Wrote this out once and it was wayyy too long so I've deleted and will try again to make it shorter! Have NC as it is very outing.
Me and my DSis get on brilliantly when we are on our own (majority of the time). We are both late 30s but have had very different lives so far. I went to uni, met my hubby, had my DCs (after a lot of fertility treatment) and am now retraining in a different field now my DC are a bit older. DSis had her first DC my niece at 16 and went on to have 2 more in quite quick succession. Unfortunately the relationships never worked out so she is now a single mom and is unable to work due to one of the DC having some issues.
Like I said we get on brilliantly and spend a lot of time together as we live in the same time. Although we get on well it's important to mention that she has a very volatile personality. She can go from being your best friend and the loveliest person you will meet to screaming insults in your face, throwing furniture ect in the space of 5 seconds. It's something all the family have dealt with forever and we just decide to make sure we try not to say anything that will upset her as it's not worth the aggro when she kicks off.
We all get together for big family days quite often as we all live so close. This is where my issue comes in. I don't know if I am just being very over sensitive and should grow up or whether I'm justified in feeling hurt.
Every single time we all get together I become the butt of all her jokes/comments. For example we were playing a game on Christmas Day (adults and DC's) and as soon as she opens the box she starts with comments like "oh god no one pair up with her, she cheats or will be awful if she doesn't win!" To which I just laugh it off. These comments continue every time I have a turn. To the point her children also then start joining in with the comments and laughing. Then I started to say in a different conversation that I was feeling a bit stressed about the holidays ending as I have some big deadlines coming up. She instantly starts laughing and saying comments like "god you just can't handle any stress can you, your always moaning, you don't know what a hard days work is like" ect.
If I do ever take the bait and comment back which I did in this instance I just said "come back to me when your in the same situation" she then starts cheering and saying "ooohh look we've hit a nerve, don't ever say anything to her or she will cry" ect.
This happens every time we are in front of other family members. It's like she is desperate to put me down in front of others and she wants to constantly be the centre of attention. I come out every time feeling hurt and wound up. My DM has often mentioned that she thinks my DSis is jealous of me because her life didn't turn out the way she wanted it and she thinks mine did (trust me my life is nothing to be jealous of, my marriage is on the rocks, we struggled to have our children and because I'm retraining we are in constant worrying debt, but that's a whole other thread!). I'm just sick of being made to feel bad because we didn't make the same choices in life.
Sorry for the super long post!! Please tell me if I just need to grow up and ignore or if I'm right to feel upset.