Settle an absurdly heated family dispute for me!

[sadpapercourtesan]

My 19yo son insists that trifle should be eaten with a fork

He's sitting here right now, eating a big bowl of sloppy trifle with a fucking FORK. He rolled his eyes and said "I knew you guys would be weird about this".

It's him, right? He's the weird one. Not the rest of us, who are using spoons.

I’d use spoon and fork, but I’m an American dyspraxic savage who cuts up everything on her plate before using the fork in my right hand. It was common with mill workers, as it let you eat faster. My family of origin ate very fast but tidily.

Dh eats curries with a spoon and it's horrifying to me.

Me too! Infact I eat lots of food in sauces with a spoon. I thought I was the only one!

Curries with a spoon makes sense as the rice grains won't fall through the gaps plus there's more surface area. Forks are narrow so more opportunities for the rice to fall off the sides.

@BruceAndNosh

The defining sound of a trifle is that sucking noise you get as the jelly vacuum seals itself to the spoon, then the Boingggggg as it releases

I’ve noticed classic trifle recipes don’t include jelly, just sponge and fruit - but I do think it is an improvement. I love that sucking noise.

@Thatsplentyjack

Dh eats curries with a spoon and it's horrifying to me.

Me too! Infact I eat lots of food in sauces with a spoon. I thought I was the only one!

Always eat pasta and sauce dishes with a fork and spoon.

Cake forks are for cakes.

Desert spoons are for deserts that are not cake.

If you don't have cake forks that's even worse.

You need to put a rehoming ad in the paper, it is the only way.

Someone will love his strangeness and he will be happier there.

If you don't have cake forks that's even worse.

I don't eat cake, still OK not to have cake forks?

I think I might have to buy him cake forks for his birthday, he'd be genuinely thrilled with them.

I have heard the "no jelly in trifle" heresy before. It bothers me. Who the hell wants to eat bits of wet cake soaked in sherry, when they could be eating lovely happy red jelly?!

Next you'll be telling me you don't put hundreds and thousands on the top

@KatherineJaneway

If you don't have cake forks that's even worse.

I don't eat cake, still OK not to have cake forks?

It depends on whether you have a teenage son who does eat cake.

@sadpapercourtesan

I think I might have to buy him cake forks for his birthday, he'd be genuinely thrilled with them.

I have heard the "no jelly in trifle" heresy before. It bothers me. Who the hell wants to eat bits of wet cake soaked in sherry, when they could be eating lovely happy red jelly?!

Next you'll be telling me you don't put hundreds and thousands on the top

Cake spread with jam, doused in sherry, topped with drained fruit (peaches/pears/pineapple), then a thick layer of custard and finally whipped double cream. No hundreds and thousands in sight, perhaps a grating of chocolate if you're feeling fancy

It depends on whether you have a teenage son who does eat cake.

No, no one else here who eats cake

We used to have trifle made with madeira sponge soaked in booze at the bottom, then fruit (generally fruit salad), then jelly to just cover the fruit. When jelly set then a layer of custard and then a layer of whipped cream. Loved it eaten with a spoon...

It has jelly and custard in it! Clearly a job for a massive spoon, never ever a fork.

@sadpapercourtesan

He's a bloody changeling. It's the only explanation. His position remains that the rest of us are peasants.

OMG. I have only just seen this thread. I am so sorry "sad". Obviously you need a spoon otherwise the jelly may fall through the prongs. FGS. Does your child know nothing ? What have you been teaching him all these years ? However if you would like to invite me for trifle I will bring my own spoon 🍨🥄