To wonder at the "Mysteries of my House" with photo ..

[Shouldbeworkingnotreadingtalk]

Feel free to join in with your own mysteries .... I've got several, but I'll kick off with this one:

Mystery One.
How can my DH get the dirty plates to the worktop above the (empty) dishwasher, but not be arsed to open the door and pop them in? .... How? Just how? ... it's a mystery to me...

*incompatible

@lightisnotwhite

I can’t take a photo as too outing but my mystery is the house itself.

How could an architect who has many years of study behind them think a family home ( designed for 2 adults two children) can make do with only one useable sized room downstairs? I have a hallway, downstairs loo, tiny kitchen and living dining room.
There is no space in the kitchen for even a foldable table and stool so everything has to be done in one room. Kids, dogs, guests, work, dining, tv. It’s nuts.
It’s also supposed to be a“home for life” design with a wider hallway and doors in case someone needs a wheelchair at some and has to sleep downstairs.

I feel your pain as my house sounds almost identical to yours - except we don't have a downstairs loo. I am so very bored of living in one room!

I have double doors to know where and also a front door into a brick wall

the double doors I can open but can't step out of as there is a conservatory wall of glass in the way - why didn't the previous owners just attach the conservatory to both sides of the house?

its a mystery to me

@Sunflowersinthewind excellent, as I work with young lads in a hospitality role and they are really confused at work about picking up after others! yes you need to clear the table, put the dirty dishes in the kitchen and relay your section - every single time a guest finishes a course. It comes as a shock to them and they seems to struggle with thinking for themselves. that said the females also struggle at times its not just the lads

Two mysteries here.

First, we have a magic bottom stair. When items are placed on it to be taken upstairs, I’m apparently the only person in the house who can see them. Even baskets piled high with clean washing get stepped over. It’s amazing.

Secondly, the hangers we have are apparently of a highly technical and difficult to operate variety. Which is why the entirety of DD’s floordrobe regularly ends up back in the washing basket, even though most of it is clean, ironed and has simply been ‘tried on’ rather than worn.

It’s like fucking Hogwarts round here.

Eye-rolling at the OTT suggestion that OP should leave her husband because of this. We all do things that annoy the other people we live with. As longs as it's small stuff and we can laugh about it there's no need to catastrophise. It seemed more like that posted was offended that OP had a different dishwasher method. Odd.

I have the same OP. Always put NEAR the dishwasher but not IN. Apart from after dinner where we tend to have a system of whoever cooked gets to relax and the other one tidies the kitchen - then it all gets put IN. However, this often brings a new mystery of how can someone fill a dishwasher as full as it gets but not actually put it ON?

It's not all the time, but I've had enough breakfasts where there are no bowls and I open the dishwasher and it's full of dirty crockery for it to irk me! ( a little, no LTB needed here thanks).

@KatherineofGaunt - my husband must be related to yours!

@Crunchysnap

In my house it’s finished toilet role tubes being left on the bathroom windowsill rather than being placed in the bathroom bin, which is closer to the toilet than the window sill.

Ooh we have this too!

Oh is this one of those hilarious lighthearted mumsnet threads where all the women giggle about how men treat them like crap and expect them to be their servants and clean up after them?

Hah hah hah hah. Hilarious.

OP you husband does that because he expects you to clean up after him and has so little respect for you that he can’t be bothered to spend a half a second opening a dishwasher.

Happened overnight. Mystery to everyone.

@Shouldbeworkingnotreadingtalk this does my head in too!! I frequently shout- the dishwasher does open you know 🙄

@HumourReplacementTherapy yes I know , I probably don't have long to feel smug about it, so I shall relish these times

It's the towel fairy in our house. Apparently she is the only one who can see towels left discarded on the floor in a wet pile.

Sorry, my only contribution @Shouldbeworkingnotreadingtalk is I like your pans! They're a pleasing shape, and very clean and shiny.

Ah @BlueFlavour - at least you can sit at the far end of the sofa and enjoy that view! (Out of the window, not in!! )

@CovidPassQuestion
We all need escape plans

I just really cba. I’ll tidy it, and then it will just magically recreate itself

I'm clearly not seriously suggesting that OP leave her DH. I'm saying she's getting worked up over a misalignment in priorities- DH doesn't care about the unsightly side, and would rather load dishwasher all in one go. OP does care about the unsightly side and would rather he loads as he goes along. Both legitimate methods. But I'm willing to bet DH doesn't go on the Internet griping about this. No big deal? Just on this one issue, OP could be easier to live with

@FFSFFSFFS

Oh is this one of those hilarious lighthearted mumsnet threads where all the women giggle about how men treat them like crap and expect them to be their servants and clean up after them?

Hah hah hah hah. Hilarious.

OP you husband does that because he expects you to clean up after him and has so little respect for you that he can’t be bothered to spend a half a second opening a dishwasher.

@FFSFFSFFS

I agree with you

Grown men leaving their stuff around the house because they're too big and important to do household tasks. Nothing to laugh about

Fwiw my DH does more housework than me. But I probably do more baby care. If I wasn't happy with the balance I'd try to address it (by discussion etc). If it couldn't be fixed after lots of trying, then yeah, that'd be fair enough to leave him for that. No I'm not exaggerating, life is too short for someone who doesn't respect your priorities

DH can do a supermarket shop, cook, wash up, hoover and put a wash on. However he really struggles with:
Hanging his bloody washing (the laundry pixie does it, apparently)
Plumping up sofa cushions
Making the bed.

And I swear, the first Christmas one of the DC hosts us, I plan to leave big piles of chocolate wrappers all over the surfaces (the closer to the bin the better) and then huff and eye-roll when asked to dispose of the them. After about three days of reminders they did get into the swing of it, but seriously ....

I get this, my OH does this too, sometimes in the sink where he puts the clean tea towel for drying too! Absolutely does my head in!

I've learned to ignore the mystery of the dirty dishes, the toilet seat left up, the lid never closed to flush after a poo, the crap (car keys/coins/letters/etc) that magically appear on newly cleaned surfaces, the coats hung over dining room chairs when we have perfectly good coat hooks, the unwashed clothes appearing on the floor overnight, and so on.

Worst of all is the kettle that has to be switched off at the wall whenever DH leaves the house or goes to bed. Why? I've never heard of a kettle spontaneously combusting overnight.

Oh and the naughty pixie who leaves empty toilet rolls on the floor next to the bathroom bin, and nips downstairs to throw tea towels on every work surface in my tiny kitchen.

My DH is the most irritating man on the planet, but I am also the most placid wife. 😂