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Settle an absurdly heated family dispute for me!

164 replies

sadpapercourtesan · 30/12/2021 19:45

My 19yo son insists that trifle should be eaten with a fork Shock

He's sitting here right now, eating a big bowl of sloppy trifle with a fucking FORK. He rolled his eyes and said "I knew you guys would be weird about this".

It's him, right? He's the weird one. Not the rest of us, who are using spoons.

OP posts:
BoredZelda · 30/12/2021 22:12

If you can eat it with a fork, it hasn’t been made right.

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/12/2021 22:24

GreenGreenTreesOfHome

No it wasn't 'obvious' what you meant at all. Obviously.

But now you have made it more clear, why even say that? Was YOUR son not there sharing YOUR trifle at Christmas?

If he wasn't for some reason, that's not the OP's fault, and there is no need to be sanctimonious.“

Nothing sanctimonious in what I said at all. In the grand scheme, it is an incredibly trivial post. Lots of people this Christmas are missing sons at their tables. Some permanently.

You, on the other hand, seem way too cross. Not sure what’s eating you. Hope it’s with a spoon, though.

OmgIThinkILikeYou · 30/12/2021 22:32

I ear all puddings with a fork but I know I'm weird

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/12/2021 22:36

OmgIThinkILikeYou

I ear all puddings with a fork but I know I'm weird”

(On a lighter note). Not weird at all. That’s what pudding forks were invented for. We have a lovely, silver set, handed down. The first prong is twice aswide, for scooping sloppy stuff up.

Offmyfence · 30/12/2021 22:37

@MrsSkylerWhite

GreenGreenTreesOfHome

No it wasn't 'obvious' what you meant at all. Obviously.

But now you have made it more clear, why even say that? Was YOUR son not there sharing YOUR trifle at Christmas?

If he wasn't for some reason, that's not the OP's fault, and there is no need to be sanctimonious.“

Nothing sanctimonious in what I said at all. In the grand scheme, it is an incredibly trivial post. Lots of people this Christmas are missing sons at their tables. Some permanently.

You, on the other hand, seem way too cross. Not sure what’s eating you. Hope it’s with a spoon, though.

Yes some sons won't be at home, some daughters won't be at home, some parents etc!!

But this is a light hearted thread, so please stop derailing it?

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/12/2021 22:49

Ok. Tinkly laugh.

Offmyfence · 30/12/2021 22:53

@MrsSkylerWhite

Ok. Tinkly laugh.
You need to learn how to "quote", "bold" and "tag"!

🙄

Otherwise, we don't know which one of us you're berating!

GreenGreenTreesOfHome · 30/12/2021 23:07

@Offmyfence

Yes some sons won't be at home, some daughters won't be at home, some parents etc!!!

But this is a light hearted thread, so please stop derailing it?

Agree with this. But there's always ONE on every light hearted thread who has to come and stamp all over it. If someone has issues and woes about a particular thing (and @MrsSkylerWhite clearly DOES,) then start another thread about it, and as you said, stop derailing other peoples threads.

Trying to make the OP feel bad about something she hasn't done, and trying to make her feel bad or guilty for light-heartedly complaining about her son is bang out of order..

Pensieve · 30/12/2021 23:15

All kinds of wrong OP but some kids just will not listen (until they have custard all over their face metaphorically speaking). He’ll be stirring coffee with bloody knives next, this is how it starts.

At least it was behind closed doors so you can anonymously relive the moment on MN rather than the shame in real life. 🤭

Womanofcustard · 30/12/2021 23:15

I always eat trifle with a fork. He is right.

ProudThrilledHappy · 30/12/2021 23:18

My ds would probably lift the bowl and slurp it so I would tolerate a fork

OliveHenry · 30/12/2021 23:27

Coincidentally, our longest-running, most acrimonious family argument discussion is about trifle, but ours is the thorny question of whether or not it should contain jelly.

(Answer - no it shouldn't!)

Pensieve · 30/12/2021 23:37

I’m not a trifle eater/maker - what’s at the bottom if it’s not jelly?

KatherineJaneway · 30/12/2021 23:39

@sadpapercourtesan

I'm afraid there are sponge fingers in the jelly Grin I wanted DH to use leftover Victoria Sponge, but he insisted on using the sponge fingers.

DS1 also puts salt on ice cream, btw. He's a wrong-un, isn't he?

Tragedy! Xmas Grin
anotheronenow · 30/12/2021 23:48

So he's 19 now. Can you try explaining to him within the next ten years his DP is going to be on here asking what to do about the dirty, rotten fork-trifle eating sod and will be told LTB.

Does he really want his future relationship going up in smoke like that?

Twinkleylight · 30/12/2021 23:50

Did you drop him on his head as a baby OP because that's the only logical explanation for his unreasonable behaviour.....

Luredbyapomegranate · 30/12/2021 23:50

@Pensieve

I’m not a trifle eater/maker - what’s at the bottom if it’s not jelly?
Dry Sponge fingers, Soaked in Sherry

Trifle is really fucking weird

Twinkleylight · 30/12/2021 23:51

@OliveHenry

Coincidentally, our longest-running, most acrimonious family argument discussion is about trifle, but ours is the thorny question of whether or not it should contain jelly.

(Answer - no it shouldn't!)

You are correct, trifle shouldn't contain jelly.
anotheronenow · 30/12/2021 23:53

And now I want trifle (obviously to eat with a (spoon*). I made an instant pot cheesecake for Christmas and told myself no need to indulge in a trifle as well (but reading this thread it's now clear to be, obviously, there is, if only to make sure my kids understand they're dead to me if they eat it with a fork?)

RicherThanYew · 30/12/2021 23:55

My mil made me a trifle with lime jelly and it was fantastic. I'm not even sorry.

RicherThanYew · 30/12/2021 23:57

Also for those who claim that jelly is forbidden from trifle and only sherry soaked sponge fingers allowed ... my Home Ec teacher told us that slices of Swiss roll soaked in the juice from tinned fruit was also acceptable (she lied).

NoNameHere12 · 30/12/2021 23:59

Forks for desserts all the way!
Your son can come live in this house with us fork eating folk 😂

CactusLemonSpice · 31/12/2021 00:01

You should try it, maybe he knows something you don't?

Yebbie · 31/12/2021 00:08

I hate eating anything that isn't ice cream or cereal off a spoon.

My mum still gets annoyed when I eat a chunky veg soup or a stew with a fork, but I do every time. Fork to scoop up the chunky bits, you get a little bit of liquid on the forky bits and then dunk the bread in to eat the rest.

Hot food and spoons are a no no for me. Grin

Dh eats curries with a spoon and it's horrifying to me.