My ex got in touch with me out of the blue a few weeks back. We were together for ten years and lived together for eight.
When we broke up it was very fraught and we ended up not speaking until last year when we spoke again. We ended up having sex a few times but I feel he used me during that time.
I told him I felt used and he took offence and blocked me. All fine by me.
Then a few weeks ago he unblocked me. When we were still living together, he came home very inebriated one night and told me he was gay. It was the early hours, we were separated by that point and I told him I'd always support him but to go to bed and we'd talk about when he sobered up. He wasn't upset, he just said it matter of factly.
After that, things went downhill, he was treating and speaking to me badly, going out every night and we didn't get to spend time together so it was never mentioned again.
Since our break up a few years ago he hasn't dated anyone else as far as i'm aware.
Last night we were texting. He was drunk again and he was talking about a friend who I've met and how they were going on a break soon which they do every few weeks (both earn a fair amount). His very close friends, who I still speak to sometimes have all said he's gay. I then said that he and this friend spend a lot of time together (every night to be exact), frequent gay venues together, and I asked if he is gay. He went off on one at me so I said I just wanted to offer support if he was and that's why I was asking. It's always something I've wondered about since.
He's gone mad and I guess that's that again, no more communication for us, but was I unreasonable to bring it up?