To not want cards 'from' my child?

[McNuggetsAndMcFlurries]

We were given Mummy and Daddy cards for Christmas from my boyfriends side of the family and it's made me feel uncomfortable. I bought a card to us from my baby and printed his hand and footprints in it as a nice keepsake but I never expected to receive cards from other people written out 'from him'. I want this to be a thing that me and my boyfriend do with my child to each other not something to be faked by others...
What do you think? 🤔

@MajorCarolDanvers

I bought a card to us from my baby and printed his hand and footprints in it as a nice keepsake

That is just as odd.

Why don't you all wait until the child is actually old enough to know what a card is and make it themselves.

Exactly.

Getting a card to give it to yourself?

Throw the cards in recycling, problem solved.

@1stTimeMama

If my Mum didn't get me Mummy cards when my children were babies, I'd never have got one. The only reason I have Mothers Day and birthday cards is because she got them. My husband doesn't do cards, so I'm grateful to her. d I think it was a nice gesture.

But did she do that as she knew your husband wouldn't?

I agree OP, it's a bit weird. I wouldn't even think of sending a card from a child who isn't mine, to their parent - unless I know the parent won't get one otherwise.

My parents used to buy cards from my DS when I was a single parent. A couple of years after meeting my now DH he took over the card buying. It would then seem strange to have him organise one, and my parents too

Bit weird but they mean well, not something I would get concerned about

It is a bi cringe but must come from a helpful place

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat

Ah I'm a childminder and I make cards with the children to send to their families. Never realised it was so weird!

That's not the same. You wouldn't buy a card and write it as if you were the child. Parents love cards that have been made by their child. They make them at nursery and school too.

I think it's thoughtful. Unless there's reason to believe they've done it maliciously (they're narcs or you have a bad relationship with them) I'd just let them carry on. I'm also a big believer of picking your battles. Is it worth bringing up and potentially hurting their feelings for something they've done trying to be nice? When you could just say thank you, bin it and think nothing more.

Weird and tacky, as is sending yourself a fake card from your own baby.

What did the card say? There may be some lovely insights from the grandparents in those cards.

I would take them as a nice gesture rather than getting all territorial about the right to be the only one to fake your baby cards.

It will be a one off anyway

You're all weird. HTH.