AIBU to send my DH to boarding school?

[Queryingone]

DH is nearly old enough. I think he’ll be able to cope. He is so enamoured by the prospect of sending our kids - I’m hoping that it makes the most sense. Then they can stay with me. Apparently he can come home on a Saturday night.

Lol, yes if he’s so keen send him off and enjoy having your babies around!

😅🤣😂

Nah, he needs full boarding with you living the other side of the world.

Good plan.
Can I send mine too? No need for him to come home on Saturdays though.

I’d divorce my husband for even contemplating it. That’s such a fundamental difference in values I couldn’t get past it.

Where do I sign up, would like to send mine also 🤣🤣

😂 Yes, send him.

But more seriously: don't rule it out for your children at 13+, unless you have a really good reason to reject it.

l used to get homesick staying at my friends house dead opposite ours, her older brother used to have to bring me back, across the road, oh even now at the age of 53, the thought of having to go to boarding school makes me feel ill.

He can label his own clothes though.

Sounds good. Will they take mine too?

@BoardingSchoolMater

😂 Yes, send him.

But more seriously: don't rule it out for your children at 13+, unless you have a really good reason to reject it.

Or a really good reason to consider it

My dd chose to go at 16 and loved it

Your 16 year old wanted to leave home?

MiddleParking, you’re completely right! It’s super fundamental! I just never thought these rumblings would come to anything and now here we are. I take my share of blame for this. I’m pretty sure he’ll be happy to go if his tuck box includes some nice bottles of red. Matron seems nice. He likes sport and has been saying he wants to get fit.

Be careful. He might become more independent earlier than you would like.

He will be fine
If he misses you all he will be allowed a brief phone call

Hoppinggreen, that’s what I told him when he got a bit teary about missing the dog. I’ve paid the deposit now so there’s no backing out!

Can mine come?

Apparently, they will love being with their friends so much that they won't always want to come home during the weekends.

Sounds like a plan. Can I send mine too? 😂

Forget DH, I want to go.

Can you send me? It always seemed so much fun in books when I was a kid, I could be the next Elizabeth Allen. Or Katy Carr. Or Hermione Granger.

I'm sure they'll be happy to overlook the fact that I'm a middle aged mum.

I am now re-thinking Malory Towers, 2022 version and I think this could have legs. Sorry do not have a DH to contribute.

@willstarttomorrow

I am now re-thinking Malory Towers, 2022 version and I think this could have legs. Sorry do not have a DH to contribute.

get one on ebay?

Boarding school is probably great if you’re a popular sociable type but for so many kids it fucks them up really badly. The number of people I have heard say that they have been traumatised by it. The ones I know who loved it seem quite emotionally stunted to an outsider - eg they are very jovial and pleasant but can’t handle difficult emotional situations. For me it would have been horrible. I was an undiagnosed autistic kid who found socialising a struggle and seemed to attract bullies. Thank god that was never on the cards for me and I could escape home after school.