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How often do you have your phone on you when you're just at home?

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blablablablablablablabla · 30/12/2021 09:29

When out and about and busy, I don't have my phone on me much and can miss calls / messages.

When in the house, I tend to have my phone near by. In the event there should be an important call etc. And just generally

What do you do ? Do you ever just not have your phone on you for the whole day, even if you're at home, doing nothing ?

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whatwasIgoingtosay · 30/12/2021 13:41

This is such a weird thread! It has become competitive and judgemental. FWIW, I never have my phone on and no one ever phones me (not even random health professionals - if they do need to phone, our landline is always answered). I have WhatsApp and FB Messenger and e-mails always to hand on my pc, so I do get plenty of messages and can respond quickly. But you do you with your phone and I don't care!

blablablablablablablabla · 30/12/2021 13:46

@whatwasIgoingtosay

This is such a weird thread! It has become competitive and judgemental. FWIW, I never have my phone on and no one ever phones me (not even random health professionals - if they do need to phone, our landline is always answered). I have WhatsApp and FB Messenger and e-mails always to hand on my pc, so I do get plenty of messages and can respond quickly. But you do you with your phone and I don't care!
So you're contactable in an emergency and don't just go offline for hours / days to your family and friends who may need to reach you in an emergency
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QuestionableMouse · 30/12/2021 13:48

I tend to always have mine on me but I use it a lot - music, finding recipes, kindle, writing so need it close by.

ChrimboGateauxCatto · 30/12/2021 14:01

I have my ringer turned on for Dr's appointments. Aside from that it's permanently on silent. With two callers set as exceptions, DM and DH.

housemaus · 30/12/2021 14:02

I nearly always have my phone to hand.

Not for the reason of being "contactable in an emergency and don't just go offline for hours / days to your family and friends who may need to reach you in an emergency", though - that seems like anxiety talking? How often are you having emergencies? Why would your phone being in a bag in the house mean 'being offline for hours/days'?

I spend far too much time on my phone, my screentime is horrendous, and I err on the side of 'Why the fuck does my mum have a phone that she only answers once a week' - in theory, I think having your phone nearbyish is a good thing. But being seemingly quite horrified that people don't have their phone in hand ready to spring into action for all the emergencies that might be taking place seems very odd at best and an anxiety-driven thing at worst.

Thinking you can control the outcome of bad situations if you control everything else around you is classic anxiety - and unless you're a medical professional or have a private helicopter, you knowing there's an emergency happening now or in 30 minutes' time is probably not going to make a difference, so having your phone immediately nearby and on loud isn't going to change much.

Ilaat · 30/12/2021 14:35

Mine is on me 24/7, but the majority of time it's in airport mode with just the WiFi on to use apps.

WrigglyDonCat · 30/12/2021 14:38

Another always on silent type here unless expecting a call about something. I really only have it for work and away from work have no intention of being available all hours for my clients (and during work I can't call or text anyway - driving instructor...). They can text or email and I'll reply at my leisure. I'm a big fan of asynchronous communication methods.

Family know my landline and email addresses (although I'm very often out and about when not at work, so often wouldn't get those comms immediately). In 29 years since leaving school, I don't think I've ever received an 'emergency' call, so don't worry about missing them...

When I have a few days off, I often realise towards the end that I haven't looked at my phone for 3 or 4 days. Although technically a smartphone, it's about 7 or 8 years old now, and has never been used online and couldn't cope with most modern apps. Don't get a chance during the day, and at home have multiple computers with big screens and real keyboards that make life so much simpler.

As a young postgrad I often spent weeks at a time in remote corners of the Earth, out of communication, so got very used to the idea of not needing to hear from, or speak to, people often.

zingally · 30/12/2021 14:53

I'd say there is a LOT more reason to have your phone with you when out and about.

When I'm at home, my phone is usually within a couple of steps of me, most of the time. Certainly close enough to get messages/not miss calls.

TheCatShatInTheHat · 30/12/2021 15:37

It's with me 24/7. Even if I go downstairs to get a drink I take it with me as I'm more than likely listening to a book.

I don't use it at work but check it regularly. I hardly ever use it to make actually phone calls, it's usually used as a convent small laptop/tablet.

liveforsummer · 30/12/2021 15:39

When I'm out it's in my pocket, at how it's usually abandoned on charge but if I remember to put it off silent then I'd hear it ring. Not had any emergencies to know how long it would take me to discover id missed the call. I spend more time than I should browsing on the thing when I'm sitting down though so likely not long

liveforsummer · 30/12/2021 15:46

Fwiw I'm on my phone now but I've just ignored the phone call I received as I can't be bothered talking to anyone. Im on it a lot so not a superior under user in any way but at a time that's convenient to me and if im busy I don't keep checking it.

Woodlandwater · 30/12/2021 15:48

I lose my phone on an hourly basis

purplecorkheart · 30/12/2021 15:53

I have my phone nearby all the time (allowed phone at work). I have elderly parents in poor health and the emergency contact next of kin of an elderly frail family friend. I have been at the other side of the table trying to contact people's family members in a medical emergency and struggled to do so as their phones were upstairs/in car/not charged.

lljkk · 30/12/2021 16:14

Generally off unless I am expecting a call, in house or outside.

I wonder why that't different from ppl who don't answer door unless expecting someone.

Haxeri · 30/12/2021 16:16

Always on me, I have a screen addiction.

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