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To not want cards 'from' my child?

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McNuggetsAndMcFlurries · 30/12/2021 00:11

We were given Mummy and Daddy cards for Christmas from my boyfriends side of the family and it's made me feel uncomfortable. I bought a card to us from my baby and printed his hand and footprints in it as a nice keepsake but I never expected to receive cards from other people written out 'from him'. I want this to be a thing that me and my boyfriend do with my child to each other not something to be faked by others...
What do you think? 🤔

OP posts:
JustLikeaJingleBell · 30/12/2021 00:52

It's weird but coming from a good place

KimikosNightmare · 30/12/2021 01:04

@HeddaGarbled

I bought a card to us from my baby and printed his hand and footprints in it as a nice keepsake

That’s weirder, IMO, but if it makes you happy, that’s fine.

What’s not fine is criticising family for being equally daft, when it was clearly meant kindly.

Agreed. Both are weird.
KimikosNightmare · 30/12/2021 01:06

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

I bought a card to us from my baby and printed his hand and footprints in it as a nice keepsake

That’s weirder, IMO, but if it makes you happy, that’s fine.

Why on earth is that weird? The baby can't yet tell you (or even fully rationalise) how much you mean to them, so why ever not a way of 'signing' that they can do (with a little help)?

And what's all this talk about 'faking' cards from your baby? It's not fakery - just interpreting the love/bond that your baby has with you, but cannot yet put into words.

I would personally expect it to be something that the parents do for each other 'on behalf of' their baby, though - it seems a bit odd for anybody else to do it.

No- still weird.
Cherrytart23 · 30/12/2021 01:09

How is it faked by others but not if you fo it yourself either way baby never done any.
It's a lovely thought maybe they didn't realise mum had to buy her own mummy/daddy card and write it for it to be real 🤔

1stTimeMama · 30/12/2021 01:14

If my Mum didn't get me Mummy cards when my children were babies, I'd never have got one. The only reason I have Mothers Day and birthday cards is because she got them. My husband doesn't do cards, so I'm grateful to her. d
I think it was a nice gesture.

ThatNameAgainItsMrPlow · 30/12/2021 01:17

Oh we’re going to see some good future “MIL is such an overstepping bitch” threads from you in years to come.
Imagine the audacity of sending you a card to acknowledge they recognise you and treasure you as part of their family!?

catpisscrazy · 30/12/2021 01:29

Babe, your family are weird, see people on Mumsnet agree your family think you're incompetent stop seeing them they're not allowed to see my baby, that bitch mil sending me a card "from" my baby precious first born x eternity fucking spew yaaawwnnn.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 30/12/2021 03:53

I think it's odd for other family members to do it if the baby has 2 parents around

Don't think it's weird for parents to do it though. Do people not buy father/mothers day cards to give from the baby? Do you just not get one until the child is old enough to do it themselves?

Chasingaftermidnight · 30/12/2021 04:20

I think that’s quite sweet and it was kindly meant. They just wanted to acknowledge that this is your first Christmas as parents surely?

Pixxie7 · 30/12/2021 05:00

I think Christmas cards are gradually going, to me possibly because I hate writing them, are a waste of time. Fair enough for close families members otherwise they are meaningless. Almost like a trophy as to look how popular I am.

HappyMeal564 · 30/12/2021 05:14

They were being kind. Let them in, it's much harder without a village to help you

Muthalucka · 30/12/2021 05:32

PFB

NatashaBedwouldbenice · 30/12/2021 05:37

Just showed him this and he didn't look too impressed 🤣

Why would you do that??

WhatToDo1988 · 30/12/2021 06:45

They tried to do something sweet. It's nothing weirder and more cringy than what you did. The only thing weirder that I can think of is pregnant women who do a cast of their pregnant stomach. Why, just why??

girlmom21 · 30/12/2021 07:00

Yeah it's weird that they gave you cards from the baby. That's something parents (at most) should do. But it's not worth getting upset over.

Livelovebehappy · 30/12/2021 07:11

It wasn’t meant maliciously. Maybe a slightly odd thing to do, but it was well intentioned, and nothing to get your knickers in a twist about.

HeronLanyon · 30/12/2021 07:21

As someone whose cat once sent a card to a cat across the street (and she sent one back) this sounds like a silly idea which seemed fun but is actually a bit odd never heard of it before. Blimey you could end up with a load of tat from your own baby !?

LesterKnopf · 30/12/2021 08:14

I would think it's a bit odd and unnecessary for them to do it, but ultimately not worth upsetting anyone by saying something. Just smile, nod, say thank you then put it in the recycling.

starfishofbethlehem · 30/12/2021 08:25

I'd think I was weird too. It's something the other parent would normally do. However like a pp I probably wouldn't make a fuss about it.

saraclara · 30/12/2021 08:29

I'd think it odd, and not really their place.
I'm sure it's kindly meant, but I'd prefer that they didn't.

twominutesmore · 30/12/2021 08:30

I think it's weird that you sent a card to yourselves, and weird that they sent one to you both too. But presumably both weird actions done with kind intentions so am
not sure why you are so discombobulated by the latter.

toomuchlaundry · 30/12/2021 08:39

Are you quite young parents? Calling your other half boyfriend not partner, especially when you have had a child together.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/12/2021 08:43

Ah I'm a childminder and I make cards with the children to send to their families. Never realised it was so weird!

Bluntness100 · 30/12/2021 08:45

Are you very young op? How old are you and your boyfriend?

TinyLittlePandaSneeze · 30/12/2021 08:46

Well meant but odd