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AIBU?

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To be annoyed at my covidiot family?

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thenewduchessoflapland · 29/12/2021 20:54

Was told during a phone call with my mum earlier that AIBU.

For context two adult brothers live with my parents and my dads job involves working and moving around our local city centre during the course of the working day and his base place of work is full of key workers.

One of my brothers was in my house on the 23rd and myself,DH&DS were in my parents house on Xmas eve.

We had Covid in the house in July and my two DD's have continuously had problems with their chests since;they've both been ill recently with issues with chest infections.A fact my family is aware of.

One brother developed Covid symptoms on Boxing Day;did a LFT on the day;tested positive did a PCR test the next day and got a positive result yesterday.My other brother tested positive on a LFT yesterday and has had a PCR test today.

I only know about this as my brother told my DS via WhatsApp last night.At no point has my mum thought to call me to let me as we've been in close contact with them even though she knows her granddaughter's are vulnerable at the moment.

Not only that but both of parents are refusing to get tested;they won't even have a LFT;I'm fuming 😡

My mums excuses are "We've had 3 jabs we can't get it (erm yes you can),"We don't feel like we have Covid (you can be asymptomatic) "We don't like having those swabs shoved up our noses and throats".

So now they both (especially my dad) could be merrily spreading Covid to so many unsuspecting people who could take it home to their families.

I'm not surprised at their attitudes;they've both always been very self centred;we had Covid twice this year and at no point did they bother to check if we were okay or offer any help such as picking up groceries although ironically if they were all isolating I'd be expected to help them.

I've also had to listen to my mum spouting off Covid conspiracy theories such as the government are using Covid to control people and she won't wear a mask as she's disabled according to her this makes her exempt;she has mobility issues with her knee so absolutely nothing to do with breathing/chest issue etc she's just being awkward.

I'm honestly at a loss here;I told my mum that they were being very careless earlier and that they shouldn't be potentially putting others in danger of getting Covid by not getting tested and she got really shitty with me.

Anyway I've taken my household to be PCR tested this morning at the local walk in testing centre as a precaution;I'd rather not be spreading Covid if we've picked it up from my family.

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Copasetic · 30/12/2021 09:46

@KentuckyCriedFricken gutted for you!

BoredZelda · 30/12/2021 11:39

Whats the point of the vaccines if we all have to cower at home in fear?

I’m going to explain this for the millionth time as people seem unable to grasp a really simple concept.

Right now, the risk is that if numbers continue along the same level as they are, even if hospitalisations don’t rise significantly (and we don’t know that they won’t yet), the sheer number of people falling ill and being off work will cripple vital services be it transport, healthcare, essential retail, supply chain.

When they can’t open schools next week because there are too few teachers available to work, will you wish people had been more careful? When the supermarket has to reduce its hours because of lack of staff, you ok with that? Scotrail had to cancel 100 services yesterday because of covid.

It isn’t about cowering at home, it’s about looking at the numbers right now and taking some really simple precautions like distancing, regular LFT testing and letting people you’ve been in contact with know that you have covid.

But apparently even asking the British public to be sensible is met with horror and a whine that “they didn’t explicitly write it down that I needed to test before I went to that family party”

MrsBerthaRochester · 30/12/2021 14:20

People are testing asymptomatically and then having to isolate. Stop testing when you dont have symptoms. The vast majority of folk will now have had covid and will have anti bodies. Time to get on with it.

FluffyBooBoo · 30/12/2021 14:27

Why is it your mother's job to tell you? Surely it's the responsibility of the person that has or suspects covid?

As for the rest, I don't think it will be long before that's how things will be, that there will be no isolation period, even with a diagnosis. I can see why you are annoyed, but you can't make people do things the way you think or the government says they should be done.

Covidxmas · 30/12/2021 14:51

@MrsBerthaRochester

What irresponsible advice…I’m a scientist and posts like these just stun me. Sheer stupidity.

We all have a responsibility to know our current covid status. Yes, we will all catch it at some point, but we’re still far away from the majority of people having had it. We should test regularly and isolate as necessary, not for our own benefit but so that we aren’t being dicks to other people. You should be testing before seeing vulnerable people at the very least. Jesus Christ.

LampLighter414 · 30/12/2021 15:18

Could be worse you could all have Ligma

tttigress · 30/12/2021 15:23

I hate the phrase Covidiot, it is very othering.

To be honest I think there has been a lot of misinformation on vaccines in the sense that if you just get vaccinated/boosted you are ok. I blame the government/media for this.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 30/12/2021 15:58

@LampLighter414

Could be worse you could all have Ligma

Grow up.

I agree with those asking why it's your mum's responsibility to have told you? They're not legally doing anything wrong going about their day even as a close contact if they're in England. They 100% should be doing LFTs for the 7 days though

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thenewduchessoflapland · 30/12/2021 16:21

Update

My other brothers PCR test was positive.

My dad and his department all had to take LFT's this morning and my dads was positive;he's been sent home from work and told to PCR test.Mum is still refusing to do any testing.

My household are all negative.

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gorseinon · 30/12/2021 16:24

I bet OP your mum thinks Mr Johnson is doing a good job.

Hope your dad is not seriously ill.

BrotherHelp · 30/12/2021 16:27

@BoredZelda

Whats the point of the vaccines if we all have to cower at home in fear?

I’m going to explain this for the millionth time as people seem unable to grasp a really simple concept.

But apparently even asking the British public to be sensible is met with horror and a whine that “they didn’t explicitly write it down that I needed to test before I went to that family party”

This in spades. It’s also when your kid breaks their arm or is in a car crash and hospitals are understaffed and the ambulance takes longer to get there as there aren’t enough people to drive, this is what people don’t understand. Nor that most of the vulnerable aren’t people in nursing homes, they are working age people and also kids.

BrotherHelp · 30/12/2021 16:28

@MrsBerthaRochester

How are people on their third infection of covid, or unable to work if the magic antibodies hang around for life?

Covidxmas · 30/12/2021 16:30

@thenewduchessoflapland

Update

My other brothers PCR test was positive.

My dad and his department all had to take LFT's this morning and my dads was positive;he's been sent home from work and told to PCR test.Mum is still refusing to do any testing.

My household are all negative.

How frustrating for you OP.

Regardless of what the rules are where you are, you’d think she would want to do a LFT. It’s not exactly much of an inconvenience to anyone and it’s morally the right thing to do. Even if she doesn’t make anyone seriously ill, people have made plans and we all deserve to enjoy anything we can right now.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/12/2021 16:38

@SlashBeef

Are we really still using the word covidiot..?

I don’t see why not. 3 x 60 something male siblings near us, all caught it, spent 2-3 weeks each in hospital, and all came out very weak. None of them had been vaccinated because they ‘weren’t sure’. As one of them told me once he was out of hospital, and hobbling around with a stick, he bloody well was ‘sure’ now.

Plus heard from a friend yesterday about an acquaintance of hers who was very noisily proclaiming Covid to be a hoax, etc, while of course refusing the vaccine.
He caught it and was dead 5 days later.

Topseyt · 30/12/2021 17:10

@MrsBerthaRochester

Agreed.

BrotherHelp · 30/12/2021 17:37

@Topseyt and @MrsBerthaRochester so you want all health care staff to stop testing, and to go and work on the kids oncology ward with covid? Or the transplant unit? Or someone’s long awaited hip replacement is delayed because the orthopaedic ward is closed as one of the relatives “knew they didn’t have covid” when they were visiting?

MrsBerthaRochester · 30/12/2021 18:06

Dont be so obtuse.Folk who work in hospital/care homes are testing constantly AND should be triple vaccinated. My own recent experience of a person being in hospital was that there is no or very restricted visiting.
IF omicron is as infectious as they say then it will be RIFE everywhere so you everyone will be positive at some point. So as I said time to get on with it.

Covidxmas · 30/12/2021 18:15

@MrsBerthaRochester

Dont be so obtuse.Folk who work in hospital/care homes are testing constantly AND should be triple vaccinated. My own recent experience of a person being in hospital was that there is no or very restricted visiting. IF omicron is as infectious as they say then it will be RIFE everywhere so you everyone will be positive at some point. So as I said time to get on with it.

It’s definitely not that poster who is being obtuse here @MrsBerthaRochester. Complete lack of critical thinking on your part. At least you got a bed in the hospital when you needed it. If we let omicron rage uncontrolled, you might not get a bed next time. I’m sure you would be equally vocal about that.

TheHamburgler · 30/12/2021 18:17

IF omicron is as infectious as they say then it will be RIFE everywhere so you everyone will be positive at some point. So as I said time to get on with it.
Yes everyone will be infected at some point; but what needs to be avoided is a huge chunk of the population catching it simultaneously.

If lots of hospital or care home employees get it simultaneously, what then?

MrsBerthaRochester · 30/12/2021 18:23

I wasnt the person in hospital. Asymptomatic testing means folk in isolation/off their work who dont need to be! We are ALL either have had it or will get it. Covid is not what is crippling the nhs. Its an aging population and lack of social care.
We were sold the vaccines as a way out of this. So now its clear that may not be quite the case lets just get on with it.

Covidxmas · 30/12/2021 18:26

@MrsBerthaRochester

I wasnt the person in hospital. Asymptomatic testing means folk in isolation/off their work who dont need to be! We are ALL either have had it or will get it. Covid is not what is crippling the nhs. Its an aging population and lack of social care. We were sold the vaccines as a way out of this. So now its clear that may not be quite the case lets just get on with it.

Ah, so you don’t actually mind if there are no beds then… glad we’ve cleared that up. You seem to have some gaping holes in your logic which would be ok if that wasn’t coupled with the arrogance of thinking you know more than experts.

MrsBerthaRochester · 30/12/2021 18:37

The nhs is always overwhelmed at this time of year! Its flu season. Im not in denial about the state of the nhs but blaming it on covid IS nonsense.
Even the media are now admitting that folk are in hospital with other conditions are being wrongly included in.the covid statistics.

Ponoka7 · 30/12/2021 18:43

"My household are all negative."

As you'd expect if you had Covid in July.

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thenewduchessoflapland · 30/12/2021 21:53

@Ponoka7

"My household are all negative."

As you'd expect if you had Covid in July.

Not really;one of my DC's had Covid in January so has had Covid twice this year.By your logic he shouldn't have had it again in July.

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