[quote GrannytoaUnicorn]@StationaryMagpie Shit. My child has ASD and though not at the EHCP stage yet, now I'm scared. I def don't have the personality or confidence to fight like that with my child's school :( The teacher & headteacher are incredibly intimidating and I suffer major anxiety. They do NOT take well to any form of criticism; be in constructive or otherwise!
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I didn't think i would either, but i think i got to the point that i got angry with DS just being so mistreated by the school.. there's only so many times you can arrive at school to a small boy in full meltdown because he's just SO overwhelmed before you realise that something has to be done.
I never did well in face to face meetings, i suffer with very bad anxiety, and the HT was a big, scary bloke tbh, but i knew how to write a blistering letter.. and i had the help of friends who'd been there, i also used the resources of IPSEA and SENDIASS... and i had the right of the equality act behind me, which is VERY specific in how disability and reasonable adjustment should be handled... and i just dug my heels in.
Looking back, i don't know how i did it, but i found the strength from somewhere.. i guess as much as i dislike the phrase i went very much mamabear for DS, and i don't regret it, because 5/6 years on, he's thriving in the right educational setting, and i don't very often have to pull out the arse-kicking letters.
The main thing to remember for any of us who have to go into battle, is know your rights, and take advantage of the support out there (and here on MN).. because as long as you have the right of the law behind you, you can keep pushing, keep writing letters, keep escalating, and get where you need to be.