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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be annoyed at my covidiot family?

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thenewduchessoflapland · 29/12/2021 20:54

Was told during a phone call with my mum earlier that AIBU.

For context two adult brothers live with my parents and my dads job involves working and moving around our local city centre during the course of the working day and his base place of work is full of key workers.

One of my brothers was in my house on the 23rd and myself,DH&DS were in my parents house on Xmas eve.

We had Covid in the house in July and my two DD's have continuously had problems with their chests since;they've both been ill recently with issues with chest infections.A fact my family is aware of.

One brother developed Covid symptoms on Boxing Day;did a LFT on the day;tested positive did a PCR test the next day and got a positive result yesterday.My other brother tested positive on a LFT yesterday and has had a PCR test today.

I only know about this as my brother told my DS via WhatsApp last night.At no point has my mum thought to call me to let me as we've been in close contact with them even though she knows her granddaughter's are vulnerable at the moment.

Not only that but both of parents are refusing to get tested;they won't even have a LFT;I'm fuming 😡

My mums excuses are "We've had 3 jabs we can't get it (erm yes you can),"We don't feel like we have Covid (you can be asymptomatic) "We don't like having those swabs shoved up our noses and throats".

So now they both (especially my dad) could be merrily spreading Covid to so many unsuspecting people who could take it home to their families.

I'm not surprised at their attitudes;they've both always been very self centred;we had Covid twice this year and at no point did they bother to check if we were okay or offer any help such as picking up groceries although ironically if they were all isolating I'd be expected to help them.

I've also had to listen to my mum spouting off Covid conspiracy theories such as the government are using Covid to control people and she won't wear a mask as she's disabled according to her this makes her exempt;she has mobility issues with her knee so absolutely nothing to do with breathing/chest issue etc she's just being awkward.

I'm honestly at a loss here;I told my mum that they were being very careless earlier and that they shouldn't be potentially putting others in danger of getting Covid by not getting tested and she got really shitty with me.

Anyway I've taken my household to be PCR tested this morning at the local walk in testing centre as a precaution;I'd rather not be spreading Covid if we've picked it up from my family.

OP posts:

junebirthdaygirl · 29/12/2021 21:27

Well is it still allowed in the UK that if you're vaccinated you don't have to isolate? So your dad is fine to go to work.
I think at the moment there is so much Covid we can't afford to blame anyone as it could be us tomorrow. My young adult dc are home here at the moment and every minute it's a message saying someone else has Covid.
I wouldn't get too stressed about it. And l say this as someone who got Covid in September and is still recovering.

bakebeans · 29/12/2021 21:34

If they had no symptoms, they may still get a negative PCR. Son tested positive last week (both of us are double jabbed and booster) and PCR positive. So I did a lateral flow which was negative but I took a PCR anyway and was also negative. 24 hours later I have a positive lateral flow so then book another PCR which then also comes back positive! There is no legal requirement to get a PCR but a legal requirement to isolate

sweeneytoddsrazor · 29/12/2021 21:35

I thought it was close contact from when you started showing symptoms that need to be isolating?

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thenewduchessoflapland · 29/12/2021 21:49

@sweeneytoddsrazor

I thought it was close contact from when you started showing symptoms that need to be isolating?

I thought that too?

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Changemaname1 · 29/12/2021 21:51

No you don’t need to isolate as a contact ( England ) should be doing daily lateral flows tho if they can get them anyway

GivenchyDahhling · 29/12/2021 21:58

YABU to use the phrase “covidiots”.

Gin4thewin4 · 29/12/2021 22:03

Just let people live their lives?

MolkosTeenageAngst · 29/12/2021 22:04

Surely the onus was on your brothers to call you to let you know they had tested positive and not on your Mum? On receiving positive PCRs your brothers should have informed you but I don’t see how it’s your Mum’s fault they didn’t?

In terms of your parents the guidelines in England are that close contacts don’t have to isolate so long as they’re jabbed. Ideally they should be taking daily LFTs but to be honest there are such shortages at the moment that’s probably easier said than done.

SituationCritical · 29/12/2021 22:07

@GivenchyDahhling

YABU to use the phrase “covidiots”.

This. If there is one word that needs to be banned forever its bloody "covidiot". Reminds me of a Daily Mail strapline. Aside from that, hopefully your DD will be ok and negative. I would avoid meeting up indoors with your family if you don't see eye to eye on covid and have vulnerable children.

MrsBerthaRochester · 29/12/2021 22:11

Whats the point of the vaccines if we all have to cower at home in fear? You access your own risk and live your life accordingly but stop dictating others who choose to do differently.

Unsure33 · 29/12/2021 22:17

@MrsBerthaRochester

Whats the point of the vaccines if we all have to cower at home in fear? You access your own risk and live your life accordingly but stop dictating others who choose to do differently.

Did you not read the bit that her dad works with key workers ?

She only asking them to test and let people know .

It’s old fashioned good manners .

MrsBerthaRochester · 30/12/2021 02:22

Ket workers will be tested regularly. People need to mind their own and stop fearing a mild illness with a near 99% survival rate.

Marianne1234 · 30/12/2021 02:26

Covidiot 2020 wants it’s patter back.

ilovesooty · 30/12/2021 03:22

I'm sick of hearing responsibility towards others in terms of potential transmission sneered at as "cowering at home".

Topseyt · 30/12/2021 04:02

The term "covidiot" makes me want to scream, it's so horrendous.

A good New Year's resolution would be to ban it for 2022.

Anyway, let people live their lives and stop fussing.

Flaxmeadow · 30/12/2021 04:20

'Covidiot' is such a great play on words. I remember the first time I saw it in print and laughed my head off.

It was a nice touch of humour in the scary early days of the pandemic. We should erect a huge statue in its honour

AngeloMysterioso · 30/12/2021 04:22

@GivenchyDahhling

YABU to use the phrase “covidiots”.

This.

KentuckyCriedFricken · 30/12/2021 05:10

This post almost filled my COVID bingo card.

Covidiots, key workers, fuming, vulnerable, putting people at risk, refusing….

I was just one socially-distanced daily walk away from a full house.

Tinysarah1985 · 30/12/2021 09:21

Urg, people just need to get on with their lives. Covid isn't going anywhere, what is the point of having all the jabs and still wanting people to stay home, constantly test and stay away from everyone?!
If people want to stay at home in their bubble, that's fine let them get on with it. If people want to get back to normal, that's fine let them get on with it

Orchidflower1 · 30/12/2021 09:26

I agree with you @thenewduchessoflapland your family are irresponsible. That won’t change though so I’d just literally and figuratively keep my distance from them.

SlashBeef · 30/12/2021 09:28

Are we really still using the word covidiot..?

Isabel2021 · 30/12/2021 09:31

I understand how annoying this must be. My eldest caught covid Xmas week! I believe from my HB who also selfishly still travelled into work and didn't do the LGT properly. Well it has prompted her to finally book the jab thank goodness because she was also very anti vaccine previously. I and the rest of the family self isolated and had to make do with a large chicken for Xmas meal due to isolating. Had covid twice this year 2nd time was awful and personally feel if there's a risk of having it you should isolate. Btw no one else caught covid despite my daughter who's unvaccinated catching it. Phew

JohnSmithDrive · 30/12/2021 09:33

Your parents should be testing regularly, if they are close contacts, but your dad can still go to work under current rules,indeed, highly likely that he has to go to work.

I can't be doing with people passing go judgement on others' adherence to rules they don't understand themselves. At least check what they are, the information is very easy to find.

Ivchangedmynameforthis · 30/12/2021 09:35

I work with vulnerable people. We had covid in the house in October (literally everyone else apart from me) I did an initial PCR test which was negative but I was exposed everyday and the government and also my employer guidance stated I was fine to go to work which I did. Your DF isn't doing anything wrong

User135644 · 30/12/2021 09:40

I agree with OP but a lot of people are self absorbed.

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