Dh’s language

[Tangletester]

I’m honestly not sure if I’m being unreasonable or not. Over the last couple of years my DH has changed the way he speaks, using language he would normally use at work and I find it really irritating.

Something is no longer just difficult, it provides us with a challenge. Instead of the taxi possibly being late they might not be time reliable. There is not a lot of point in me going back to work as ‘you can’t earn enough to change the dial’. So many more.

I have discussed this with DH he thinks I’m unreasonable and this is a normal way to speak.

AIBU??

Tell him you’ll change his dial if you doesn’t want you to work! Dial is your face where I live, as in ‘aw straighten your dial!’

Does he have quick wins? And does ring fence things? 🤢

@timeisnotaline Dh I think we need to revisit the question of my working. I appreciate you think it’s low return but I’ve taken that on board and still think it’s the best way to add stability and it is the obvious low hanging fruit to increase our earnings velocity. So I’ve applied for 3 jobs, will let you know. Obviously we will need to recalibrate the home workstream between us, but we can circle back to that once I’ve had a progress update on the job front.

Love it!!!

Definitely go back to work OP. It's not about moving the dial, it's about keeping you employable and giving you an independent source of income.

Omg I have a cringe memory of office language usage at home, proclaiming to ex dh we needed to readdress our finances. Mortified.
He did it though. (I was paying for everything). We got divorced a while later.

I’m a member of a ladies social group. We were having an informal meeting where we discuss the state of the organisation’s accounts. This is in a pub after a relaxed, sociable meal.
One of the women (a head of year teacher, I think) hadn’t seen an email there was discussion about. She told the room ‘I haven’t had a visual on that’.

This is something I always say with my DH now - it was so ridiculous and out of place and she was so full of importance saying her bit in the meeting! 🤣

Is he Gus Hedges?

@Nancydrawn

There is not a lot of point in me going back to work as ‘you can’t earn enough to change the dial’.

Um, could you elaborate on this? Because it seems way worse than run-of-the-mill dickhead language.

Agreed. Sounds like the corporate speak is a symptom of him thinking he’s the boss of you. Fuck that for a laugh.

My dp always says the 'piece' thing. I haven't heard it elsewhere though, thought it was just him. Hate it though.. Don't know why, it's just weird and grates.

@LactoseTheIntolerant

Does he work for a paper company in Slough?

🤣🤣

I used to work for a bank and the MD and his cronies used to say “I’m cognisant of that...” instead of a simple “yes I know...” even in an informal conversation.

Some of these words and phrases people are suggesting don't even make sense. They're not 'corporate' - they're just 'twat'.

I really wasn’t expecting so many replies. I’m so glad it’s not just me! He really thinks this is a normal way to speak so I wasn’t sure if it was me being unreasonable. It was the taxi perhaps not bring time reliable last night that finished me off.

Also, I am back at work. The money is shit, but it does make a difference (to me) and like a pp said makes me more employable in the future.

Some of these posts really made me laugh, excellent suggestions

@BlubFestival yes he’s been working from home and had a promotion I think about 3 years ago.

I've got a patio that is just about to be re-flagged OP.

Loads of space under there.

@Vapeyvapevape

Everyone in my office says 'reach out' it irritates the shit out of me. As the saying goes, the only people that should Reach Out are the Four Tops .

Reaching out is the worst! There was a thread on here recently where the OP said it 4 or 5 times in her first post.

Should I reach out to him? No, you should contact / call / message him. It just sounds desperate. I can’t remember what the issue was now, but I’d lost all sympathy by the end of that first post.

Your examples were: funny annoying, funny annoying, red flag!! There's a lot more to working than 'changing the dial'