I'm not one for big Facebook status gushing about friends, family and all that but she's the complete opposite and posts everhthing. She messaged saying 'happy new year to you to!' At the time she messaged I was in hospital for high blood pressure so just ignored and would of dealt with it later. No she had other ideas and in comes a barrage of abuse telling to to delete her fucking number, I'm a shit friend, I'm ignoring her, she's sick of my shit...you get the drift. I simply replied I'm in hospital will talk about later. Not good enough for her, the screaming voice notes start and everything is about how hard done by she is because I didn't bother to send a message, and that she hasn't heard from me. Then the icing on the cake was that I was lying about being in hospital because I didn't let her know I was there and how dare I not tell her. I told her she's ridiculous and you can't argue with an idiot so I simply blocked her. She's took to deleting me off of all social media, how will I survive🙄. She apparently suffers with 'split personality disorder and severe depression' but alot of stuff she says about being diagnosed doesn't add up but whatever not my business, but whenever she has these outbursts she blames her mental health. If you've got this far well done, I'm tired writing about this nonsense! I just feel like I have to complete wash my hands now of it as it feels like she lives for an argument, not just with me but absolutely everyone and its draining me.

OP posts:
tricksyt · 07/01/2022 10:24

She sounds like she loves the drama.

ChaToilLeam · 07/01/2022 10:27

Just be done with her. She sounds awful.

LittleOwl153 · 07/01/2022 10:30

You clearly didn't block her on enough ways of contact OP. Don't bother responding a d make sure your blocks are more thorough!!

shas19 · 07/01/2022 10:35

She's now just text me saying to stop being stupid and she was having a bad day... can't write this shit😑🤣

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BrimfulOfBaba · 07/01/2022 11:31

What a cheek. Her having a bad day doesn't mean she's allowed to take it out on you like that. Utter selfishness.

Theunamedcat · 07/01/2022 11:36

Ummm she blocked you how are you being stupid? Tell her to go forth and multiply

AryaStarkWolf · 07/01/2022 11:50

@shas19

She's now just text me saying to stop being stupid and she was having a bad day... can't write this shit😑🤣
Ignore! Sounds like you get nothing but hassle and abuse from that relationship anyway!
FireworkParrot · 07/01/2022 12:00

I personally would just tell her you're done. You can't deal with her outbursts anymore and her accusing you of lying about being in hospital with your baby was the final straw. Best of luck with everything but not to contact you again. Then block on everything, block her phone number, don't engage and move on with your life.

Ohfortheloveofgodwhatnow · 07/01/2022 12:16

Ugh she sounds exhausting!
I felt stressed just reading it Confused
Cut her loose and enjoy the calm.
You don’t need this shit op.

BooksAndGin · 07/01/2022 12:21

I hope you replied telling her to F off. Bad day is no excuse for her abusive behaviour neither is mental health.
Just block her and be done with her, but first tell her why. Grin

IncompleteSenten · 08/01/2022 20:12

Just block her. She's not worth it.

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